Post-coital conversations is a new thing in my repertoire and a very educational. Here I was, thinking I was the lucky one to have a shot on a high-quality girl. I've seen her from my extended social circle (she is a friend of a friend of mine) and I knew that she was someone a lot of guys was after. I've been playing around with chase dynamics lately with, so far, good results. I just did not know that my fundamentals alone got her pretty excited to meet me. Thank you guys.
The situation
I'm not the best at social circle game, but I know how it often works here in Norway. From my experience with cold approach and talks with countless women, I know that 98% of people meet each other that way and a lot do it on bars as well. I have been doing the latter lately and have some reference points in handling objections, staying unfazed to interruptions and deep diving despite time constraints and cockblocks.
Let me call this girl Johanna. She is a bit taller than me, blonde and have an athletic body with well-defined muscle tone. She is 31 years old and is one of those girls that seem to light almost every social gathering. I've seen her for afar (social media), guys that have a crush on her tell me stories about how cool and vibrant she is. I did not think a lot about her other than knowing who she was.
Our first encounter
This is actually our second and but the first in her mind (I cold approached her on an earlier occasion, but she doesn't remember).
I was sitting at a pre-party with some friends when she arrives. I knew the other guys would start chasing as soon as she entered the room (we were four guys) so I decided to just close my eyes, sing to Michael Jackson and enjoy the moment. I stood up and introduced myself very warmly, before excusing myself and leaving the party.
Little did I know that this introduction made a great impact on her.
Second encounter
A couple of months later I throw a party with one of my friends who also is one of her orbiters (he is relatively good with women, but always had an eye for Johanna).
She appears and we start talking a bit, I see that my other friend also likes her and starts flirting with her igniting a love triangle drama between him and the orbiter.
I did not mind this happening since I still was dating Audur (Icelandic girl) and always trying to approach new women. I've also been warned from gaming social circle girls since words can get around and drama can start happening (as it did with these two guys). So I just kept my distance and minded my own business.
Third encounter
This is when the fun stuff starts happening. Her orbiter friend throws a birthday party and I was already flirty with several girls when she arrives. I guess my pre-selection, combined with the mystery of not chasing her (like all the other guys do) made her very interested in me. She approaches me and we start flirting heavily.
This is when I touch her on the small of her back making her very excited. Some of her orbiter friends cockblock us and I start to flirt with her friend instead who was very into me.
I also realize how having the alpha- females interest of a certain social group makes the other girls like me as well. One of her closest friends starts chasing me hard and I almost hooked up with her only to be "saved" by Audur since she wanted to meet me. I don't know if I would get Johanna if I hooked up with her friend and word got around. If some of you guys have an opinion about this, please comment. Since I do not have any reference points doing so.
Fourth encounter
Again, I was not chasing at all and let the other guys fight for her. Her friend (the one that chased me) threw another party inviting me as well. I felt like I was already a integral part of the group thanks to my deep diving and story-telling skills. And when I arrived some of her other friends were very curious about me. Several of them were also flirting a lot (while her orbiter friend was chasing her hard).
Before this encounter we where already texting about meeting up.
Me: (Touching her face). I am so glad to see you Johanna. You know that I am a little bit in love with you, doncha? (Teasing her as well).
Her: Let's meet up next week I would love to see get to know you a bit better.
The thing here is we only had four small conversations, always ending them on a high point and always having to deal with interruptions. I laughed at this of course, seeing the other guys chasing and almost acting like clowns just to get her. My goal here was to be charming, enticing and mysterious.
Fith encounter
So we finally meet. She tells me is feeling sick, and ask me if it's okay if we could hang out at my place instead (I saw this as an invitation for seduction).
As we lay in my bed I tried to kiss her. Several times. She tells me she can't since she is in a love-triangle drama (the one with my friends) and doesn't want to complicate it further with getting involved with me. I jokingly agreed, only to try to escalate a couple of more times. After she left I thought I lost her. Missed escalation points. Fuck me.
But it turns out that social circle works a little different than cold approach. In social circle girls are more forgiving of mistakes.
The sex and the aftermath
Sex did not happen before out fourth intimate encounter. On our second meeting, we kissed. But I couldn't get past fingering her a bit before we ended up having sex on our seventh encounter. Now we are lovers and she sends me a lot of cute texts every day. I think she is a little in love with me.
This is my first time infiltrating, flirting and seducing a girl on a tight social circle. And even with me moving as fast as I could (and keeping our interactions prior to our meeting short and exciting). It wasn't difficult to deal with LMR the day we had sex (since I think she already made her mind about us getting together). She is traveling to India in a couple of weeks. And want us to be lovers and nothing more (which is fine for me). However, this is the first time I encountered what in my eyes is a high-quality girl. She is beautiful, caring, the alpha of her group and has a dynamic personality. If circumstances were different, I would make her chase me to become my girlfriend. She tells me that she likes my care-free nature (thanks to all the interactions with women the past year) and that I seem strong and powerful.
We agreed to keep our romance secret (I think if words got around, a lot of things could go wrong), but we are sensing her orbiter friend is getting a sense of what is happening.
And one more thing: I stole her under her orbiters nose. While they were busy fighting for her, I was busy seducing her. Nothing feels more rewarding than being care-free, having options and moving as fast as possible. A very educational experience actually, and a confidence booster to know that a gorgeous girl wants you.
Things I could improve:
I could have moved faster
Things I did well
Being mysterious
Sprezzatura
Keeping conversations short and instead worry about flirting with other girls no matter what (pre-selection)
Discretion
Making her orgasm each time we had sex (twice)
Good fundamentals
