Seduction in the Iron Temple

[MrVariety]

I'm starting this journal to share my process on mastering pick up at the gym - in case anyone finds it valuable or would contribute to what I'm trying to learn.

Some context: I started lifting ten years ago - which I've done consistently leading to a bodybuilding physique. I started pick up approximately the same time, but the intensity has varied. I was full into night game for the first couple years, then transitioned into day game, and then more and more becoming an integrated part of my life rather than something I "do," hence the transition toward things like pick up at the gym.

I've been practicing picking up girls at the gym for roughly a year now, gradually doing it more and more now that I've become more comfortable doing so. I had a wake up call when I realized how much time I spent in the gym and how few girls I've talked to there. I've always have had a hang-up on talking to girls at the gym due to the pressure. Now I want to really get this one down.

I find it exciting that not only can very few guys can approach girls in the day time in the street. But among pick up artists, talking to girls at the gym is relatively rare - and it seen as difficult. It would be exciting for me to master something niche like this.

I've written a guide on how to do this from what I've learned so far here: https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/a-little-guide-on-how-to-pick-up-girls-at-the-gym.30793/ and I hope to update it as I continue.

Monday:
As I entered the gym there was a girl I had already talked to doing some reverse hamstring stuff. She looked at me and we smiled at each other. After putting my stuff in the locker I started a conversation talking about how I checked out another gym by her recommendation. She was talkative but then told me she had to finish her workout. She always smiles at me seeing me. I've tried to take her number the first time I talked to her, but she told me she had a boyfriend. Maybe things have changed. I'll probably suggest working out together next time I'm talking to her, and then make fun of myself I'm a horrible person for not respecting that she have a boyfriend.

I've always idealized her as a prime hot gym girl. Having conversation with her close up today made me realize her face is kind of weird.

The regular P.T gatekeeper was overhearing the conversation. I try to limit approaching in front of him too much but opening to her about a past subject makes it seem like we already know each other. I think it's a bonus since she was more engaged in the conversation than I was.

Eventually a cute young fit ginger girl with a nice blue ass started rowing, and then stopped rowing to lift weights. I've seen her before but I asked her anyway "Are you new here?" she smiled and said "No I've been here for about a year". Then I went to do lateral raises, she did pull-ups. I finished my set. The ping had received a positive feedback, smile and she gave me more info than I asked for. So I rebooted with "A year, really? How come I haven't seen you before?"

it was sort of a forced approach since she was having headphones on doing super sets and I was obviously disturbing... but I've become more comfortable doing sort of awkward approaches just standing there until she finished. I've come to understand not every approach has to be smooth or James Bondy...

The conversation then went to her training schedule, my training schedule, etc. "I can only train in the afternoon because of school." "Oh, are you going to [local university]?" "Nooo I'm still in secondary school.... I'm 19." And then she told me she was going to the military in autumn.

This would've been the perfect opportunity to say something like "Oh, so soon! Maybe we could squeeze in a work out together before I leave for summer vacation."

But I didn't. Just before that I saw a bunch of 19-year old guys (gym regulars) enter the room we were in and she looked over, I felt she knew them, and so I felt too weird asking to hang out in front of them. I guess I'm ashamed for not caring she's 19. It's so fucking stupid. I can't believe some teenagers got in my head. What would they do, anyway? I definitely need to just stop caring so much about what other people think of me.

Homework is to visualize over and over she saying she's nineteen, everyone hears it, me asking for number in front of everyone.

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Friday I had a sort of epiphany that I felt like home in the gym. I've basically talked to over half of the people in that day. It seems like this "home" feeling stems from how many people I've talked to. And feeling at home somewhere changes the dynamic entirely when talking to people.

Not a single hot girl in the gym until Saturday. Though I didn't even approach. Two girls entered the gym, the third had arrived early and was on the treadmill. When the third girl walked over to them our eyes met and we smiled to each other. She was not pretty, but I had the perfect opportunity to open the set with a warm person and then eventually transition to her cute friends. I screwed this one up.

Mr Variety

 

[the player of games]

me asking for number in front of everyone.

