so went on a first date with this girl (just before Xmas), and it went really well culminating in us sleeping together. Both keen on eachother then made kind of loose arrangements to go out again the following week (just after xmas).
In between on xmas day I went to a friends party (they dont know eachother) and casually mentioned about the date to her and how it was great. My friend (a girl) was insistent that I need to be speaking to her all the time, however I disagreed but she sent a “seemingly innocent” text to her from my phone (possible sabotage in hindsight) asking her how her day had been with a little emoji on the end blowing a heart kiss (I had already asked how her xmas was going earlier the same day). Naturally the girl I had been on a date with didnt reply - it was a text that made me look needy even though i didnt send it.
Thats when things started going a bit funny and she started going hot and cold. We seemed to get the convo flowing again a couple weeks after to the point when she seemed very interested again, then midway through setting up a day to meet up again she ghosted me, even though she suggested meeting the next week if i was free??
Although still talking to me, since then shes been a bit off and it seems to be getting worse. I havent been sending loads of texts or anything and try to keep it simple, not making idle chit chat barring a couple of exceptions
I want to get this girl out on a D2 because I just do, I like her and think there is potential there (which is rare as im very selective and wont waste girls time if i dont see potential). Other than the first text from her after date I must admit I have been the one to contact first but when Ive showed friends/family the convo thread they all say what ive said isnt that bad.
Personally I think that because of that text I didnt send on Xmas day (which any girl would probably translate as needy) its distorted her perceptions of any subsequent text interactions from me towards the assumption that im chasing or being needy.
I don’t feel time is on my side here she is a very attractive girl so how can I rectify this asap and get it back on track and ultimately secure D2? When we are seeing eachother face to face I am confident on that front, its just the texting side that seems to be going tits up at the mo
Happy to provide screenshots of the convos if it helps... let me know where to send
Thanks
In between on xmas day I went to a friends party (they dont know eachother) and casually mentioned about the date to her and how it was great. My friend (a girl) was insistent that I need to be speaking to her all the time, however I disagreed but she sent a “seemingly innocent” text to her from my phone (possible sabotage in hindsight) asking her how her day had been with a little emoji on the end blowing a heart kiss (I had already asked how her xmas was going earlier the same day). Naturally the girl I had been on a date with didnt reply - it was a text that made me look needy even though i didnt send it.
Thats when things started going a bit funny and she started going hot and cold. We seemed to get the convo flowing again a couple weeks after to the point when she seemed very interested again, then midway through setting up a day to meet up again she ghosted me, even though she suggested meeting the next week if i was free??
Although still talking to me, since then shes been a bit off and it seems to be getting worse. I havent been sending loads of texts or anything and try to keep it simple, not making idle chit chat barring a couple of exceptions
I want to get this girl out on a D2 because I just do, I like her and think there is potential there (which is rare as im very selective and wont waste girls time if i dont see potential). Other than the first text from her after date I must admit I have been the one to contact first but when Ive showed friends/family the convo thread they all say what ive said isnt that bad.
Personally I think that because of that text I didnt send on Xmas day (which any girl would probably translate as needy) its distorted her perceptions of any subsequent text interactions from me towards the assumption that im chasing or being needy.
I don’t feel time is on my side here she is a very attractive girl so how can I rectify this asap and get it back on track and ultimately secure D2? When we are seeing eachother face to face I am confident on that front, its just the texting side that seems to be going tits up at the mo
Happy to provide screenshots of the convos if it helps... let me know where to send
Thanks
