Ok, if you are like most of guys here, most likely you got rejected. Once, twice, three times... It hurts, you are depressed, can't stop thinking about her... You are analyzing what did you do wrong, why doesn't she like you... You may find yourself thinking about her after months, perhaps years. Once I heard on the radio a guy who requested song for Love of his Life. He hasn't seen her 20 years but said that he is still thinking about her every single day. She is fucking othe guy(s) for at least two decades, yet he is still dreaming about her purity, "Love"... I mean, can you even imagine?
I was lucky, my longest Platonic Love lasted only some 2 years. I haven't seen her so long but still wanted to cry, I was so depressed. I couldn't take it anymore, so one day I actually decided to write her an email. I thought it was nice, I pretended to be just a friend who all of the sudden found her email and wants to say hi, but she most likely freaked out anyway. She was strong enough to reply, sent me an email with nice "fuck off". She was smart, thus didn't hurt me even more. Afterwards I was finally Free. What a relieve. Today, even if I met her again, I would see her as a total stranger.
But there are other ways to protect yourself, your feelings. You simply get out while there is time because you know that the final crash is inevitable. Make a standard for yourself, plan ahead, and if she doesn't fit your rules you must let her go. Don't wait till she gets rid of you - Reject her. You must let her go or you will suffer, there is no other way. Setup some standards, train yourself to follow your rules. Some Examples:
* She is always great and nice to you, but cancels or refuses date(s), and she's answering less and less... Well, she is not interested, not attracted. She's just being nice and hopes that you "get it". You should get it. She must go
* She makes you feel so good that you are afraid to fuck her? Are you postponing it to the next and next date? Beware brother, beware of Platonic Love. Find your balls while you can, get out before you get hurt. You have to fuck her, the sooner the better. If you can't, She must go
* You are asking her to do stuff for you, but there is no compliance from her side? She must comply, otherwise, She must go
* Are you a "Yes" man who never says "No" to her? Who never sets boundaries with her and lets her do what she wants? I got a suprise for you: She is already fed up with you as a lover. You must set boundaries, you must say No to her. Othewise, She must go
* Is she pushing you around, telling you what to do in a disrespectful way - and you are complying with her demands? Sorry, you've just sold your soul. She has lost all the attraction towards you, in her mind she's already dumped you. You must have Respect, otherwise, She must go
* Are you afraid to dominate her, to tell her what you want and what should she do for you - because you think she will leave? Well, she already knows you are not strong enough for her. You can't dominate her so she's lost the attraction, and she is loosing interest. She will get rid of you sooner or later, you will be hurt. You must Dominate her, you must tell her what to do, otherwise, She must go
* Is she dating or looking to date other guys, perhaps right in front of you while you are thinking that she will change her mind? Well, why don't you slap yourself because she already did. She must not disrespect you. She must go
* But she is there, she is really there for me, she's always giving me a second chance, she's just gone for now because of XYZ. And she told me to wait while she didn't show up. Don't be fooled, she is gone. If she really wanted you she wouldn't make that many excuses. She must really be there for you, otherwise, She must go
* Does she "lead" too often? That means you are not dominant enough, you are too passive. She is bored with you. If you continue she will wipe floor with you. You must lead her, you must dominate her, you must chose where to go and what to do. Otherwise, She must go
* Do you make excuses for her behavior? Is washing her clothes more important than going on a date with you? Oh c'mon, she can wash them tomorrow. If she respects you and wanted you she would go out with you. Don't make any excuses for her. She must go
* Are you quite confused about her behavior? Do you have to work hard to get her? Well, if she were really interested in you and if she really loved you she would make it easy on you. She wouldn't simply want to lose you, she would make herself quite clear that she wants you. If she is confusing you too much, She must go
* She says she really likes you, but doesn't really want to stay around and runs with other guys? No explanation needed even if you don't get it. She is not around, She must go
* Do you find yourself telling her everything as if she was your mama, all of it and in nice details? Spilled your feelings because she is such a good listener? Well, she probably feels exactly that way. But she doesn't want to be your mama, she originally wanted to fuck you. Except, you apparently had some deep inner need to confess your feelings to her - and now she's gone. She is Gone! She must go
* She wants you to be "friend" only. Well, friends it is. She must go
* Do you find yourself supplicating, begging, pleasing her? Doing everything just for her? Congratulations, you have just made a door mat from yourself. She will wipe her feet and leave. She must not be on a pedestal. She must go