Read your guide, not that I'm going to be picking up in the gym anytime soon.

You said that you are sociable with everyone, including guys in that guide. Do you get their phone numbers too? That would cement you as the sociable guy and it's no big deal that others now see you going for a girl's number. Plus you might actually make some friends as a bonus.

 

[MrVariety]

Read your guide, not that I'm going to be picking up in the gym anytime soon.

You said that you are sociable with everyone, including guys in that guide. Do you get their phone numbers too? That would cement you as the sociable guy and it's no big deal that others now see you going for a girl's number. Plus you might actually make some friends as a bonus.

It would be misguided to take numbers of guys just for the show. It doesn't make enough of a difference to bother with it. I'd change the emphasis as the primary benefit is getting friends, and plus it might actually be a bonus in terms of cementing the casual social attitude you can use to alleviate pressure when picking up girls.

I occasionally exchange numbers with guys - but not as often as with girls. The threshold of awkwardness or "beyond normal" when talking to guys is much lower for me than with girls. Problem for me is that I don't really have that intrinsic motivation to want to hang with a guy unless he's super cool, my age, and is approx. on the same level of fitness as I am or above.

If anything, what makes a difference for cementing a good reputation is training together regularly with various people at the gym. When you feel you know people there, you'll feel at home, and you will be much more relaxed talking to girls.

Mr Variety

 

[MrVariety]

It's been a while since I posted here. For some time I trained without any girls in sight, except when I was training with the one girl I was currently seeing. When I trained with her there was a lot of PDA, and there was one cute fit blonde who looked at me every time I looked at her. We shared eye contact probably six times and she sometimes took the initiative. I was burning on the inside. I couldn't make up my mind whether my girl or she had the better ass, but she definitely had the better face. How horrible that the warmest of warm approaches happens precisely when it's totally inappropriate to approach her.

So the girl I've been training with regularly has basically cockblocked me. Great.

I've trained alone once after this - I was not feeling very expansive. Turns out I was developing a fever. There was maybe three or four approachable women, and there was one guy in the gym who talked to a lot of them, making the laugh out loud. At first I thought he knew them, because they were so engaged in the conversation. Then I suspected he owned the gym. But he's just a guy who's really good at the Farming Method. When I left the gym he initiated a interaction and I replied briefly. I don't know why I shut him off, but it was probably because I was feeling sick.

I feel considerable more resistance talking to women who some other guy has also recently chatted up. I'm afraid I'm overwhelming her "All the guys are talking to me today, what's up with that?" since it's so uncommon to do this, at least my country, to talk to one another in the gym, I'm afraid it will be just so weird for her to have me come up after him. The only way to find out if my concerns are legit is to actually just do it - talk to her after the other guy, and see what happens.

Been out of the gym due to sickness, summer camps, retreats, etc.

Yesterday I got back in the gym, and I noticed there was a new staff member, a young cute girl. She was really lively and I introduced myself, basically saying I noticed whenever there's someone new here and she asked if I'm a social person and I said yes. We had a fun conversation, definitely nice to befriend her.

Today I saw a really fit girl with pink juicy shorts. I walked past her a couple times looking at her but she was in her own world. The gym was crowded so I figured there's nothing really to be gained here. She had stuff on a bench I wanted to use so I took the opportunity "Excuse me are you using this?" and she surprisingly replied with expansive energy saying no no I just left my stuff here haha go ahead and take it." And I said "Oh by the way are you new here?" I haven't seen her before. We chatted about work out schedules. I said I liked to train at a specific time because there's only old people in the gym, and she was making jokes about she one time asked a grandma to spot her bench press. I "cold read" her workout program and I made her laugh a lot and eventually tried something @James Cruse nspired me to do, going for the insta date. I asked her what she was doing after the work out and she said "I'm going to go make dinner and then rush off to work." So no insta-date. But I asked when the next time she's going to train, she said "Probably tomorrow." "Cool, do you want to train together?" "Sure!" She said, and we shook hands at 12:00. Didn't take her number. Might have been a mistake. Who knows. But I like this because all the signals initially told me she wasn't worth approaching. With experience I realize everything I know is wrong.

