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Responding to "Why do you like me?"

The Byronic Man

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If she's asking seriously, how do you respond to this? Before and after sex.

You may be able to rattle off genuine qualifications, but it can sometimes be really thinly contrived.
 

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I feel like it depends on how or when it's asked.

I would assume you've at least met or been with the girl a few times for her to really ask this question seriously?
In which case personally I'd go with honest. Don't use it as an oppertunity to make her jump through hoops (i.e. The "Beauty is common but..." lame-o line..)

The thing is... I think most guys will either just tell her she's "hot" or else for blank for fear of not wanting to just say she's "hot".
Usually I'd tend to give her a compliment on her looks but don't call her hot. Tell her something very specific which you genuinely find appealing. For me, for some reason I've always been drawn to girls with a certain look in their eyes. I can't even explain what it is because I don't understand it or know how to describe it but they have it. Something like that that you are drwn to about them physically.

Mix that in between some things you like about her personality or silly things she does.

I might be mis-interpreting this but I feel this comes up when you are both in an intimate conversation and not when you just met?
In which case, I'd go with honesty, genuine compliments, keep it to 2 or 3, don't use it as an opportunity to gush feeling or go over the top, try to make them unique compliments like something she hasn't heard from regular guys she's dated.
I also wouldn't use it as an opportunity to "neg" her or make her "qualify" herself for the compliment in this setting... I think that would come off badly.

At least that's my opinion... I'll leave the floor open to the gurus :)
 

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The Byronic Man said:
If she's asking seriously, how do you respond to this? Before and after sex.

Most girls won't ask this. IT tend to happen with girls who are

1) not sold on you/interested in you

2) she already see herself higher value or dominant or has a boyfriend, thus shooting yourself in the foot by needing her to state that.

3) she's doesn't have guys chasing her very much, she's skeptical and somewhat inexperienced, can be "attitude problem" also.

4) she's genuinely feeling slightly insecure and needs your reassurance. :)

5) miss escalation window, going a slight resentment mode, waiting for you to move things forward!

Zac
 

The Tool

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My Favorite reply. Drives girls nuts ;)

"I'm really picky..so a little bit of this and a little bit of that" and you leave it at that :)

Makes them think their special.

Keeps the intrigue and you dont give anything away. I still havnt told my girlfriend exactly why I Love/like her. I've told her some things I love/like about her. But not why. And she hopes and looks forward to that maybe one day. I will tell her.

Dont be like most guys that would grovel at a womans feet telling her everything he likes about her and spilling their heart out. This leaves zero intrigue and gives everything away. Leave something to question. Leave her something to think about.
 

Richard

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"I'm really picky..so a little bit of this and a little bit of that" and you leave it at that :)

And when she asks you, what do you mean a little bit of this and that?

you respond with,

"A little bit of that (specific quality), and some of this (physical quality)"
Like,
"A little bit of that playful personality, and some of this killer hair ;)"

You can cut out the physical quality, but the specific quality part is a winner

Thought I'd add to Tool's idea :)

-Richard
 

The Byronic Man

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Brilliant stuff!

I have a hot female friend that I confide with when it comes to women. She said she doesn't like the "I'm really picky" part because she hears it all the time so knows it's B.S. But she likes the rest of the line. When I think about it, I think she may have a point--the subtler and more implicit, the better. Maybe you don't need to explicitly state you're picky to convey that you're picky.
 

Franco

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TBM,

You can definitely state it explicitly -- you just have to have good reasons as to why you're picky and why she is meeting those standards that you uphold. Your body language, voice, and facial expressions need to convey confidence and assurance in your reasoning while you give it as well.

For more info... check out this little gem by Chase, here:

"I'm Picky."

;)

- Franco
 
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