* Do you jump out anytime she calls you, break your back with whatever she asks you for? Ok, know that she is getting pretty sick of you, slowly but surly. Change it, or she will. You got too deep feelings for her, and you have not find balls to fuck her. She must go
* Are you thinking about her all day long, dreaming about her, obsessing with her - but not sleeping with her? Well, too late, it will not happen unless you will make her feel really and miserably sorry for your ass. She knows you have too many feelings for her. She wants to cry because she knows you will. She must go
* Are you are spending too much time with her while she is not getting you any? Brother, she sees you as her friend, you are not attractive enough. She's lost interest, but keeps smiling at you and making you feel so good because she knows you are still hoping. After all, it makes her feel good when somebody lover her and waits for her, while she is looking for someone else. You have become her Orbital, miserable creature standing in a way of others, much more successful guys. If you are her Orbital, She must go
* You are chasing her, you are afraid to hurt her emotionally, you comply with any demands she's asking for. Well, in her eyes, you don't have enough girls around to have some Value, you are not Dominant enough to generate Respect. She sees you as a weak guy, someone to feel sorry for but not good enough to fuck. Why would she want you if other girls don't? You can't dominate her, you Value is low. She must go
Anyway, there are many other points, but these are IMO important. Set up your standard and Let her go, Reject her while you can because she is alrady on the way to do it. She doesn't even want to Reject you (unless she is a real bitch), she knows it hurts. By 'hanging around' her you are only rejecting yourself. She has no reason to hurt you, but you are not giving her good enough reasons to keep you around as a lover or BF. Maybe 'just friend', but seeing her going out with other men hurts as well.
You may find that by Rejecting her she may be quite shocked. Who do you think you are to reject her? No one has ever done that! Woman reject Man, never the other way! So she may turn around and pursue you, she may even start Chasing you. I would be very careful in those scenarios, because if you give in she may setup a nice Revenge for you, while you believe that she really changed her mind. She has guts to do it, without mercy.
Also, know that if you have only one girl 'available', it is very difficult to let go. Impossible. You need 'Abundance Mentality', you need to create supply of girls that will pass through your standards. I believe that "Abundance Mentality" will fix everything itself - you'll find confidence, knowledge, experience... And you need to become more Dominant so she has Respect for you. You need to train your mind to "let her go" anytime you wish, drop her whenever you'll feel like to. She will be aware of that very clearly because not so many guys can do that...
I was lucky, my longest Platonic Love lasted only some 2 years. I haven't seen her so long but still wanted to cry, I was so depressed. I couldn't take it anymore, so one day I actually decided to write her an email. I thought it was nice, I pretended to be just a friend who all of the sudden found her email and wants to say hi, but she most likely freaked out anyway. She was strong enough to reply, sent me an email with nice "fuck off". She was smart, thus didn't hurt me even more. Afterwards I was finally Free. What a relieve. Today, even if I met her again, I would see her as a total stranger.
But there are other ways to protect yourself, your feelings. You simply get out while there is time because you know that the final crash is inevitable. Make a standard for yourself, plan ahead, and if she doesn't fit your rules you must let her go. Don't wait till she gets rid of you - Reject her. You must let her go or you will suffer, there is no other way. Setup some standards, train yourself to follow your rules. Some Examples:
* She is always great and nice to you, but cancels or refuses date(s), and she's answering less and less... Well, she is not interested, not attracted. She's just being nice and hopes that you "get it". You should get it. She must go
* She makes you feel so good that you are afraid to fuck her? Are you postponing it to the next and next date? Beware brother, beware of Platonic Love. Find your balls while you can, get out before you get hurt. You have to fuck her, the sooner the better. If you can't, She must go
* You are asking her to do stuff for you, but there is no compliance from her side? She must comply, otherwise, She must go
* Are you a "Yes" man who never says "No" to her? Who never sets boundaries with her and lets her do what she wants? I got a suprise for you: She is already fed up with you as a lover. You must set boundaries, you must say No to her. Othewise, She must go
* Is she pushing you around, telling you what to do in a disrespectful way - and you are complying with her demands? Sorry, you've just sold your soul. She has lost all the attraction towards you, in her mind she's already dumped you. You must have Respect, otherwise, She must go
* Are you afraid to dominate her, to tell her what you want and what should she do for you - because you think she will leave? Well, she already knows you are not strong enough for her. You can't dominate her so she's lost the attraction, and she is loosing interest. She will get rid of you sooner or later, you will be hurt. You must Dominate her, you must tell her what to do, otherwise, She must go