Hopefully I'll manage a insta date soon though.

Mr Variety

 

[MrVariety]

Gym workout with the fit pink juicy shorts girl went all good - I picked up lots of variations of stuff and new exercises I've come to be fond of. Lot's of exchange in gym tips between us so that's nice. Problem is she's working 200% and have barely any free time outside the gym. If I'm going to spend time with her it's going to be another gym date. Somewhat lost interest. I texted her, and then bumped into her another day. She told me she just saw my message and haven't had time to reply. She texted me later that day... I haven't had much motivation to follow up on this one.

Today I broke my own rules. I've been taking creatine lately and it's been like a crazy drug for me for training focus. I decided to put on headphones against my own advice. I saw a really thinly dressed girl with yet another pink training tights, white top. pink headphones, slim feminine girl doing RDL's over and over and over again. I finished my workout, took off my headphones, said something but she didn't hear me, she was about to do her set. So I waited sort of awkwardly checking my phone until she finished the longest set of RDL's I've ever witnessed in my life and then I waved, she took off her headphones and I asked if she's new here. She was - and new in town - and we talked about what a pity people aren't social in gyms here, and she missed her time in Germany. She was talking constantly, super soft ASMR voice, I asked her to show me her music and I showed her mine. She was dancing while she was talking - super cute. She did another set of RDL's (21 reps) while she was talking simultaneously about how her body parts etc and I was checking out her form and I realized I'm actually staring at her ass when I suddenly got aroused. She didn't mind. I wanted to go for insta-date but she had just started her training and I was done. So we agreed on training tomorrow at another gym 12:00 tomorrow. Shook hands on it, and I took her WhatsApp too "In case something comes up, and I can't make it"

Though I prefer training at this time, it's not really the ideal considering it's the start of the day so if I want to eat or hang out later it might be a bigger investment considering it's less natural to end it in the middle of the day in summer vacation. Hm. I'm going to figure it out. Anyway I love girls with probable ADHD, who lacks self-consciousness - super comfortable to hang out with. Looking forward to tomorrow. As I said bye I saw the other pink shorts girl from the other day. Maybe she saw maybe she didn't. Don't care. I'm hyper social and I find it easier to hang out with women than men. Nothing wrong with that.

What I would like to focus on improving is fighting the urge to inject stuff while she's talking. Also I am generally too friendly, like nodding head and agreeing. I would like to be more challenging and give her more space to impress me, to be comfortable with a little silence to add some pressure upon her to see if she comes up with something cool to say.

Energetic Mr Variety on creatine

 

[MrVariety]

Following up on the last post, meeting at noon actually worked out in my favor this time. I had taken her Whatsapp but I didn't text her, just assuming she would show up. Eventually it was 12:10 and then I went on her Whatsapp and sent her a message, I noticed she had a new profile picture so I clicked on it and then I saw her status "I'm running a bit late, I'll explain when I get there." LOL.

Did back day with her. She did half-strict pull-ups to the chest for ten reps, excusing herself of her poor performance due to body lotion on her hands. It just makes no logical sense to me as how those thin arms can produce that power to lift her up as if she's wearing a thick ass band. She has also been able to do muscle ups. Impressive woman! The exercises I showed her (invented?) helped her with her shoulder issues so that's nice too.

Afterwards we went to my place and made food. She's vegetarian and I'm carnivore so we had to be creative. What's nice about the carnivore diet is that I actually cannot go for lame dates, like dinners (too expensive) or smoothies or whatever. It actually forces me to bring her back to my place or go to hers to cook. The other day I went out to eat with a girl after bowling and my bank account had $100 less afterwards. Completely unnecessary, silly and counter-productive. I made a compromise and ate cod with mango salad. Yummy. Went to the beach to bathe afterwards and dropped her off around eight hours after initially meeting her.

