She was on holidays, same as me, dressing very nicely and was cold and aloof.. At the very beginning.
But she agreed for a drink and as we sat there she opened up and became a gushing flow of words, talking incessantly about every kind of topic and everything in her life, from her two dogs and showing pics, to life with driver and server to past relationships and what she likes in men till the fact she had never been with a European guy.
When we talked about men/relationships she clung glasses with me a couple of times, in a happy -and slightly juvenile- fashion.
On the way back, she didn’t want me to “show her hotel” though and acted extremely distant and at the end just walked into the hotel barely saying by. Such a stark, impressive difference from the effusive, lively self just a few minutes earlier.
I am not sure whether it was because she auto-rejected or because I was too easy/too low value (could be other things of course, such as she was conservative, but let's stick to these two).
Below the two camps.
She auto-rejected because:
1. SHE FELT TOO OLD
She prodded for my age and when I refused to share she said she was obviously older. Later one she'd say she's been working for many years, as if she was letting me on something she didn't feel proud of and which differentiated us. Later on, while talking, she said louder: “I’m 35” and paused for a long while as if to say “there I said it” (funny thing is she behaved so juvenile right when she wanted to convey older age, and I'm not much younger, just looked so)
2. SHE FELT TOO BORING
She repeated more than once “I’m boring” or “I’m boring, I told you”
As we walked back, once in front of a club she said “you should go there” (I had to bracelets from clubs on my wrist). She also mentioned I should go for more interesting girls
3. I didn't make myself attainable
In spite of the fact the above repeated itself several times, I never did anything about it, which maybe crystallized in her mind the idea she's not in my league in those two fields (of course at the time it didn't even cross my mind she could auto reject: I thought she was super cool!)
I was too low value because:
1. I compared poorly to her social class
I might have not been high value enough for a person who’s used to dealing with ultra rich and, maybe, high quality people (I failed to connect with her on her wealth and status, though not so much for the job per se as I’m into financial markets)
2. She just didn’t like me enough sexually/physically.
I have no proof for this, but it should prolly be here just as a reminder that, of course, it might just easily be the easiest explanation and she just enjoyed the chat
But she agreed for a drink and as we sat there she opened up and became a gushing flow of words, talking incessantly about every kind of topic and everything in her life, from her two dogs and showing pics, to life with driver and server to past relationships and what she likes in men till the fact she had never been with a European guy.
When we talked about men/relationships she clung glasses with me a couple of times, in a happy -and slightly juvenile- fashion.
On the way back, she didn’t want me to “show her hotel” though and acted extremely distant and at the end just walked into the hotel barely saying by. Such a stark, impressive difference from the effusive, lively self just a few minutes earlier.
I am not sure whether it was because she auto-rejected or because I was too easy/too low value (could be other things of course, such as she was conservative, but let's stick to these two).
Below the two camps.
She auto-rejected because:
1. SHE FELT TOO OLD
She prodded for my age and when I refused to share she said she was obviously older. Later one she'd say she's been working for many years, as if she was letting me on something she didn't feel proud of and which differentiated us. Later on, while talking, she said louder: “I’m 35” and paused for a long while as if to say “there I said it” (funny thing is she behaved so juvenile right when she wanted to convey older age, and I'm not much younger, just looked so)
2. SHE FELT TOO BORING
She repeated more than once “I’m boring” or “I’m boring, I told you”
As we walked back, once in front of a club she said “you should go there” (I had to bracelets from clubs on my wrist). She also mentioned I should go for more interesting girls
3. I didn't make myself attainable
In spite of the fact the above repeated itself several times, I never did anything about it, which maybe crystallized in her mind the idea she's not in my league in those two fields (of course at the time it didn't even cross my mind she could auto reject: I thought she was super cool!)
I was too low value because:
1. I compared poorly to her social class
I might have not been high value enough for a person who’s used to dealing with ultra rich and, maybe, high quality people (I failed to connect with her on her wealth and status, though not so much for the job per se as I’m into financial markets)
2. She just didn’t like me enough sexually/physically.
I have no proof for this, but it should prolly be here just as a reminder that, of course, it might just easily be the easiest explanation and she just enjoyed the chat
