Relationship Escalation

[edgeguy1983]

I'll keep this brief. I met a girl on eHarmony which is my main mode these days. First date was just dinner and talk. Second date was 2 days ago, we went to a scenic overlook talked, went to dinner, brought her back to my place and we were in bed within 30 minutes. Third date was yesterday, she cooked for me at her house, we watched a movie and again, ended up in bed.

This isn't so much a problem but I'm curious if anyone else has been through this. I'm kinda starting to catch some feelings, albeit small but I've learned not to ignore them. I did it all by the book: texts for logistical purposes only, she asked me to go shopping with her yesterday and I definitely did NOT do that as the BF material stuff and I moved fast on sex. She's hooked 100%.

I have a date with another girl tomorrow but honestly I'd rather hang out with this girl. I like the idea of having multiple women partners, not just as a backstop in case this one decides to flake but also as a means of comparison (you don't know what you don't have), but my end goal isn't just sex. Realistically I'd like to find someone to have a relationship with.

Admittedly, we click. I'm not looking for advice, I'm curious if anyone else has run into this before and what the outcome was. I believe in the concept of relationship escalation the same as sexual/physical escalation. Basically striking while the iron is hot.

 

[edgeguy1983]

Radeng,

I'm more concerned about the prospect of the attraction expiration date as we're both bombarded with matches on a daily basis. I played this one right, escalated fast, got the girl, what now? FYI I'm coming off a divorce last FEB so I'm learning the new dating landscape. I have a date with another girl tomorrow but honestly I'd rather see this girl. This site preaches, MOVE FAST, and I've learned that's a solid mantra. I'm just wondering if seeing other girls to throttle or to gain perspective makes sense when you're literally only doing it to throttle or gain perspective. Isn't that just a waste of time? God, when I read this is sounds retarded but I'm admittedly a relationship retard right now, hahaha.

Oh I already had my rebound after my divorce so this isn't it.

 

[edgeguy1983]

Saturday was my place after dinner, Sunday was hers. I will only be planning dates where we end up alone, if not are alone if not the entire time. Oh yeah, we plow whenever we're alone. Her words last night after making out / dry humping for a couple minutes "do you want to go upstairs and take our pants off?" Haha, what guy says no to that?

I pulled the trigger on the other girl for Tomorrow and I'll make a date with the one I care about Thursday, haha. I have another girl coming back from Miami today that wanted to hang out this week to so I have plenty of options. I'm trying not to overdo it though.

 

[edgeguy1983]

Quick update, the girl I'm meeting tomorrow asked if I lived close to where we are meeting and if I live alone. Good looks on that sign Chase