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There was a post recently about how guys get girls without seduction sites.
It made me think about my past and present.
In the past, I followed the cliché advice of "being yourself" and "be a gentleman" and all of the usual junk you hear/watch on movies/TVs. Before knowing about the seduction community, I cold approached girls in the library and in the classroom, but it was very, very rough, and I was nervous as hell because had no plan or examples, it was just "okay Pinot, grab your balls and just ask that girl on a date." I would either just say "hi, want to go on a date?" or instead go the more "friendly" route and just talk like friends.
I don't think I was happy because it seemed like this huge, difficult thing, and I was very limiting in my thoughts about the number of women. I would think, "Okay, only 4 girls that I have a chance with around me! Better not fuck up!" Then I would put so much pressure and put them on a pedestal.
Now, it's interesting because I'm dating 3 women. One day this week, I started realizing that I was focusing on them too much, that I was getting anxious for their text responses. But, the difference.....
I have freedom. I know there are a lot of good quality women out there. And, I've had enough experience now, that I know even if I think "Wow, this chick is so cool. How will I ever find a girl like this again?" that it's completely untrue. I find some girl that I really connect with. Then it doesn't work out. I approach another 10 girls, and then I find another girl like that. It seems impossible/unthinkable starting out, but it's so true.
So, I went out and approached a few girls. I have the freedom. I don't feel like I'm glued to a person and glued to obsessive and detrimental thoughts.
Yes, I think you can get a girlfriend, easily, without knowing anything about the seduction community.
But, you'll have less freedom. You'll be intensely and emotionally attached. You'll get sad over limiting thoughts.
With learning seduction, the world is a huge place, and you have the ability, just by improving and getting out of your comfort zone a bit, to have complete freedom and happiness. Control your own destiny.
-PN
It made me think about my past and present.
In the past, I followed the cliché advice of "being yourself" and "be a gentleman" and all of the usual junk you hear/watch on movies/TVs. Before knowing about the seduction community, I cold approached girls in the library and in the classroom, but it was very, very rough, and I was nervous as hell because had no plan or examples, it was just "okay Pinot, grab your balls and just ask that girl on a date." I would either just say "hi, want to go on a date?" or instead go the more "friendly" route and just talk like friends.
I don't think I was happy because it seemed like this huge, difficult thing, and I was very limiting in my thoughts about the number of women. I would think, "Okay, only 4 girls that I have a chance with around me! Better not fuck up!" Then I would put so much pressure and put them on a pedestal.
Now, it's interesting because I'm dating 3 women. One day this week, I started realizing that I was focusing on them too much, that I was getting anxious for their text responses. But, the difference.....
I have freedom. I know there are a lot of good quality women out there. And, I've had enough experience now, that I know even if I think "Wow, this chick is so cool. How will I ever find a girl like this again?" that it's completely untrue. I find some girl that I really connect with. Then it doesn't work out. I approach another 10 girls, and then I find another girl like that. It seems impossible/unthinkable starting out, but it's so true.
So, I went out and approached a few girls. I have the freedom. I don't feel like I'm glued to a person and glued to obsessive and detrimental thoughts.
Yes, I think you can get a girlfriend, easily, without knowing anything about the seduction community.
But, you'll have less freedom. You'll be intensely and emotionally attached. You'll get sad over limiting thoughts.
With learning seduction, the world is a huge place, and you have the ability, just by improving and getting out of your comfort zone a bit, to have complete freedom and happiness. Control your own destiny.
-PN
