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Another weekend, I decided to take once again a trip to the central. This time though I wasn't intending of heading to a dance place, but instead to play a few rounds of poker at a local venue and nothing more.
After recapping some Blackjack strategies outside (and noticing a cute girl checking me out while hanging out with her male companion - as she noticed I wasn't focused on her but on the screen of a phone, she started kissing the guy. Hopefully that bandage helped.), I entered the venue. It was quite early and I was the first and only customer to arrive at the poker table (the place had just opened several minutes earlier.). To my surprise, there was an attractive lady greeting me. I wasn't expecting the dealer being a woman - perhaps because every dealer which I had stumbled upon in the past had been a male. But thinking of it now, it's obvious that there's both men and women working as dealers.
She smiled at me and welcomed me to the table. Usually I would've been at an auto pilot, but the vibe in this table was different. We exchanged a few words and I noticed her hands were shaking a little as she shuffled the cards. I asked her what her work is like and whether she enjoys it, to which she mentioned she's just started a few weeks ago ("So that's why her hands were shaking", I thought.. "Or is she nervous of not making an impression? What does that tell of her attraction to me?")
I asked a few more questions and she told more about her work. It didn't take long before the game would begin though and I would have to focus more on playing. I noticed I had turned into a very light mood and would I not be careful enough, I wouldn't focus enough on the game.
I tried to hand her the money to in order to change them into chips, but she friendly asked me to put them to the table so she can count them more clearly that way.
She asked me whether I've played Blackjack before.
- Not that much.
- Well if there's anything you need, I'll gladly help you out.
I had put the money I had won the last time to this pot. Long story short, several rounds later and I had lost it all lol.
- There went the money. I sure didn't double it like the last time.
- Well yes, you could've always doubled the chips during the rounds.
- I meant that I had doubled my pot the last time I played.
- Oh..! (she seemed surprised to hear it)
- Well, would I be a poker addict this would be the time I would go and give some more money to the table. But I think this is all for tonight.
I shaked her hand and I bid her a good evening.
Some time later I realized I should've asked for her number.
It wasn't like she was interested without a doubt, there wasn't just anything that would've indicated she weren't interested. This thing alone would've been enough of a reason to ask for her number. A good reason for a meetup would've been that since I had lost my money, we could've met for a coffee some time so we could've talked about Blackjack tactics. Or I could've just admitted she's an interesting person and that we could meet for a coffee some time (the exact date would've been arranged by phone at a later time).
Yes, she handled things the professional way, but there was a good dose of friendliness behind it. It was like chatting with a work colleaque whom you are in good terms with. Actually, she reminded me a bit of a study colleaque from several years ago:
This lady back then, I was never able to figure her out but looking at it now as I know more about things, she gave me the vibe of a woman who was attracted to me. But she was also a woman who had things going for her - she was independent and succesful. I gave her a very confident vibe, but deep within I had insecurities towards women. She probably sensed these insecurities on a subconscious level, which made her wonder whether I was enough of a man for her. So she was testing me, all the time. Even her friend was testing me. I once went to a student evening where this woman, among many other acquaintances of mine, had also arrived to. I chatted with her a bit and went to the dance floor to have some fun (asking if she wants to join me but she said she isn't really a dance person. So I was like "Fair enough." and went to the dance floor by myself). At the dance floor her female friend joined my company and she started basically interrogating me.
- Tell me. What is the real reason you've arrived here?
It really put me off but I kept my cool.
- Come on, relax. Can't a guy have some fresh air every now and then?
I was confused by her stance back then, but now it basically translates as this:
- You seem like a guy who chases women. But you don't. You are a mystery to my friend and I want to know whether you're really this alpha male which you seem to appear as.
Perhaps she had also seen that me going to the dance floor by myself was a rejection, and that's also why she was frustrated and ended up confronting me.
The problem here was that because of my inexperience, I never moved things forward enough. One time, after an evening event in the middle of the night, she even happened to mention as a side comment to a topic we were discussing, that she happens to live just around the corner. Being pretty much oblivious to subtle hints back then, I just continued to ask about the area since that's where she lives at. I think it was at this point that she probably took me out of the lover option. She saw that I was never going to move things forward with her. But even these days when she's in a committed relationship and I stumble upon her (a thing which doesn't happen often anymore.) she's still the one to approach me, and she's always very invested in the conversations.
She never chased me - she's an alpha woman - but I could've moved things forward with her if I would've noticed her hints and started actually leading like a man.
Wow, I really got sidetracked here didn't I..?
What my point was, that with this dealer there was a bit of a similar vibe. I could've asked for her number and perhaps she would've even given it to me, but I would have to do everything exactly right in the coming dates. One slip or a stumble and I would be out of the lover option. When women really chase you and can't get enough of you, the vibe is different. But still, the less you stumble the better. You have to be vigilant and not take things for granted.
Okay, I think I've rambled enough here. Time to wrap up.
+ Met a new woman
+ Seemed like she was interested
+ Could've even asked for her number
- Professional envivonment made things more difficult since it's harder to notice ioi's
- I didn't ask for her number
- I lost all the money I had won at my last game. What a bummer. Well, for some reason it didn't disappoint me that much. I wonder why.