Chemistry is good, talked on a phone for an hour the next day and agreed to meet the following after that. This time we went to a competitive bodybuilding gym. Upon picking her up at her place my eyes caught the glimpse of her figure of her red tight shirts. Oh my god. Tried brush that image away from my head. I had been to this gym the day before and met the owner, he was cool, but this time he was doubly friendly me bringing her with me. He smiled and nodded. The gym was empty except for us and the owner, and he showed us how to use a rare piece of leg equipment. Best equipment I've used, it felt amazing and we pushed ourselves beyond our limits. It was a killer work out. She is unfathomably strong - works out hardcore, perfect training partner.

We drove to a landscape of interspersed granite islands and beaches, bathed together again but this time I eventually cuddled with her fingers, she cuddled back *sigh massive inner relief* and then we made out in the ocean. She started shivering eventually after the suns strength waned, and when my physical touch wasn't enough to keep her warm anymore we got up drove back home to my place to cook food and did other things too - though since I'm limiting this journal to gym specific pick up I guess there's no need to go further in detail other than that it was a successful pick up by any standard. I'm glad I met her, she's a rare woman where I can be (almost) completely authentic and the best side of me comes out. She asked me what made me approach her in the gym, and I answered I sensed a good energy from her - I suppose it's true, but I can only guess. I was on the verge of not approaching because I had too much locked-in focused aggressiveness from the music and creatine - and that it was an awkward first failed attempt of initiating the conversation.

Mr Variety

 

[MrVariety]

Not much seduction lately, I've been training with Ms. Pink shorts #2 lately - hardcore workouts... it's been great. Sometimes I can't believe how hot she is. She's a perfect girlfriend made out of fairy dust - basically Tinkle bell.

I'm sort of worried that I won't be able to master gym pick up at this rate. What happens is that I bump into women who I tend to stick to and then I have to start over again getting momentum from scratch at a later point.

I recently moved and now I have to adapt too. I can't really go with the "are you new here" from the other gym I trained as a regular. I'm considering a more hardcore gym with red lights and hip hop music over a commercial one... even though the vast majority is guys. Would be nice to get to know guys and have them as training partners as well. I am conflicted as to whether or not talk to women now that I'm seeing Tinkle bell. I suppose I should just let out the natural sociability to both men and women, just not take numbers with the intentions of seduction. Hm. Building massive comfort / social proof / social reputation through friendliness, just rely 100% on farming mode. I suppose that makes sense in the situation I am in now. Farming is a skill to be cultivated anyway to master gym pick up, and having a gym or two where I've farmed a lot makes me able to start off pretty fast if things doesn't work out with Ms Magic. Right now though I don't really have any intentions to break things off with her - we've only known each other for a short time and I don't think I know anyone who I can be as authentic with as her. She knows some dark shit about me I haven't told my best friends, basically nobody, I know some dark shit about her, and we laugh about it.

Mr Variety

 

[MrVariety]

When I created this thread I feared I would not resist the temptation of indulging myself is some general journaling that is not related to gym pick up. I'm going to be falling for this temptation now. If it gets out of hand I'll create a new journal. In my defense, all of this was caused by me making a split decision on whether or not to approach a girl doing RDLs in the gym.

There was a three-day period in which I fell into conversation with someone every day in the gym, one of which was a girl on a stairmaster, I asked "are you new here?" and later told her I was new here. She didn't care I asked her that question even if it doesn't actually make a lot of sense. That was also the first time I ever started a conversation while a girl is on a cardio machine. Which was an interesting experience. She was going at just hard enough to keep a conversation going. Good to break through that mental block.

In a gym Tinklebell was doing posing practice while I saw a girl in the adjacent room with headphones. I was about to say "Are you new here?" but realized that was exactly the same opener I used on Tinklebell. If she'd hear it... well, it would stir more things up than what it was worth. I need to refresh my friendly openers lol.

But other than that I've felt somewhat closed. I've been dating Tinklebell for about a month now. I think so far I've done a great job handling some challenges. I'm not used to dating women who receive so much male attention - and I realize that leveling up in the dating world doesn't make your challenges disappear, you just have different challenges. What sucks about having a hot, expansive girlfriend is that you have to deal with the stress of knowing she's hit on constantly. It's almost more stressful than what it's worth.

