Seasonal Girlfriends... Yay or Nay?

[Estate]

Hi guys,
I don't really know how I went so many years before this one came to my attention. I guess I've seen it but didn't notice it in hindsight.

Anyway... the terms "Seasonal BG/GF", "Winter BF/GF" and "Cuffing Season" have all been popping up in my facebook as things people share.
I've noticed some, mainly female, friends do have a sort of habit of this but I never really thought it was an intentional or deliberate thing.

What do you guys think of the ethics on this one?

I mean, there's obviously a personal twist to this. I really haven't been willing to give any sort of relationship a go with anyone in a long time now. I've been open to trying but just not meeting the girls I'd be willing to do it for.
Anyway, I've been seeing a girl lately. As he cold snap is running into New England, I know that any real game goes into hibernation until about March. (Please don't say Mall game, yes, I know malls exist but ayone living in the north east will know people do tend to hibernate a bit in the winter months.) I've been thinking of giving it a shot with this girl as it's been so long since I've really tried with anyone but obviously I'm skeptical about relationships these days. Given that I am, I almost feel guilty getting into one. It'd be nice to have the company through the cold months and take a break from game for a little bit and see where things go, but if it wasn't to work... I'd still feel like it was "deliberate" and a bit guilty. I mean, if she was amazing, it wouldn't have to be a seasonal thing... but who knows right now???

Is this just part and parcel of dating? Seeing someone for a few months? I've really shyed away from anything that looked serious if it was going past a few weeks.

 

[JimmyB]

I've heard a good deal about "Cuffing season" as well. Especially if you're somewhere cold, like in your case, and you can't go out and pick up as easily, it's not a bad idea. If you go into it with the agreed upon notion of 'just a winter thing' she may also be all for that. Is that what she's looking for as well? That'd make it casual and easy, and you know where it will end.

 

[bassman]

Hey Estate, I live in an area where the winters are cold and shitty and yes I,ve noticed this trend over the years. I never knew there was an official name for it though. I just always called it "shacking up for the winter". A lot of the young ladies will sample guys through out the summer and have fun and then pick the best flavor to hunker down with through the long winter days.

I have especially noticed certain gals rushing to find a guy at the end of august into september as they played too long. This is when it is easiest for me to bed women or find a girlfriend. Id say 75% of my lays and relationships have occurred during this period because of this factor alone. Whether it is concious or subconscious, they are doing this for a reason. Maybe because they cant display their bodies and attractive qualities as well with heavy winter clothing on thereby reducing their chances of aquireing a high value man.

So I say if girls can play this card and not worry about it, then guys should be able to as well. If it is what you want, I would go for it if I were you. I wouldn't directly tell her this is a plan of yours though.