After recapping some Blackjack strategies outside (and noticing a cute girl checking me out while hanging out with her male companion - as she noticed I wasn't focused on her but on the screen of a phone, she started kissing the guy. Hopefully that bandage helped.), I entered the venue. It was quite early and I was the first and only customer to arrive at the poker table (the place had just opened several minutes earlier.). To my surprise, there was an attractive lady greeting me. I wasn't expecting the dealer being a woman - perhaps because every dealer which I had stumbled upon in the past had been a male. But thinking of it now, it's obvious that there's both men and women working as dealers.
She smiled at me and welcomed me to the table. Usually I would've been at an auto pilot, but the vibe in this table was different. We exchanged a few words and I noticed her hands were shaking a little as she shuffled the cards. I asked her what her work is like and whether she enjoys it, to which she mentioned she's just started a few weeks ago ("So that's why her hands were shaking", I thought.. "Or is she nervous of not making an impression? What does that tell of her attraction to me?")
I asked a few more questions and she told more about her work. It didn't take long before the game would begin though and I would have to focus more on playing. I noticed I had turned into a very light mood and would I not be careful enough, I wouldn't focus enough on the game.
I tried to hand her the money to in order to change them into chips, but she friendly asked me to put them to the table so she can count them more clearly that way.
She asked me whether I've played Blackjack before.
- Not that much.
- Well if there's anything you need, I'll gladly help you out.
I had put the money I had won the last time to this pot. Long story short, several rounds later and I had lost it all lol.
- There went the money. I sure didn't double it like the last time.
- Well yes, you could've always doubled the chips during the rounds.
- I meant that I had doubled my pot the last time I played.
- Oh..! (she seemed surprised to hear it)
- Well, would I be a poker addict this would be the time I would go and give some more money to the table. But I think this is all for tonight.
I shaked her hand and I bid her a good evening.
Some time later I realized I should've asked for her number.
It wasn't like she was interested without a doubt, there wasn't just anything that would've indicated she weren't interested. This thing alone would've been enough of a reason to ask for her number. A good reason for a meetup would've been that since I had lost my money, we could've met for a coffee some time so we could've talked about Blackjack tactics. Or I could've just admitted she's an interesting person and that we could meet for a coffee some time (the exact date would've been arranged by phone at a later time).
Yes, she handled things the professional way, but there was a good dose of friendliness behind it. It was like chatting with a work colleaque whom you are in good terms with. Actually, she reminded me a bit of a study colleaque from several years ago:
This lady back then, I was never able to figure her out but looking at it now as I know more about things, she gave me the vibe of a woman who was attracted to me. But she was also a woman who had things going for her - she was independent and succesful. I gave her a very confident vibe, but deep within I had insecurities towards women. She probably sensed these insecurities on a subconscious level, which made her wonder whether I was enough of a man for her. So she was testing me, all the time. Even her friend was testing me. I once went to a student evening where this woman, among many other acquaintances of mine, had also arrived to. I chatted with her a bit and went to the dance floor to have some fun (asking if she wants to join me but she said she isn't really a dance person. So I was like "Fair enough." and went to the dance floor by myself). At the dance floor her female friend joined my company and she started basically interrogating me.
- Tell me. What is the real reason you've arrived here?
It really put me off but I kept my cool.
- Come on, relax.
Can't a guy have some fresh air every now and then?I was confused by her stance back then, but now it basically translates as this:
- You seem like a guy who chases women. But you don't. You are a mystery to my friend and I want to know whether you're really this alpha male which you seem to appear as.
Perhaps she had also seen that me going to the dance floor by myself was a rejection, and that's also why she was frustrated and ended up confronting me.
The problem here was that because of my inexperience, I never moved things forward enough. One time, after an evening event in the middle of the night, she even happened to mention as a side comment to a topic we were discussing, that she happens to live just around the corner. Being pretty much oblivious to subtle hints back then, I just continued to ask about the area since that's where she lives at. I think it was at this point that she probably took me out of the lover option. She saw that I was never going to move things forward with her. But even these days when she's in a committed relationship and I stumble upon her (a thing which doesn't happen often anymore.) she's still the one to approach me, and she's always very invested in the conversations.
She never chased me - she's an alpha woman - but I could've moved things forward with her if I would've noticed her hints and started actually leading like a man.
Wow, I really got sidetracked here didn't I..?
What my point was, that with this dealer there was a bit of a similar vibe. I could've asked for her number and perhaps she would've even given it to me, but I would have to do everything exactly right in the coming dates. One slip or a stumble and I would be out of the lover option. When women really chase you and can't get enough of you, the vibe is different. But still, the less you stumble the better. You have to be vigilant and not take things for granted.
Okay, I think I've rambled enough here. Time to wrap up.
+ Met a new woman
+ Seemed like she was interested
+ Could've even asked for her number
- Professional envivonment made things more difficult since it's harder to notice ioi's
- I didn't ask for her number
- I lost all the money I had won at my last game. What a bummer. Well, for some reason it didn't disappoint me that much. I wonder why.
