Reverse Sexual Framing

[Richard]

Hey guys, something I just came across while talking with a girl, I've done this a lot through my life without really knowing it, but I just became aware of it, and if it's not something you guys already do, try it out.

Basically, it's a way to gauge a girl's sexual interest in you.

You throw out a statement that let's HER use a sexual frame, and if she does, she's sexually interested in you.

This might be basic, but I haven't been conscious of it til now, so I figured I'd write it down.

An example being:

You: "Class was rough today! The professor was so boring!"
Her: "Don't you like it rough anyway?"

The first statement wasn't a sex frame, but it allowed her to use a sex frame, and she only would if she was sexually interested or at the very least had a playful personality, which is what I like anyway.

Feedback guys?

 

[trashKENNUT]

Zphix,

The first statement wasn't a sex frame, but it allowed her to use a sex frame, and she only would if she was sexually interested or at the very least had a playful personality, which is what I like anyway.

Feedback guys?

Most of the time, if you do this with friends, and you the sexy guy, sometimes you can move things forward with this girl friend of yours if it's looks deliberate and too strong. About if she was sexually interested, just move things forward and you will know if she's tease. You be surprised some girls whom already has a boyfriend tame men so well with this, they can excite you but she won't move things forward with you.

Definitely on the playful personality part, Some girls will say it with a slightly aggressive tone, those kind of girls are cool too, just that their past relationships was bad and guys didn't treat them well or sometimes it can be character problem. The voice tonality does play a role here.

Zac

 

[Chase]

Richard-

Good technique. The only suggestion I have for making this run more smoothly is:

An example being:

You: "Class was rough today! The professor was so boring!"
Her: "Don't you like it rough anyway?"

You're actually better served ending your speaking right after dropping the bait for her to make a sex joke out of, and placing special emphasis with your voice tone on the word you want her to seize on, like so:

You: "Whew... class was rough today!"
Her: "Don't you like it rough anyway?"

You'll find that generally girls are more willing to go out on a limb and joke something sexual if it's a snap reaction than if they have to wait a beat or two after you complete the thought that they can misinterpret, and that they're more likely to have something pop into mind if that one word in particular stands out (because you especially stressed it). A little NLP goes a long way.

Chase

 

[PinotNoir]

I've actually used something similar to this. If a girl and I are locking eyes together on a date, I have said one of these before with good results:

"Don't look at me like that."
"Stop thinking those thoughts."

If you haven't been intimate with her, then she'll usually say something like, "Ah! I'm not!" (high-pitched voice). In which case, I usually just say, "What? What do you think I'm talking about?" or "Sure" sarcastically.

With a girl that I've been intimate with, I did this on a date, and she actually said, "Ah, I hate that you can read me so well" haha. However, this is the only time this has happened to me.

I usually don't use this for reverse framing though. If you say something like this, you can gauge a lot on her reaction -- her response, voice, and facial cues.

Would you still consider this reverse framing (EDIT: because she has the opportunity to say something more on it, and it's vague)? Or is this just regular framing?