So there's this girl in my student dorm, that I met at a party for newly moved-in students, who I really want to bang. She seemed pretty experienced, which I like because I'm definitely *not* very experienced and if I was trying to get an inexperienced girl into bed we would both fuck it up. We had run into each other once on the elevator since then, and I was pretty sure she was a dead lead, and hadn't thought about her for about two weeks or so until yesterday.
I had some friends visiting this weekend, and we met up yesterday (Sunday) for brunch. I had already eaten breakfast and so I was going to order a salad, but apparently all they had was the brunch buffet. I was pretty pissed off about this, and went back home to grab some food and meet up with them later. The elevator was taking a really long time to leave the basement and I just started yelling at the elevator (I was pretty mad, I hadn't slept well and was frustrated at the gender ratio at this university), and then looked around to see if anyone was within earshot, which there wasn't.
The elevator finally shows up, and I open the door and walk in. And then it turns out this girl is in the elevator (and in hindsight, was the reason it took so long to come from the basement). Some coversation ensues, altough the order of what was said when is difficult to remember:
Me - [I think I paused for a second here, completely surprised to see this girl there]
Me - What a nice surprise (I wasn't sarcastic either, basically a 180 degree change in my mood, my blood is still boiling but with a different emotion
)
Her - You look like you've had a good time
Me - Ya I was in <city> last night
Her - Are you just getting back now?
Me - Haha no, that would be... a more crazy night (can't really remember what I said here, but it wasn't really coherent)
Me - Did you hear me yelling at the elevator?
Her - No I just woke up so I'm kind of still dreaming
Me - We're going to <other city> today (like I said, the order's probably wrong here)
We're interrupted because the elevator gets to my floor, way too fast, which I get pretty annoyed at and try to wrap up the conversation, saying a bunch of things incoherently, the last of which is "We should hang out sometime" and then I go walk to my room but go the wrong way first and have to turn around, so totally distracted by my anger and by this girl lol.
After this encounter I go heat up some food in the microwave, and just sit on the couch fuming. Eventually it occurs to me that I could have manhandle kissed her on the elevator and it would've been really hot. Anyone think that would have been a good idea? I also realized after the fact that I didn't need to leave just because the elevator was at my floor; no one was waiting and she probably wasn't in any hurry, having just gotten back from the laundry. Oh well.
By the way, does anyone have any good ideas for what I could have done here? I also could have asked her what she was doing right then, and told her to come with me to my room for a bit, etc. I still had to move quickly because my friends were picking me up soon, but whatever, I still could've fucked her in that time. I have no idea if she would have been up for it, but I feel like the fact that I was so mad and taking so much action would've turned her on.
Anyway, I decided to text her the following, hoping it will make me come across as a byronic, passionate guy:
Me - Hey sorry if I was acting weird earlier, I was pissed off about something. That said, if you're up for it I'd like to share a drink with you later
I couldn't really think of the best way to write the second part of that text, and I just got impatient and sent that. But I don't think it turned out to bad - let me know if you have any better ideas. Anyway, here's the rest of the text conversation. My comments are in (parentheses)
Her - THAT was you pissed off??
Her - haha you must be the nicest person when you are angry
Me - Ok FINE, next time I'll yell at you or something
Me - That offer still stands btw (sorry but I'm not fucking around, answer the question)
Her - Hahahha please no
Her - I would love to but i already have plans for today!
Her - But another time?
Me - No you asked for it, next time there won't be any *nice* angry Michael
Me - Sure we can do another time [thumbs up]
Her - Hahahahaa but only without the kinky threats
Me - Just don't piss me off
I don't think that last line "Just don't piss me off" was the best thing to say, maybe still too threatening, but I wasn't expecting her reply to it, and I was still kind of mad so I think she would've understood. Maybe.
I think I'll just plan on running into her again in person and going from there. I'm a bit worried though that next time we see each other we won't be alone - that was just too perfect. Plus it would be nice to be able to take control of when we get in contact, so maybe I should text her in a couple of weeks. I'll also try to slip in the fact that I'm moving out of this building in December, so that she knows if it doesn't work out she won't keep running into me.
