Ok guys, first, some background.
I met a girl who is friend of a friend. I went to my friend's job, and this girl was the receptionist, it was instant attraction for both side. I'm gonna call her Lily. So, Lily saw me first and asked what my business was with a great smile, then she went to look for my friend. After that, my friend returned and we got out, and she said to me "My recepcionist said you're handsome haha", and i said " Well, get me her number so we can talk about it". However here the issue with this girl, She has a boyfriend, normally I wouldn't have bothered with this girl, but since my friend told me that things weren't exactly wonderful with his boyfriend I said "Well, fuck it, let's see what i can do"
The next day, she got me her number so I got her phone number, so i contact her on whatsapp and started chatting. We chatted the whole day and managed to get a date the same day in the night.
DATE 1
We set the place in a cofeehouse near my house, and my plan was to get to know her and deep dive, escalate physically enough to invite her to my home afterwards. We had a good talk, but the problem was that I didn't escalate physically, I think it was the thought that she had a boyfriend, even if she didn't said a word about him in the entire date, the obstacle was my own moral mindset that stopped me. However, she was warm, responsive and happy to talk. When we got out form the coffehouse, she said she had to go home, since it was almost 40 minutes bus home, and she still lived with her parents. It was going to be difficult to pull her home so I had to give up on this time.
Here's where i made my first mistake: I asked Lily about her relationship situation...honestly I was expecting something along the lines of "Well, yeah, i have a boyfriend but...we don't talk as much and so", but it was a: "Yes I do, why?". I told her that i wasn't comfortable with a girl and that i didn't wanted to creat troubles. so she said "And don't want to do anything that hurts my girlfriend"...Only at this moment I realized I fucked up, and big time. Now that i had acknowledge the boyfriend, she would get more defensive about me. Shit. She proposed to be friends, and I said "Yeah, we can work it out." I thought: "Well, retire now and fight another day"
DATE 2
A few days later, i wanted to get Lily to enter in my apartment so next time she would feel more confident about getting in. So i invited my friend over and Lily to watch a movie. We only were together like 1 hour because she had to return home, but the time she was there, she was quiet and form what i could see, she was uncomfortable. I think she wanted to talk and do something more, but with my friend ther she felt it would hurt her reputation if she flirted or so.
DATE 3
So finally, today i invited her again and she agreed happily, even having to canceling a previous appointment to have another date (Which is a good sign of investment).
We agrred to met in another coffe house and this time i had the mentality to make her and my completely forget her boyfriend, and just escalate like I would if she hadn't. It was so much better thatn the first time, the frame I set was "I'm sexy and a reward you want to get", and it totally worked. She kept touching me, complimenting my look, my hair, my face, basically saying "Woow, you are so fucking sexy". I escalate with no problem, rewarding her investment in my conversation, stroking her hair, cleaning her face from the capuccino, etc. I thought i finally had her in my pocket to break the fisrt milestone, the kiss.
We were talking about how she wanted to know my second name which i answered with a "You have to earned it, dear". Then, after she kept talking and trying to convince me, i approached her mouth, but she turned her head, so i ended up kissing her cheek. "I think you earned it, i'm -My 2nd name-"
Since she had to go to her house again in a few minutes, I thought she would just act awkward and start to walk to the bus, but after her initial surprise, she just kept talking as if nothing happened, which I appreciated. After a little while, she asked me to accompany her to the bus stop, and while we were there, she kept playing with my hair and touching me. She took the bus and i walked to my house.
A couple of hours later, she texted me and said:
And she didn't answer after that.
Soo, THAT'S ALL for today folks. What are your thoughts? Was trying to kiss too sudden? Do i still have a chance with her or do I just next her?
