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I'm starting this journal to share my process on mastering pick up at the gym - in case anyone finds it valuable or would contribute to what I'm trying to learn.
Some context: I started lifting ten years ago - which I've done consistently leading to a bodybuilding physique. I started pick up approximately the same time, but the intensity has varied. I was full into night game for the first couple years, then transitioned into day game, and then more and more becoming an integrated part of my life rather than something I "do," hence the transition toward things like pick up at the gym.
I've been practicing picking up girls at the gym for roughly a year now, gradually doing it more and more now that I've become more comfortable doing so. I had a wake up call when I realized how much time I spent in the gym and how few girls I've talked to there. I've always have had a hang-up on talking to girls at the gym due to the pressure. Now I want to really get this one down.
I find it exciting that not only can very few guys can approach girls in the day time in the street. But among pick up artists, talking to girls at the gym is relatively rare - and it seen as difficult. It would be exciting for me to master something niche like this.
I've written a guide on how to do this from what I've learned so far here: https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/a-little-guide-on-how-to-pick-up-girls-at-the-gym.30793/ and I hope to update it as I continue.
Monday:
As I entered the gym there was a girl I had already talked to doing some reverse hamstring stuff. She looked at me and we smiled at each other. After putting my stuff in the locker I started a conversation talking about how I checked out another gym by her recommendation. She was talkative but then told me she had to finish her workout. She always smiles at me seeing me. I've tried to take her number the first time I talked to her, but she told me she had a boyfriend. Maybe things have changed. I'll probably suggest working out together next time I'm talking to her, and then make fun of myself I'm a horrible person for not respecting that she have a boyfriend.
I've always idealized her as a prime hot gym girl. Having conversation with her close up today made me realize her face is kind of weird.
The regular P.T gatekeeper was overhearing the conversation. I try to limit approaching in front of him too much but opening to her about a past subject makes it seem like we already know each other. I think it's a bonus since she was more engaged in the conversation than I was.
Eventually a cute young fit ginger girl with a nice blue ass started rowing, and then stopped rowing to lift weights. I've seen her before but I asked her anyway "Are you new here?" she smiled and said "No I've been here for about a year". Then I went to do lateral raises, she did pull-ups. I finished my set. The ping had received a positive feedback, smile and she gave me more info than I asked for. So I rebooted with "A year, really? How come I haven't seen you before?"
it was sort of a forced approach since she was having headphones on doing super sets and I was obviously disturbing... but I've become more comfortable doing sort of awkward approaches just standing there until she finished. I've come to understand not every approach has to be smooth or James Bondy...
The conversation then went to her training schedule, my training schedule, etc. "I can only train in the afternoon because of school." "Oh, are you going to [local university]?" "Nooo I'm still in secondary school.... I'm 19." And then she told me she was going to the military in autumn.
This would've been the perfect opportunity to say something like "Oh, so soon! Maybe we could squeeze in a work out together before I leave for summer vacation."
But I didn't. Just before that I saw a bunch of 19-year old guys (gym regulars) enter the room we were in and she looked over, I felt she knew them, and so I felt too weird asking to hang out in front of them. I guess I'm ashamed for not caring she's 19. It's so fucking stupid. I can't believe some teenagers got in my head. What would they do, anyway? I definitely need to just stop caring so much about what other people think of me.
Homework is to visualize over and over she saying she's nineteen, everyone hears it, me asking for number in front of everyone.
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Friday I had a sort of epiphany that I felt like home in the gym. I've basically talked to over half of the people in that day. It seems like this "home" feeling stems from how many people I've talked to. And feeling at home somewhere changes the dynamic entirely when talking to people.
Not a single hot girl in the gym until Saturday. Though I didn't even approach. Two girls entered the gym, the third had arrived early and was on the treadmill. When the third girl walked over to them our eyes met and we smiled to each other. She was not pretty, but I had the perfect opportunity to open the set with a warm person and then eventually transition to her cute friends. I screwed this one up.
