FR Saturday night NYC. Being checked out and rejected

[ajx032]

Went to this lounge with two friends. One guy is ESFP phillipine, really good vibe. His vibe is like matthew mcconaughey. Second guy is from Nigeria with a thick accent but is a bodybuilder. So we go in and they start approaching. I haven't approached for months and know what I did wrong. So I watch them and they are getting rejected left and right. I noticed few African girls in the corner. I approach one as she is standing in the corner.

Me: you want to dance
her: no

I move on

I see a black girl on the dance floor standing with her friend.

Me: you want to dance
her: no

I noticed two European girls were dancing by me at the bar. When I walk around the dance floor I noticed they stand right next to me and are dancing. Now my black friend danced with one alil bit but he is a few steps away from me. So these girls are to my left giggling and dancing next to me. I talk with one and say hey wats going on and she turns away from me. The other European girl is giggling and dancing next to me with her back towards me. Anyway I just stand there and watch my friends game. Next thing the two European women walk away after rejecting most guys on the dance floor. So tips?

Black girl in fedora was dancing with her friend.
Me: Wanna dance
Her: I don't dance but its my birthday and you can buy me a shot

I just walked away after that


My frame was low
My vibe was scared
Leading and answering to there challeneges is my biggest issue.

Funny thing is the black girl was still checking me out till the end but said no to me when I asked her to dance

 

[Smith]

Re: FR Saturday night NYC. Tips about being checked out and rejected

Hey ajx,

Me: you want to dance
her: no

I understand if u haven't approach girls for months and it could be intimidating, but I hope you didn't just talk to 3 girls the whole night. Because if this the way your interactions are running most of the time then you're learning too slow. Stop half assing your approach and get some quality reference experience. If you follow GC or any RSD video, they have good examples on what to do in these situation.

Me: Wanna dance
Her: I don't dance but its my birthday and you can buy me a shot

I just walked away after that

STAY in the interaction. What are you hoping to learn by walking away the first minute a girl challenges u? You could easily bypass her objection here and start a conversation. She probably said that to all the guys tonight as a playful challenge. If you want to learn how to be confident, stop walking away and at least try something you learn on GC. You NEED the reference experience. This is not good enough. Also start enjoying yourself without girls, talk to everyone and have fun. Get that social momentum up.