Any opinion will be well received, thanks
-Dormido
I met a girl who is friend of a friend. I went to my friend's job, and this girl was the receptionist, it was instant attraction for both side. I'm gonna call her Lily. So, Lily saw me first and asked what my business was with a great smile, then she went to look for my friend. After that, my friend returned and we got out, and she said to me "My recepcionist said you're handsome haha", and i said " Well, get me her number so we can talk about it". However here the issue with this girl, She has a boyfriend, normally I wouldn't have bothered with this girl, but since my friend told me that things weren't exactly wonderful with his boyfriend I said "Well, fuck it, let's see what i can do"
The next day, she got me her number so I got her phone number, so i contact her on whatsapp and started chatting. We chatted the whole day and managed to get a date the same day in the night.
DATE 1
We set the place in a cofeehouse near my house, and my plan was to get to know her and deep dive, escalate physically enough to invite her to my home afterwards. We had a good talk, but the problem was that I didn't escalate physically, I think it was the thought that she had a boyfriend, even if she didn't said a word about him in the entire date, the obstacle was my own moral mindset that stopped me. However, she was warm, responsive and happy to talk. When we got out form the coffehouse, she said she had to go home, since it was almost 40 minutes bus home, and she still lived with her parents. It was going to be difficult to pull her home so I had to give up on this time.
Here's where i made my first mistake: I asked Lily about her relationship situation...honestly I was expecting something along the lines of "Well, yeah, i have a boyfriend but...we don't talk as much and so", but it was a: "Yes I do, why?". I told her that i wasn't comfortable with a girl and that i didn't wanted to creat troubles. so she said "And don't want to do anything that hurts my girlfriend"...Only at this moment I realized I fucked up, and big time. Now that i had acknowledge the boyfriend, she would get more defensive about me. Shit. She proposed to be friends, and I said "Yeah, we can work it out." I thought: "Well, retire now and fight another day"
DATE 2
A few days later, i wanted to get Lily to enter in my apartment so next time she would feel more confident about getting in. So i invited my friend over and Lily to watch a movie. We only were together like 1 hour because she had to return home, but the time she was there, she was quiet and form what i could see, she was uncomfortable. I think she wanted to talk and do something more, but with my friend ther she felt it would hurt her reputation if she flirted or so.
DATE 3
So finally, today i invited her again and she agreed happily, even having to canceling a previous appointment to have another date (Which is a good sign of investment).
We agrred to met in another coffe house and this time i had the mentality to make her and my completely forget her boyfriend, and just escalate like I would if she hadn't. It was so much better thatn the first time, the frame I set was "I'm sexy and a reward you want to get", and it totally worked. She kept touching me, complimenting my look, my hair, my face, basically saying "Woow, you are so fucking sexy". I escalate with no problem, rewarding her investment in my conversation, stroking her hair, cleaning her face from the capuccino, etc. I thought i finally had her in my pocket to break the fisrt milestone, the kiss.
We were talking about how she wanted to know my second name which i answered with a "You have to earned it, dear". Then, after she kept talking and trying to convince me, i approached her mouth, but she turned her head, so i ended up kissing her cheek. "I think you earned it, i'm -My 2nd name-"
Since she had to go to her house again in a few minutes, I thought she would just act awkward and start to walk to the bus, but after her initial surprise, she just kept talking as if nothing happened, which I appreciated. After a little while, she asked me to accompany her to the bus stop, and while we were there, she kept playing with my hair and touching me. She took the bus and i walked to my house.
A couple of hours later, she texted me and said:
Her: Hey, did you tried to kiss me?
Me: Well, I did, did you forgot already?
Her: No, but in the mouth
Me: Haha What if i would've done it?
Her: But you didn't
Me: No, i did not. Why do you ask?
Her Why did you tried?
Me: Maybe I wanted more of the foam of the coffe you had
Her: Ok, I guess that's the truth
Me: But I really had a good time today
And she didn't answer after that.
Soo, THAT'S ALL for today folks. What are your thoughts? Was trying to kiss too sudden? Do i still have a chance with her or do I just next her?
Any opinion will be well received, thanks
-Dormido