* Is she dating or looking to date other guys, perhaps right in front of you while you are thinking that she will change her mind? Well, why don't you slap yourself because she already did. She must not disrespect you. She must go
* But she is there, she is really there for me, she's always giving me a second chance, she's just gone for now because of XYZ. And she told me to wait while she didn't show up. Don't be fooled, she is gone. If she really wanted you she wouldn't make that many excuses. She must really be there for you, otherwise, She must go
* Does she "lead" too often? That means you are not dominant enough, you are too passive. She is bored with you. If you continue she will wipe floor with you. You must lead her, you must dominate her, you must chose where to go and what to do. Otherwise, She must go
* Do you make excuses for her behavior? Is washing her clothes more important than going on a date with you? Oh c'mon, she can wash them tomorrow. If she respects you and wanted you she would go out with you. Don't make any excuses for her. She must go
* Are you quite confused about her behavior? Do you have to work hard to get her? Well, if she were really interested in you and if she really loved you she would make it easy on you. She wouldn't simply want to lose you, she would make herself quite clear that she wants you. If she is confusing you too much, She must go
* She says she really likes you, but doesn't really want to stay around and runs with other guys? No explanation needed even if you don't get it. She is not around, She must go
* Do you find yourself telling her everything as if she was your mama, all of it and in nice details? Spilled your feelings because she is such a good listener? Well, she probably feels exactly that way. But she doesn't want to be your mama, she originally wanted to fuck you. Except, you apparently had some deep inner need to confess your feelings to her - and now she's gone. She is Gone! She must go
* She wants you to be "friend" only. Well, friends it is. She must go
* Do you find yourself supplicating, begging, pleasing her? Doing everything just for her? Congratulations, you have just made a door mat from yourself. She will wipe her feet and leave. She must not be on a pedestal. She must go
* Do you jump out anytime she calls you, break your back with whatever she asks you for? Ok, know that she is getting pretty sick of you, slowly but surly. Change it, or she will. You got too deep feelings for her, and you have not find balls to fuck her. She must go
* Are you thinking about her all day long, dreaming about her, obsessing with her - but not sleeping with her? Well, too late, it will not happen unless you will make her feel really and miserably sorry for your ass. She knows you have too many feelings for her. She wants to cry because she knows you will. She must go
* Are you are spending too much time with her while she is not getting you any? Brother, she sees you as her friend, you are not attractive enough. She's lost interest, but keeps smiling at you and making you feel so good because she knows you are still hoping. After all, it makes her feel good when somebody lover her and waits for her, while she is looking for someone else. You have become her Orbital, miserable creature standing in a way of others, much more successful guys. If you are her Orbital, She must go
* You are chasing her, you are afraid to hurt her emotionally, you comply with any demands she's asking for. Well, in her eyes, you don't have enough girls around to have some Value, you are not Dominant enough to generate Respect. She sees you as a weak guy, someone to feel sorry for but not good enough to fuck. Why would she want you if other girls don't? You can't dominate her, you Value is low. She must go
Anyway, there are many other points, but these are IMO important. Set up your standard and Let her go, Reject her while you can because she is alrady on the way to do it. She doesn't even want to Reject you (unless she is a real bitch), she knows it hurts. By 'hanging around' her you are only rejecting yourself. She has no reason to hurt you, but you are not giving her good enough reasons to keep you around as a lover or BF. Maybe 'just friend', but seeing her going out with other men hurts as well.
You may find that by Rejecting her she may be quite shocked. Who do you think you are to reject her? No one has ever done that! Woman reject Man, never the other way! So she may turn around and pursue you, she may even start Chasing you. I would be very careful in those scenarios, because if you give in she may setup a nice Revenge for you, while you believe that she really changed her mind. She has guts to do it, without mercy.
Also, know that if you have only one girl 'available', it is very difficult to let go. Impossible. You need 'Abundance Mentality', you need to create supply of girls that will pass through your standards. I believe that "Abundance Mentality" will fix everything itself - you'll find confidence, knowledge, experience... And you need to become more Dominant so she has Respect for you. You need to train your mind to "let her go" anytime you wish, drop her whenever you'll feel like to. She will be aware of that very clearly because not so many guys can do that...