It's also interesting to get such a close look at this woman's perspective in terms of compliments of her looks. It actually draws her away to be complimented. I react with heart-eyed emojies when she sends stuff of herself, but she gets that from every guy. It's not what she needs. She needs challenge, humor, teasing, not lovebombing.

I've dealt with difficult conversations better than I have before. She opened up about some traumatic things in her life and after a long conversation, a conversation that has made past lovers disappear, cry, I told her "if you think I'm going to stop making fun of you because of this you're wrong." she laughed, and I continued to make jokes about traumatic things. She laughs relieved by my response. Then I proceeded to sexualize and objectify her in bed. She was doubly relieved.

What's also new is that this is the first time I've completely opened up about my seducer's life - my past - my dilemmas. I told her basically how I function, how I'm wired to seduce girls, approach them, and I don't want to leave that behind - while paradoxically I don't want to have emotionless sex - so I don't want casual sex outside relationships. What's weird is that even though we've known each other for only a bit over a month - she knows me better than anyone else in my life at this point. Yikes.

Weight lifting is an intrinsic part of my life and we've supported each other in the pursuit of that. She's going to be competing in Bikini fitness whereas I aim for Men's physique. It's fucking intoxicating to train with someone who trains harder than I do, which she does, so I'm addicted to that.

Though the other day she commented she felt overstimulated and irritated by my grunting in the gym. Probably have just been her hormones so I let it go - but it sort of put doubt in my fantasy of having an awesome training partner girlfriend and we can just train beserk together.

I've also felt doubt now that it's becoming clearer we have different views on politics, religion and family. Things here and there annoy me, some overly sexual stuff on Instagram, etc... And while I've learned a lot this month I'm starting to feel an increasing pressure to wanting to approach women again. I'm increasing the pressure and demands and giving her a bit more "push" than my usual "pull" and I'll probably tell her exactly what I think once I sort it out.

Mr Variety

 

[MrVariety]

Tinder date in gym.

Tried Tinder for first time in forever to experiment with AI edited photos (nano banana, I get uuuh 20 - 200 likes a day, big variation I can't tell why. AI assisted photos can save you time and effort going to photo shoots but it won't replace your shitty body so train) with and set up a date. I drove and picked her up, I regretted meeting her after 10 seconds of meeting her - this is why I hated online, you'll never know if you like them before you meet them and you're risking having to spend time with someone you don't like.

In the gym I saw bunch of beautiful women fuck I hate you go away Tinder date. Her ass and thighs was ridiculously juicy but she was chubby. Her ass is seriously starable - a bit of kino from both sides. She was basically telling me to stare at her legs at certain points "do you see a difference between them" she was stroking them lmao.

I hate this. I hate her being this ADHD girl just keeps yapping, her getting fucking Tinder notifications while she's doing her set, her chubby pleasure-seeking pussy probably gets Tinder dick every week I can't imagine going in there raw catching all sort of shit. She taught me some technique on the hip raise and was impressed by my strength, I drove her home and parked outside her house, she didn't want to leave, so she kept yapping about her apartment, sat in my car until the windows steamed up talking about her fucking cat with cancer and she talked about how her apartment is sound proof is and I eventually said I need to go. Juicy fucking ass yes but also I have no motivation to be honest and I'm still seeing Tinklebell who is in a different league (our relationship is escalating and feelings deepening saying love you miss you etc) . Also what I truly love about seduction is ... well .. the SEDUCING - leading her astray out of nowhere ... I fucking hate the idea she's on an app trying to get dick and I'm here to be her dutiful citizen dildo delivered by an algorithm and internet connection. Where's the art, beauty, the point? The next day she texted me a picture of her cat. I think it was that one with cancer.

Trying Skills / POB online structure https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/basic-online-structure-101.29378/ after I basically butchered a perfect date with really the dream girl with a stupid fucking idiot text and I admit to myself I don't actually know what I'm doing and need advice. When I learn something new I have to I suspend any common sense and just do whatever is written and try it or else I just get stuck with my old habits. What surprised me at first was how much I got away with at first - but then girls started removing my match after me being too weird about going through the routine. I should start using common sense again. But I don't like online tbh it's too much hassle especially how hard it is to get a gym date which is my go-to because I can't imagine spending an hour or two of my life doing nothing with an uninteresting girl.



