Relationship vs singledom

[Anonymous]

Hey guys, first time commenter here. Long time subscriber with the GC site. Hope everyone's doing awesome in their dating lives!

Was wondering if I could get your opinion on my situation. I've been with a girl for 13 months, living with her for a month, than broke up with her, thinking that she was slowing me down on my self improvement and overall life improvement. So its been about a month now, that we've been apart and I've figured out that she wasn't the cause of my slow progression to self improvement. It had more to do with me not being motivated and determined enough, than it had to do with her. It turns out she's still loyal to me. I've found out that she's one of those girls that are true to their man. Even though I'm going through a financial crisis and sold my car to pay back some debt, along with other stuff, she claims she doesnt care. And that she loves me with all her heart. Keep in mind she's really attractive and always gets hit on and asked out by other guys and she's two years older.

My dillema here is I'm not sure what's more of a benefit for me. Engaging in a LTR with her again or starting to approach girls and fight the resistance that comes with experience. I'd like to here your insights on this.

SeductionMentality

 

[daviddreamer]

The woman like your describe, at least in my opinion, is a rarity these days. You outta hold on to that one...just my opinion though. Its up to you to find what you really want.

 

[Mr. oblivious]

If you love her stay with her cause she seems like an amazing girlfriend

if you don't leave her and pursue other women cause it would worse staying with this girl just cause people on GC told you too

 

[Thinkingenigma]

Ditto what Mr. Oblivious wrote. If you want to stay with her, do it. If not, break it off sooner rather than later. Either way, don't drag it out. You're only going to end up hurting the both of you that way.

 

[Richard]

The way I see it is - you broke up with her because you thought she was halting your progress --- meaning that before that instant you were happy with her and you weren't contemplating leaving her anyway.

So, if you discovered that she isn't the cause of your halted progress then it looks like everything should go back to normal between the two of you... soooooo getting back together with the girl that makes you happy sounds like the better option.

But (pardon me for playing devil's advocate), you did break up with her once before - and it's almost always stated that true love endures so, if you did break up with her then it might be a sign that you're not as invested in her as she is into you, and being single trying to find someone better may be the option.

All in all, it's entirely up to how you feel about the situation. You shouldn't listen (blindly) to what any one person has to say on this matter from the boards because you may give up the best thing your life has ever seen, or be missing a wonderful opportunity to meet newer and better people. It's all up to how you feel about it.

-Richard

 

[Drck]

I commented on your original post, unfortunatelly it disappeared. I re-posted it here:

viewtopic.php?f=3&t=6664

Be very careful man, I COULD BE WRONG but if the woman really loves you she wouldn't behave the way you described. You will get back together and in couple of weeks you won't be able to breathe again. She is older than you, she is more experienced than you, she knows ten times more about relationships than you, she is attractive (e.g. Can date other guys), and you have already rejected her. She might take you back for a while, then she will make you her bitch again and finally dump you or cheat on you...

 

[African Boyo]

You dumped her for a reason...Deep down you know shes slowing you down...trust your gut....commited relationships mske you relax