Relaxing techniqued

[Salamence]

Anyone have thier own tips to dealing with feelings of anxiety/depression?
Its literally taken a toll on my health.
Low sex drive,
Aches and pains.
Constantly worrying.

Honestly I read Chase articles on depression and anxiety. Im surprised he wss able to climb out
Sometimes I dont feel like waking up if you catch my drift...

 

[metomeya]

What is your age?

What is your situation?

I have dealt with the same problems, but if you give more info I can give better advice.

 

[Salamence]

Im 20 years old.

My situation honestly isn't that all dramatic. I mean I have a nice car
Making pretty good cash. ( make more than the average person on where I live)
Have zero experience with girls
Not in school (Sadly :/)
I guess I have no purpose you know
Money doesn't excite me, girls dont excite me anymore.
I even stopped watching porn.

I'm thinking it can be the diet aswell cause im doing the eric extreme method of losing weight haha
Intermittent fasting, green extract, black coffee, working out fasted (lifting weights and sprinting), in a super low caloric deficit
(Consume about 1000-1300 a day) and practically no sleep.

Ill get super panicky at times especially when I try to sleep feels like im about to have a heart attack I have a hard time breathing.

I just wanna relax pretty much and just feel good inside and out im not even trying to go for girls right now.

 

[Richard]

Sal,

Since we're talking about general anxiety opposed to anxiety with women, then yes, there are quite a few things you can do.

-Meditation
-Yoga
-Exercise
-Hanging out with high quality friends

Or, try this one as well...

Lay flat on your back, close your eyes, and imagine a peaceful place. Breathe deeply in and out.
Feel your toes while breathing, then your ankles, and work your way through your body up to the head.

 

[Salamence]

I'll give the laying on my back a shot before I sleep.
Can I play some background music or just complete silence?
Also, how long do I lay on my back? 10 minutes?

 

[Richard]

You can play music, something smooth and relaxing helps.

And however long it takes you, 10 minutes is pretty close to the right time though.

 

[Salamence]

Cool I'll give it a try tonight thanks

 

[Anonymous]

I can say I was in the same spot as you, depressed no friends ( i really had 0 friends ) anxiety did not go out from house, litteraly had no purpose of my life..

What I did was that I started to focus on what I wanted to do in life (well hard to answer that if you dont know what to do right? ) so I got into different jobs, focused on my career, on myself untill i could say to myself what i liked to do. I started off in a car factory and moved from there to being a salesman and from there to being a an ride operator ( only 2 per year become operators, and by a team of 10 with ages between 28-30 i was the only guy being 19 years old, * im 20 now.)
in one of the biggest amusement parks in europe, tough /komplex job i have to say..

Anyway what il trying to get to is that you need purpose in life, look around you, what do you value? Family? Helping people? Money? Education? Career? Making a name for yourself?
The world is yours man just go get it. Clock is ticking...

If i could take me out of it, so can you, by what i have read you seem pretty more ahead of me than i ever was in that point. My father died, grandmother dies same year i got depressed and it made it worse... ( i was 18, this was 2 years ago)

I got out of it, im sleeping with girls, got quality friends ,making alot of money while being 20 years old now, working in a top notch job in a city with 4 millon people whom i got with nothing but myself and my own skills, ( i was not a social pro ) my biggest sucess factor? I had a purpose. I fought freaking really hard for that and it was damn worth it.

Purpose man, find it- keep it, it is what drives you, gives motivation, think of the people who died in paris 13/11, live in the moment ( those people didnt know they were gonna die that day, so seize every day of your life cuz you never know whats gonna happen) and read alot of girlschase ( damn it helps) .

I just made this account in order to respond to this post

Cheers going to sleep now really tired and sry for my english

And dont give up, you will f***king make it if i made it.

 

[Bboy100]

First and foremost, improve your sleep. 90% of patients who go into therapy for anxiety/depression issues feel much better after improving their sleep. No other life changes are necessary. This means:
-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep. So, if its less than 8 hours, it doesn't count. If you keep waking up in the middle of the night, it doesn't count. Sleep is absolutely the first thing you need to look at when it comes to anxiety/depression related issues. Seriously. If you ignore sleep, nothing we tell you will help.

After you've taken care of your sleep issues:
The easiest way to improve anxiety/depression is to monitor and improve your thoughts. For more information on how to do this, check these resources out:
http://www.cognitivetherapyguide.org/th ... ecords.htm
https://www.google.com/search?q=cogniti ... AJiFeZs%3D

The first link is a very brief explanation of what a thought record is and how to use it. The image I linked is just a simple layout/format for how it should look. Basically, you would want to fill in the blanks.

If you cannot identify the negative thoughts that go along with your anxiety, you need to be more in tune with what are called "automatic thoughts". "Automatic thoughts" are basically the dialogue that goes on in the back of your head. Its continuous, endless, and it's always been there. Because of this, it's very easy to go about your life without even noticing it. Google search "automatic thoughts" for more info.

Also, get exercise every day. Studies have shown time after time that basically, the more we exercise, the less depressed we tend to be. Same goes for socializing/hanging out with friends. Just make sure they're all positive, uplifting people. Or that at the very least, they don't bring you down/make you feel shitty.

If none of this helps, I would consider talking to a professional. Oftentimes, we cannot pull ourselves out of depression on our own. It's necessary to get help.
Feel free to PM me if you need more info.