Mr Variety

 

[MrVariety]

Haven't spent a lot of time in the gym lately due to an operation. Though getting back at it now.

I've recently moved to Oslo. And started training at a large commercial gym. I'm still getting used to the transition from "big fish in a small pond" to this. I'm not as comfortable here as I was at the other place. A lot of it has to do with the layout size etc... so I'm figuring it out.

What's great though is that the gym I'm mostly training at has a favorable woman to male ratio and most of them are my age. It's a pretty young area. There's group classes with mostly women so afterwards the stretching rooms are filled with them.

1. I was stretching for a while beside two girls who just did a class and eventually said something. Eventually I was joking and having fun making them laugh. When they left they said "good luck with your Pilates class!"
which brings me to

2. Did a pilates class as second date with a girl from Tinder. I was basically swimming in hot women. I'm doing it again next sunday partly because it felt so healthy for my body but also because it's a great way to meet girls. It's going to be interesting to see how I can manage this more intense form this the classes have regulars with the instructor so there's a fine line to balance on.

3. Today I had two options, either train at a shitty gym nearby or drive a bit further to train at the gym with more girls. I decided the latter, rationalizing that it's more cozy there anyway. I arrived 6AM and it was basically empty, but at 7AM the gym was slowly getting more filled. When there's not a lot of people that's when I am in my element.

There was a girl who I wanted to talk to throughout the entire session but never found a good opportunity, her body language seemed closed off and was always on her phone between sets. When I was finally done with my workout I said screw it I'm never finding a good opportunity I'm just going to force the approach. So I did, I asked "How is your workout going?" it took a while before she realized I was talking to her (who does that, 7.30 am in the morning?) and she said fine a little tired, and then I asked if she normally trains this early and later I crossed by legs "are you by any chance training for bootcamp?" she giggled no why? "you do the exact same exercises as people who do" and we laughed, she talked about her busy schedule and why she trains the way she does, she was more cute and friendly than I would have thought, and then briefly afterwards I said have a nice workout.

I went into the stretching room and I thought it would be a good idea to ask if she wanted to workout together "by the way do you want to train together this week?" would be a good option considering it seems to other people nearby we know each other. I found her later doing this weird plank exercise which is a terrible timing. I decided to fill my water bottle, stretch a bit more and try again, but she had already left at that point.

Lesson here is to just suck up the imperfection of the approach - I care too much about finding the right opportunity which leaves me without a number.

Also, I really missed the more relaxed vibe in the gym. I've been training in the peak hours lately where everyone has just finished work and it's packed and they are in their schedule, I just hate the vibe around 5-6 PM.

4. Yesterday I was going to do HIIT so I wanted to have my headphones and listen to music, it's the one exercise I'm currently allowing myself headphones since I'm on a treadmill anyway. I already had my headphones when I was walking to the treadmill and started playing aggressive music getting into the mood when I walked by a girl and she looked at me - perfect opportunity to say hello - so don't put on headphones until you're on the treadmill.

Another girl kept looking at me though she was training with a guy. Don't know what to do in these situations.

What's nice about training in this gym filled with women is that it makes me want to stretch for longer periods of time since I'm always procrastinating talking to the girls there. I'm feeling already more flexible!

But there was a cute girl I briefly caught glance with stretching next to me. I just don't like it when there's so many people around. In retrospect I definitely should have talked to her. Ugh

Mr Variety

 

[MrVariety]

Yesterday at the gym, I was really bad at approaching despite multiple opportunities. I was just way too conservative. And considering how I'm hyper-focused on nailing down gym game I was just too overly conscious about women and looking around all the time. There was a swarm of women leaving pilates class and caught eye contact with one, but I felt like it was a bit too obvious of a pick up strategy like a predator waiting silently by the watering hole in dry season -- or a fisherman waits with the net ready for salmon migration, thousands suddenly swim upstream. It seems to me the less chance of meeting a woman in any given scenario is when you have more likely to succeed because of the randomness and not the fisherman vibe.