Please gents, any tips would be appreciated I'm still quite inexperienced with women, I'm 23 and haven't had sex, and haven't kissed a girl since about 2 years ago. In the last year I put my head down, just trying to get through my degree (and I lived with my parents, so logistics were shitty), but now I'm moved out and am a horny-ass 20-something looking to take back the ground I lost and start having sex.
I had some friends visiting this weekend, and we met up yesterday (Sunday) for brunch. I had already eaten breakfast and so I was going to order a salad, but apparently all they had was the brunch buffet. I was pretty pissed off about this, and went back home to grab some food and meet up with them later. The elevator was taking a really long time to leave the basement and I just started yelling at the elevator (I was pretty mad, I hadn't slept well and was frustrated at the gender ratio at this university), and then looked around to see if anyone was within earshot, which there wasn't.
The elevator finally shows up, and I open the door and walk in. And then it turns out this girl is in the elevator (and in hindsight, was the reason it took so long to come from the basement). Some coversation ensues, altough the order of what was said when is difficult to remember:
Me - [I think I paused for a second here, completely surprised to see this girl there]
Me - What a nice surprise (I wasn't sarcastic either, basically a 180 degree change in my mood, my blood is still boiling but with a different emotion
)Her - You look like you've had a good time
Me - Ya I was in <city> last night
Her - Are you just getting back now?
Me - Haha no, that would be... a more crazy night (can't really remember what I said here, but it wasn't really coherent)
Me - Did you hear me yelling at the elevator?
Her - No I just woke up so I'm kind of still dreaming
Me - We're going to <other city> today (like I said, the order's probably wrong here)
We're interrupted because the elevator gets to my floor, way too fast, which I get pretty annoyed at and try to wrap up the conversation, saying a bunch of things incoherently, the last of which is "We should hang out sometime" and then I go walk to my room but go the wrong way first and have to turn around, so totally distracted by my anger and by this girl lol.
After this encounter I go heat up some food in the microwave, and just sit on the couch fuming. Eventually it occurs to me that I could have manhandle kissed her on the elevator and it would've been really hot. Anyone think that would have been a good idea? I also realized after the fact that I didn't need to leave just because the elevator was at my floor; no one was waiting and she probably wasn't in any hurry, having just gotten back from the laundry. Oh well.
By the way, does anyone have any good ideas for what I could have done here? I also could have asked her what she was doing right then, and told her to come with me to my room for a bit, etc. I still had to move quickly because my friends were picking me up soon, but whatever, I still could've fucked her in that time. I have no idea if she would have been up for it, but I feel like the fact that I was so mad and taking so much action would've turned her on.
Anyway, I decided to text her the following, hoping it will make me come across as a byronic, passionate guy:
Me - Hey sorry if I was acting weird earlier, I was pissed off about something. That said, if you're up for it I'd like to share a drink with you later
I couldn't really think of the best way to write the second part of that text, and I just got impatient and sent that. But I don't think it turned out to bad - let me know if you have any better ideas. Anyway, here's the rest of the text conversation. My comments are in (parentheses)
Her - THAT was you pissed off??
Her - haha you must be the nicest person when you are angry
Me - Ok FINE, next time I'll yell at you or something
Me - That offer still stands btw (sorry but I'm not fucking around, answer the question)
Her - Hahahha please no
Her - I would love to but i already have plans for today!
Her - But another time?
Me - No you asked for it, next time there won't be any *nice* angry Michael
Me - Sure we can do another time [thumbs up]
Her - Hahahahaa but only without the kinky threats
Me - Just don't piss me off
I don't think that last line "Just don't piss me off" was the best thing to say, maybe still too threatening, but I wasn't expecting her reply to it, and I was still kind of mad so I think she would've understood. Maybe.
I think I'll just plan on running into her again in person and going from there. I'm a bit worried though that next time we see each other we won't be alone - that was just too perfect. Plus it would be nice to be able to take control of when we get in contact, so maybe I should text her in a couple of weeks. I'll also try to slip in the fact that I'm moving out of this building in December, so that she knows if it doesn't work out she won't keep running into me.
Please gents, any tips would be appreciated
I'm still quite inexperienced with women, I'm 23 and haven't had sex, and haven't kissed a girl since about 2 years ago. In the last year I put my head down, just trying to get through my degree (and I lived with my parents, so logistics were shitty), but now I'm moved out and am a horny-ass 20-something looking to take back the ground I lost and start having sex.