Mr Variety
Some context: I started lifting ten years ago - which I've done consistently leading to a bodybuilding physique. I started pick up approximately the same time, but the intensity has varied. I was full into night game for the first couple years, then transitioned into day game, and then more and more becoming an integrated part of my life rather than something I "do," hence the transition toward things like pick up at the gym.
I've been practicing picking up girls at the gym for roughly a year now, gradually doing it more and more now that I've become more comfortable doing so. I had a wake up call when I realized how much time I spent in the gym and how few girls I've talked to there. I've always have had a hang-up on talking to girls at the gym due to the pressure. Now I want to really get this one down.
I find it exciting that not only can very few guys can approach girls in the day time in the street. But among pick up artists, talking to girls at the gym is relatively rare - and it seen as difficult. It would be exciting for me to master something niche like this.
I've written a guide on how to do this from what I've learned so far here: https://www.skilledseducer.com/threads/a-little-guide-on-how-to-pick-up-girls-at-the-gym.30793/ and I hope to update it as I continue.
Monday:
As I entered the gym there was a girl I had already talked to doing some reverse hamstring stuff. She looked at me and we smiled at each other. After putting my stuff in the locker I started a conversation talking about how I checked out another gym by her recommendation. She was talkative but then told me she had to finish her workout. She always smiles at me seeing me. I've tried to take her number the first time I talked to her, but she told me she had a boyfriend. Maybe things have changed. I'll probably suggest working out together next time I'm talking to her, and then make fun of myself I'm a horrible person for not respecting that she have a boyfriend.
I've always idealized her as a prime hot gym girl. Having conversation with her close up today made me realize her face is kind of weird.
The regular P.T gatekeeper was overhearing the conversation. I try to limit approaching in front of him too much but opening to her about a past subject makes it seem like we already know each other. I think it's a bonus since she was more engaged in the conversation than I was.
Eventually a cute young fit ginger girl with a nice blue ass started rowing, and then stopped rowing to lift weights. I've seen her before but I asked her anyway "Are you new here?" she smiled and said "No I've been here for about a year". Then I went to do lateral raises, she did pull-ups. I finished my set. The ping had received a positive feedback, smile and she gave me more info than I asked for. So I rebooted with "A year, really? How come I haven't seen you before?"
it was sort of a forced approach since she was having headphones on doing super sets and I was obviously disturbing... but I've become more comfortable doing sort of awkward approaches just standing there until she finished. I've come to understand not every approach has to be smooth or James Bondy...
The conversation then went to her training schedule, my training schedule, etc. "I can only train in the afternoon because of school." "Oh, are you going to [local university]?" "Nooo I'm still in secondary school.... I'm 19." And then she told me she was going to the military in autumn.
This would've been the perfect opportunity to say something like "Oh, so soon! Maybe we could squeeze in a work out together before I leave for summer vacation."
But I didn't. Just before that I saw a bunch of 19-year old guys (gym regulars) enter the room we were in and she looked over, I felt she knew them, and so I felt too weird asking to hang out in front of them. I guess I'm ashamed for not caring she's 19. It's so fucking stupid. I can't believe some teenagers got in my head. What would they do, anyway? I definitely need to just stop caring so much about what other people think of me.
Homework is to visualize over and over she saying she's nineteen, everyone hears it, me asking for number in front of everyone.
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Friday I had a sort of epiphany that I felt like home in the gym. I've basically talked to over half of the people in that day. It seems like this "home" feeling stems from how many people I've talked to. And feeling at home somewhere changes the dynamic entirely when talking to people.
Not a single hot girl in the gym until Saturday. Though I didn't even approach. Two girls entered the gym, the third had arrived early and was on the treadmill. When the third girl walked over to them our eyes met and we smiled to each other. She was not pretty, but I had the perfect opportunity to open the set with a warm person and then eventually transition to her cute friends. I screwed this one up.
Mr Variety
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