Rumours

[Flames]

I have a general question for the community here.

Would you believe a rumor of a sexual nature about a girl you liked and thought was ok and/or would it put you off them?

I'm so much concerned about the specifics of the rumor, but why I got to indirectly know about it.

Thoughts ?

 

[Franco]

Flames,

If you want my input, then nothing said about a girl really affects my opinion of her beforehand. I'm of a "see it to believe it, but open to everything" personality type. I'd rather take the girl to bed myself (while screening) to get my own impression of what she's like.

Rumors usually are started by people who have some sort of jealousy directed toward someone, and these often turn out to be false because of this. So there's no telling how much validity there is to the rumor until you find out for yourself.

EDIT: As far as directly answering your question about why you got to know about it, my above answer still applies. Ignore why you heard about it and still move things forward (if that's what you want to do).

- Franco

 

[Flames]

Thanks Franco for your reply I'm a see it to believe it person. Actually wether it's true or not shouldn't really matter as there could be a whole load of reasons why she did or didn't do something. The only thing that matter is how that person is with you at the end of the day.

 

[Doctor]

Yeah I wouldn't put too much heed on rumours. You can establish what you need to know about her first hand by just interacting with her, your own judgement should be a much more reliable source.

Especially don't pay any heed if it's a girl talking about another girl. I have been surprised on multiple occasions just how vindictive girls can be towards each other, especially when there is an attractive guy involved and false rumour spreading would be nothing new here.

This is of course unless it's something like an STD or something that can actually do you harm, then you might want to proceed with a certain amount of caution, just to be safe. It's probably still bollocks though and worth making your own judgements/decisions.

 

[Flames]

I actually expect more answers from what is really only an opinion post, there's no wrong answers here..

 

[Nuncle]

Anyway everyone has a past. C'es la vie.

 

[Chase]

Flames-

Depends on the rumor, although I've noticed that where I used to dismiss these as trash-talking and back-biting, usually there's some kernel of truth to them that gets them started. Now, if that's something like, "I heard she deep throats," that's probably a plus more than anything; if it's, "I heard she cheats on every guy she dates within the first 3 months," I'd probably rein in any hopes for wedding bells and take a more cautious opinion of her until I had a better feel for her personality type in a relationship.

Chase

 

[Flames]

Haha thanks Chase.

Unfortunately is was more like the later comment than the former.