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I'm a bit confused about whether I'm too attainable or unattainable with this girl who I slept with yesterday. Long story short (which I may post later in my journal), we went on an instant date last week and exchanged numbers. I didn't text her and forgot about her for a few days until earlier this week. Since I'm leaving town this weekend and will be gone for about 3 weeks, I thought might as well push hard for a date, so I got her out and we went out for dinner. She looked very sexy and tbh I had to remind myself to just be real and treat her like another human being. Anyway, the vibe of the dinner was good. We went for a walk afterwards, where she rejected to hold my hand but would still put her arm around my arm as we walk. Throughout the date, I focused on being more man to woman and flirtatious, which may have made me come across as an asshole. I didn't realize that and thought I was just having fun. We walked back to my place and she knew what was going on and still came in. She shit tested me a lot....like A LOT. At first, she tried to put me in the friend zone. Then she kept teasing me for doing this to all the girl, and she's just another number. In fact, she told me I've approached one of her friend as well. I ignored her when she mentioned her friend because honestly I don't care lol. Anyway I was having a lot of fun playing around with cocky and flirty jokes. And I had to dial it down and be real and connect with her. She was still a little suspicious, but we were having fun chatting.
My ex called me a couple of times during the conversation. I just ignored it.
Her: "aren't you going to pick that up?"
Me: "it's fine..anyway"
Her: "are you sure? you can go out and take that call I don't mind"
Me: "na it's ok."
Her: "you see? I think that's gonna be me in the future...you do this all the time =p"
Me: "yea I'll just hang up your call and never call you"
Her: "You're an asshole"
Anyway, time flies and we talked for about 4-5 hours and it was 1pm. I've already tried to kiss her a couple of times but got rejected. We were both lying on my bed. she kept saying how much she likes my bed. I just told her to sleep here. She asked me to promise not to do anything. I said hmm I'll try. she teased me again saying she can't trust me, but she still decided to stay the night. So I got change into my pjs and she took off her bra and made herself comfortable. She tried to put me in the friend zone again saying she doesn't mind sleeping in the same bed as guy friends...I told her this has never happened to me before lol. We both fall asleep kind of close together. I woke up after about a few hours...couldn't sleep. I tried to kiss her again but got rejected. However, she started to sleep on my arm. A few mins later, she changed position and cuddled into me. I tried to fall asleep again, but I couldn't lol I put my other arm around her and we spooned. Now we're sleeping very close together...it just didn't make sense that we're not having sex. Anyway, we started talking and got very intimate conversation wise because we're cuddling. I told her she got the lucky treatment because I like to connect with girls after sex, and it's my favourite part. She laughed and said she liked this too and she never do this with both of her exs.
The sun was about to rise and I knew I don't have a lot of time. So I analyzed the situation and figured I'm probably too unattainable, so I empathized with her and told her I really like her and I would not just spend the last 12 hours with her if I didn't like her. She was starting to believe me but still a bit skeptical. She asked me if this is just a one night stand or fuck buddies and she said she doesn't want to be a fuck buddy with me. I asked about her view on ONS and she said she's probably fine with it but would feel guilty afterwards. I told her I don't like ONS because it just feels rather empty after sex. She teased me for having so much experience again. I asked her if she wanted to see me again. She said "hmmm let's see when you come back". Anyway, a bit of sex talk about blow jobs and other stuff followed. She told me she was getting turned on and so was I. Eventually we started making out, then she told me she's on her period. I told her it's no problem, but she still didn't want to do it. We talked dirty for a little, mainly just using low sexy bedroom voice. She wanted to just give me a blowjob. I said fine and she was pretty good at it. I wanted to come but I didn't. We made out a bit more and she finally decided to have sex. For some reason, I couldn't come and we fked for about 30-40 mins. I also needed to go to class soon, otherwise I would've kept going. She was pretty happy afterwards and was surprised I didn't come. I told her I don't really need to come and I just wanted her to feel good. We cuddled for a bit and I got up and had to get ready for class.
We walked together holding hands to my class. She teased me when I'm going to buy her flowers. I just said "pfft...how about me?" She said I'll just give you a kiss. I just laughed and then we said goodbye.
I didn't text her until that night. I was trying to get rid of the period blood stain on my carpet lol
Me: "Hmm the stain seems to like the carpet
...good luck for your exam tomorrow =)"
Next morning
Her: "aww. maybe use bleach xD"
Her: "don't miss me too much ae hehehehe"
Me: "Don't worry. I'll send you shit tons of flowers that says I don't miss you"
Her: "you know what... I don't know how u did it but I think I've fallen for u. hahaha"
Her: "Thank god u aren't here for like a whole month. LOL. hopefully I'll get over it by then XD"
Me; "nah just face it..you're addicted to me xD one month is not enough and I'm actually coming back a bit earlier for a ski trip"
Her: " not sure if it's good or bad to be addicted to you. lol"
Me: "It's good! It makes your heart stronger"
Her: "The way you said it feels like.."prepare to get heart broken bitch" haha"
Her: "anyway, hope you're having a good time back at home =))"
I don't feel like replying here because it feels like a natural stop in the conversation. Plus I don't feel safe keep playing that asshole humour over text lol It can easily be taken seriously.
I really want to see this girl again, but the timing was just really bad because I had to leave town the next day. Plus it seems like she wants to get over me but she can't. I'm not sure what to believe. ....so am I being too unattainable or am I striking the right balance?
I'm thinking about giving her a call or something next weekend and see how things go.
