Responding to bad news

[Searcher]

There are some situations which I face with girls where they talk about something negative maybe something bad happened at work or a bad break up. I confused as to how to handle them effectively because I think thread expanding about the negative things will lead to
1) a negative impression in the conversation which she might associate with me and might use me as a dump to vent her negative feelings on.

Right now I generally ask a couple of questions about the negative topic and give some encouragement that this is all momentary and she can get through this easily.

Is this the most effective method or is there a more effective way of handling them? If there is a better way would you mind elaborating on it?

An example of a girl complaining about a recent breakup or talking about no attention from her boyfriend would do great.

 

[Chase]

@Sully,

You're not far off.

Actually it depends on the relationship somewhat. If this is a girlfriend, you'll probably want to listen a bit and offer some encouragement.

If she's not a girl you're sleeping with, however, I'd advise against even offering that extra bit of encouragement. Just show a bit of light concern, wait for a moment to not seem insensitive, then gently change the topic.

More on how to deal with bad news here:

Responding to Good News and Bad News

I met a really very cute and pretty 20 year old college student waiting in line for the bus today. We started talking and grabbed seats together – actually, we almost missed the bus, too engrossed in talking to each other as we were, until we suddenly realized everyone else had walked past us...

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Chase

 

[Searcher]

@Sully,

You're not far off.

Actually it depends on the relationship somewhat. If this is a girlfriend, you'll probably want to listen a bit and offer some encouragement.

If she's not a girl you're sleeping with, however, I'd advise against even offering that extra bit of encouragement. Just show a bit of light concern, wait for a moment to not seem insensitive, then gently change the topic.

More on how to deal with bad news here:

Responding to Good News and Bad News

I met a really very cute and pretty 20 year old college student waiting in line for the bus today. We started talking and grabbed seats together – actually, we almost missed the bus, too engrossed in talking to each other as we were, until we suddenly realized everyone else had walked past us...

www.girlschase.com

Chase

Is there a way you can use the bad news with her boyfriend to your advantage.
For example -
If she says that her boyfriend is ignoring her. She will be feeling that her boyfriend is higher value than her, anyway to reverse this dynamic? because a girl I wanted to lay brought stuff like this up.

 

[Fuck This]

An example of a girl complaining about a recent breakup or talking about no attention from her boyfriend would do great.

There is a Boyfriend destroyer routine. at

How to Lay Girls Guide

 

[Searcher]

There is a Boyfriend destroyer routine. at

How to Lay Girls Guide

Thanks for the response, appreciate it. Seems like NLP stuff. Sounds cheesy but who knows I will try this once.