Recovery/Date Options During Lockdown?

[SMaol]

Hi Girls chase

I met a girl in my first week of moving onto a college campus. I laid her fairly quickly, and, due to various reasons we were unable to meet each other for a while after (2 weeks). In between we stayed in touch, trying to rearrange multiple times until I told her to just let me know when she's got a few hours open. We live very close by, so logistics were not an issue.

She pinged me soon after and came over for a late movie. Conversation flowed. We started kissing- but it didn't lead to sex. Not tonight, she said. It was late so she went home shortly after arriving. 2 weeks of anticipation fell flat. It wasn't awkward, but I can imagine attraction dropped off a fair amount.

The excitement isn't quite there anymore, from me or her.

Now I've read chase's article on botched escalation, though as we've slept together before I'm not sure how much it applies. Its been almost a week since last meet - and we've very recently entered another lockdown.

What would be an ideal move from here?

 

[Tr1cky]

After you banged the first time, who contacted who? Who was more eager to setup the second date?

A few things stand out to me;

" It was late so she went home shortly after arriving" - I understand this could have gone either way but you have to be on the lookout for when a woman is going to put you in a situation that is to your disadvantage. I would never allow a woman to come over if I felt there was going to be a high barrier I had to overcome for it to end in sex. IE its 11:45pm and I know she has to work at 7am the next day. In that situation, especially when the "relationship" is new I would decline her request to come over.

"We started kissing - but it didn't lead to sex. Not tonight, she said." - She feels she is in a position of power, to have the AUDACITY to begin making out and then pull the "not tonight". She's either trying to put you in the boyfriend zone or her respect for you is low enough that she feels comfortable being able to dictate the terms. That alone would be enough for me to never call her again. You will submit to me or this isn't going to work. Not even that BS Redpill "every slight is seen as disrespect BS" - I already know it will be problems down the road if she thinks she can dictate the terms.

I know you likely aren't going to be able to take this advice - so read it now, realize it later - after you've banged a chick once. ACT AS IF IT IS COMPLETELY OUT OF YOUR HANDS. You've done YOUR JOB. there is nothing left for you to do. You are no longer in control of the situation. YOU GOT WHAT YOU WANTED. If is now on HER to keep it going. SHE needs to reach out. SHE needs to setup another meet. SHE needs to push for more time with you. SHE needs to push to develop a relationship. THAT IS HER JOB. If you try and reverse the roles she will recoil and it will blow up in your face.

"What would be an ideal move from here?"- DO NOTHING. If she tries to setup another meet, perfect. meet up. If you never hear from her again? GOOD. Now you have more time to connect with new women.

If you are inclined to go into "well, its a lockdown right now, its hard to meet new women. I have no other choices. yadda yadda yadda." That's letting PUSSY control your life. Be a man. Move on. Work on your other life skills until things return to normal.

 

[SMaol]

Hey, thanks for the response. I'll address a few of your points.

I understand your rationale not to chase. But realistically, you need to do something until you've slept together at least a few times, that's when sex becomes more of a sure thing, and less of a big deal for the girl.

I pushed to meet fairly aggressively with her after the meet, a test of sorts since I usually have the opposite problem of letting things fizzle. Great reception till the scheduling snafu. Maybe posting here makes me look eager. I like to look at it as - how can I address a common issue - with as low stakes as possible. If I walk away without asking, I'll feel I learned nothing. Because doing nothing, for me, comes far too easy.

Anyway, I've not contacted her since it happened. NBD. If I were to, say, bump into her round my block, I'm curious how you would choose to proceed.