Revelation; difference between a sexy guy being nice and a "nice guy" being nice

[andersen09]

I just had an epiphany. Let me know how you guys feel about this.

There's a difference between a girl thinking you're just a nice guy to a sexy guy with a nice side.

Girl's Reaction
"Nice guy" = Aw, how sweet or "God why is this boy talking to me"
Sexy Guy = Wow.. I thought he was X.. but he's actually nice too..

A girl's reaction to you is based on her perception of you. And her perception is based on your timing of being "nice" to a girl.

Basically, it's a matter of when a guy tries to build a connection and get personal with her. And the timing depends on whether she's attracted to you or not.
If you try to ask her personal questions BEFORE she's curious about you as a mate/man, she'll perceive it as a nice guy behavior.
If you try build connections with her with her being attracted to you, she'll see it as just being "genuine"

So the rule is you kind of want to avoid asking her personal questions until you're sure that she's into you.
And whether she's into you comes down to many things, but it can be broken down to two things.
1. Attainability
2. Compliance

As long as sees you as attainable and moves with you, you can be safe asking personal questions and not get slotted into a "nice guy" zone as long as you keep things moving forward.

For example, I went day gaming the other day, and I was getting complete different responses but I would adapt depending on how she "reacts" to me.


Me: Excuse me/Hey/Yo.. (Wait to see how she reacts)
Her: (Behaves annoyed, aloof, no expression)
Me: I'll go indirect, I'm looking for X place, do you know where it is?
(And from here I'll convey my personality to get her attracted) and when I see that she's attracted, I'll proceed.

Her: (Behaves intrigued, friendly, warm, well accepting)
Me: This is a bit random.. but I really like... your nose
Her: hahahah what?!
Me: Kidding. I think you're cute, and.. so is your nose.. what's your name?
Her: (giggles)I'm Angela.
Me: Cool, I'm Andersen. Anyway, this is totally unexpected, and I have to go soon but I don't know, what's like one thing noone knows about you? (Personal Question because she's intrigued)
And so on

But a mistake I used to make was.

Me: Hey!
Her: (annoyed) what?
Me: Come here! Where you from?
Her: (more annoyed) My boyfriend is right there.
Me: (I turn and there's noone there)
Her: She' gone. (Finessed my ass)

Or

Me: Hey!
Her: Sup? (indifferent)
Me: What's your name?
Her: Why?
Me: I just want to know and think you're cute
Her: Oh, okay.

(because she's not attracted)

I wanted to share just a little tip from a revelation of mine.

-Andersen

 

[Cacc]

Re: Revelation; difference between a sexy guy being nice and a "nice guy" being

You realize that asking personal questions is compliance aswell right?

Your problems will be solved by calibrating yourself better.

Stop trying to be a nice guy and focus on the process.

Is she complying? Am I connecting with her? Am I touching her? Is she moving with me?

What's your vibe with girls look like?

 

[andersen09]

Re: Revelation; difference between a sexy guy being nice and a "nice guy" being

You realize that asking personal questions is compliance aswell right?

Your problems will be solved by calibrating yourself better.

Stop trying to be a nice guy and focus on the process.

Is she complying? Am I connecting with her? Am I touching her? Is she moving with me?

What's your vibe with girls look like?

lol.

 

[foggy]

Re: Revelation; difference between a sexy guy being nice and a "nice guy" being

anderson,

i used to feel bewildered when i would get into deep diving a girl i had just met and she would respond with these weird WISHY WASHY answers. i wasn't really sure whether there was something wrong with the questions i was asking or not. but after this happened several times, i had the same revelation as you: the girls who are acting this way are not attracted to you. your attainability and value are too low.

so yes if you find yourself in these situations then you should go back, do some flirting and raise your value (verbally) to build some attraction, and then try deep diving again.

this whole thing you're talking about is basically the mystery method. you should check it out for a more detailed look into things.

 

[andersen09]

Re: Revelation; difference between a sexy guy being nice and a "nice guy" being

anderson,

i used to feel bewildered when i would get into deep diving a girl i had just met and she would respond with these weird WISHY WASHY answers. i wasn't really sure whether there was something wrong with the questions i was asking or not. but after this happened several times, i had the same revelation as you: the girls who are acting this way are not attracted to you. your attainability and value are too low.

so yes if you find yourself in these situations then you should go back, do some flirting and raise your value (verbally) to build some attraction, and then try deep diving again.

this whole thing you're talking about is basically the mystery method. you should check it out for a more detailed look into things.

Hmm, interesting. I'll look into it.