Right now I am in a commercial gym where there's a lot of hot women so it's both good and bad that way.

I talked to a guy in the stretching room and then when I left the gym I saw a cute asian with a bouncy butt running toward me, I stopped her, she took off her airpods confused, and I said there's a speed limit here. It took a while before it clicked and we lol'd and then kept on running.

Today at the gym I wanted to compensate for the lack of action yesterday. I talked with a guy in the locker room, then there was a woman beside me I asked how she was doing, I found out she was like 50, jesus, and the conservation was awkward, and she only there very briefly, maybe because of me. Then I said "De donde eres?" to a spanish looking girl, super hot body but kinda weird face, a bit old, quick ping, made her chuckle and then g2g. I talked to a guy in the stretching area and she looked over at me so I assume that the (apparently not spanish girl) was like "oh this guy is social," so afterwards I walked over to her, sort of out of my way, and asked how her workout was going so far, and she was like "Just saying I'm married, sooo..." I was not really interested in her, the vibe was off the first ping, but I was compensating for lack of action. But I realize I went too far. This is way too aggressive.

Though I'm not sure if I regret doing it. It didn't feel good, I was aggressive in that I walked over to her seeking her out, and I was sort of approaching for the sake of approaching. A thought in the back of my head was "I wonder if I kept doing this I might get a warning from staff" and that would be really uncomfortable, until it isn't. I suppose it would be healthy to actually FIND the boundaries so I can more skillfully navigate them. I'm 50/50 whether it was a good idea - but I think I have to "punish" myself to approach sometimes when I need to work on my trigger happiness. All the interactions were forced today as I had low sleep, bad energy, and didn't feel like I could genuinely give anything to anyone today.

Mr Variety

 

[MrVariety]

Tinklebell and I stopped seeing each other and I haven't been in the mood of seducing more girls. I deleted Tinder and I've been just hyper focused at work and in the gym lately, witnessing my gains go up, reaching my physical peak - so I'm entirely focused on that, wearing headphones, locked in the workouts with "fuck off" energy.

Though I caught myself off guard today picking up a personal trainer. I had seen her throughout my workout and thought hnnnngggg and then after my workout was done I was about to leave I saw her come out of a door and I asked "Are you a personal trainer here?" She said "yeaah" and I stumbled, I didn't know what to follow up with, i was just in a anti social mood not prepared to speak, and like a lawnmower I basically reiterated the question "ohh.. soo... you're a personal trainer...?" "yeeahh?" and having caught myself off guard suddenly talking to this girl I had to find out something to say, so I asked her about how it was like and her education and why she became it and I said I kind of lied but not really and said I was interested in becoming one and stuff like that.

interesting i noted a slight change in her when i said "blah blah blah oh cool by the way im new here" and then she was like "Oooh" and then a second went by and then she reached out her hand to introduce herself this is something to keep in mind people just seem to be much more open to you when you either ask "are you new here" or say that youre new here yourself it just makes suddenly all more sense that youre talking to her .. like it suddenly made the conversation a bit more normal

Eventually we talked about her own training habits and then I was turning to leave and I did the "oh by the way" and asked if she wanted to train together one day.

She looked at me tilting her head hesitated for like ten seconds and I just smiled sort of nervously and said "what??" and she was "yeahh i mean i guess" and then I said "ohhh but you seem so unsure i don't know if it's a good idea now and then I turned my body away from her hinting I was about to leave" and she said "noo it's just that i got out of a relationship one year ago and I dont know" and I said "oooh no worries i don't want to if it's going to be weird" and then she reassured me it won't be and then we finally had some cool conversation making her laugh saying im going to become a personal trainer and steal all her clients and she complimented my physique and said i seem nice and then I took her number and then we agreed on training together at wednesday.

right now I'm just loving the hell out of just going full gangster mode on my workouts and life in general and no women to text but i dont know i just cant help myself its automatic sometimes - honestly i dont feel like training with her on wednesday because im so locked in my workout program right now but yeah i hate that women make me go off course

mr variety