I'm a bit confused about whether I'm too attainable or unattainable with this girl who I slept with yesterday. Long story short (which I may post later in my journal), we went on an instant date last week and exchanged numbers. I didn't text her and forgot about her for a few days until earlier this week. Since I'm leaving town this weekend and will be gone for about 3 weeks, I thought might as well push hard for a date, so I got her out and we went out for dinner. She looked very sexy and tbh I had to remind myself to just be real and treat her like another human being. Anyway, the vibe of the dinner was good. We went for a walk afterwards, where she rejected to hold my hand but would still put her arm around my arm as we walk. Throughout the date, I focused on being more man to woman and flirtatious, which may have made me come across as an asshole. I didn't realize that and thought I was just having fun. We walked back to my place and she knew what was going on and still came in. She shit tested me a lot....like A LOT. At first, she tried to put me in the friend zone. Then she kept teasing me for doing this to all the girl, and she's just another number. In fact, she told me I've approached one of her friend as well. I ignored her when she mentioned her friend because honestly I don't care lol. Anyway I was having a lot of fun playing around with cocky and flirty jokes. And I had to dial it down and be real and connect with her. She was still a little suspicious, but we were having fun chatting.
My ex called me a couple of times during the conversation. I just ignored it.
Her: "aren't you going to pick that up?"
Me: "it's fine..anyway"
Her: "are you sure? you can go out and take that call I don't mind"
Me: "na it's ok."
Her: "you see? I think that's gonna be me in the future...you do this all the time =p"
Me: "yea I'll just hang up your call and never call you"
Her: "You're an asshole"
Anyway, time flies and we talked for about 4-5 hours and it was 1pm. I've already tried to kiss her a couple of times but got rejected. We were both lying on my bed. she kept saying how much she likes my bed. I just told her to sleep here. She asked me to promise not to do anything. I said hmm I'll try. she teased me again saying she can't trust me, but she still decided to stay the night. So I got change into my pjs and she took off her bra and made herself comfortable. She tried to put me in the friend zone again saying she doesn't mind sleeping in the same bed as guy friends...I told her this has never happened to me before lol. We both fall asleep kind of close together. I woke up after about a few hours...couldn't sleep. I tried to kiss her again but got rejected. However, she started to sleep on my arm. A few mins later, she changed position and cuddled into me. I tried to fall asleep again, but I couldn't lol I put my other arm around her and we spooned. Now we're sleeping very close together...it just didn't make sense that we're not having sex. Anyway, we started talking and got very intimate conversation wise because we're cuddling. I told her she got the lucky treatment because I like to connect with girls after sex, and it's my favourite part. She laughed and said she liked this too and she never do this with both of her exs.
The sun was about to rise and I knew I don't have a lot of time. So I analyzed the situation and figured I'm probably too unattainable, so I empathized with her and told her I really like her and I would not just spend the last 12 hours with her if I didn't like her. She was starting to believe me but still a bit skeptical. She asked me if this is just a one night stand or fuck buddies and she said she doesn't want to be a fuck buddy with me. I asked about her view on ONS and she said she's probably fine with it but would feel guilty afterwards. I told her I don't like ONS because it just feels rather empty after sex. She teased me for having so much experience again. I asked her if she wanted to see me again. She said "hmmm let's see when you come back". Anyway, a bit of sex talk about blow jobs and other stuff followed. She told me she was getting turned on and so was I. Eventually we started making out, then she told me she's on her period. I told her it's no problem, but she still didn't want to do it. We talked dirty for a little, mainly just using low sexy bedroom voice. She wanted to just give me a blowjob. I said fine and she was pretty good at it. I wanted to come but I didn't. We made out a bit more and she finally decided to have sex. For some reason, I couldn't come and we fked for about 30-40 mins. I also needed to go to class soon, otherwise I would've kept going. She was pretty happy afterwards and was surprised I didn't come. I told her I don't really need to come and I just wanted her to feel good. We cuddled for a bit and I got up and had to get ready for class.
We walked together holding hands to my class. She teased me when I'm going to buy her flowers. I just said "pfft...how about me?" She said I'll just give you a kiss. I just laughed and then we said goodbye.
I didn't text her until that night. I was trying to get rid of the period blood stain on my carpet lol
Me: "Hmm the stain seems to like the carpet
...good luck for your exam tomorrow =)"Next morning
Her: "aww. maybe use bleach xD"
Her: "don't miss me too much ae hehehehe"
Me: "Don't worry. I'll send you shit tons of flowers that says I don't miss you
"Her: "you know what... I don't know how u did it but I think I've fallen for u. hahaha
"Her: "Thank god u aren't here for like a whole month. LOL. hopefully I'll get over it by then XD"
Me; "nah just face it..you're addicted to me xD one month is not enough and I'm actually coming back a bit earlier for a ski trip
"Her: " not sure if it's good or bad to be addicted to you. lol"
Me: "It's good! It makes your heart stronger
" Her: "The way you said it feels like.."prepare to get heart broken bitch" haha
"Her: "anyway, hope you're having a good time back at home =))"
I don't feel like replying here because it feels like a natural stop in the conversation. Plus I don't feel safe keep playing that asshole humour over text lol It can easily be taken seriously.
I really want to see this girl again, but the timing was just really bad because I had to leave town the next day. Plus it seems like she wants to get over me but she can't. I'm not sure what to believe. ....so am I being too unattainable or am I striking the right balance?
I'm thinking about giving her a call or something next weekend and see how things go.
