Human communication is done mostly through body language, some sources say 75 even 80%. This basically means that before you start talking to girl she already has a good idea about what kind of guy you are. That is why they say that she has a pretty good idea within the first couple of minutes, even seconds, whether she will have sex with you or not.
The way you stand, walk, your body tension, how you move your hands, touch things or self, look, smile, nod, shake hands, hug, tone and speed of your voice... all is important, it gives a lot of information about you. Women are generally pretty good at reading body language, men are rather sloppy, even clueless.
Applied practically, you as a guy need to seduce her by body language before you seduce her by language.
Usually, good body language is described as having strong and loud voice, erected body language. For simplicity, it is similar as if you look at a soldier. You are well groomed, neat looking, shaved. You would take a lot of space to show dominance, you have a strong handshake and so on. You are a strong guy. Some girls might go for it because when you compare it to today's average sloppy guy who doesn't even try to stand straight, this soldier body language definitelly wins.
But there is a problem with this kind of body language. It signals that you are making too much of an effort to make impression. You are investing, you are showing interest - thus putting her unintensionally on pedestal, giving her bigger value. Remember, women read body language very well while men sre usually blind to it.
So you need to step it up to another level, to the level that women understand well while men cannot really see it, they just see that women go after this kind of men.
It is difficult to describe it, easiest way I can compare it to is Mike Tyson. Look at his body language. Strong and relaxed, solid, mixture of lazziness and dynamic movements. He doesn't give a damn about what others think of him. Pure confidence. Look at his body mass, it is not pure muscles (so called ripped which is for some weird reason popular) but mixture of muscles and fat. Do you think he has 170 pounds? Think again. His body language signals: I knock you down MF any time I want. I am Mike Tyson! ...and there is no one else. He doesnt care if he says smart or stupid things, doesn't care if he wears expensive tie or is half naked. He grabbs his balls in front of thousands of people and laughs. Or he can be totally serious. You wouldn't want him to be serious while in his vicinity. He is confident, he doesn't pretend to be confident. Yet he can be totally friendly and funny at the same time, smile, be a nice guy, flirting, making even a fool of himself if he wants to - and not giving a damn what others think about him. He can move among men and women with ease, yet there is not so many men who would step in his way. You couldn't keep standing straight for a second if he'd look into your face.
Now compare his body language to a "soldier". You see that soldier body language is quite primitive, too simple, too much of trying. Compare it to some PUA who pretend to have confidence. That is just ridiculous, you can smell the fake and weakness from miles away.
Ok, none of us is Mike Tyson, he is simply another element of nature, natural phenomenon. But you can learn a lot from that body language. Don't pretend to be confident, be confident by doing some sport, by building some muscle mass, perhaps by fighting. She may never admit it, but this kind of body language is very attractive to her. He is much bigger and stronger, he's got muscle mass, plenty of testosterone, he's much more dominant and confident, he is friendly, laughs, says what he wants and how he wants - and he doesn't give a damn what she thinks of him. No one dares to challenge him. He wants sex, and laughs at her when she runs away like a chicken because she can't stand the sexual pressure he exerts. Damn! There is no way she is not attracted to this kind of body language, no matter who she is.
Again, compare it to average guy or even most PUA - these are trying to impress, these are looking for words, what to say and how, different techniques to seduce. They worry about what she thinks of them and how to impress her, directly or indirectly (by pretending that they don't care). Don't pretend that you don't care - just don't care! They deal with rejections and hurt feelings in stead of moving forward and getting another girl. They have 170 pounds and are trying to "project" confidence by taking space or pretending to be strong. Now, that is just ridiculous. Be strong, don't pretend it!
Do you think you can have this kind of body language by imitating it? By thinking about it, pretending it? No way. Tyson didn't pretend, he learned it by sweat and blood, by overcoming pain and difficult obstackles, by hard work/training, by discipline, by systematic training, by fighting, by desire to be a winner. Don't imitate Tyson, imitate these!
This kind of body language belongs to fundamentals. By strong fundamentals you have done 80% of seduction. It is finished, she is already seduced and you didn't even open your mouth yet. And when you open it, make sure you don't fuck it up by putting her on pedestal in some twisted way, perhaps by "trying to seduce" her...
The way you stand, walk, your body tension, how you move your hands, touch things or self, look, smile, nod, shake hands, hug, tone and speed of your voice... all is important, it gives a lot of information about you. Women are generally pretty good at reading body language, men are rather sloppy, even clueless.
Applied practically, you as a guy need to seduce her by body language before you seduce her by language.
Usually, good body language is described as having strong and loud voice, erected body language. For simplicity, it is similar as if you look at a soldier. You are well groomed, neat looking, shaved. You would take a lot of space to show dominance, you have a strong handshake and so on. You are a strong guy. Some girls might go for it because when you compare it to today's average sloppy guy who doesn't even try to stand straight, this soldier body language definitelly wins.
But there is a problem with this kind of body language. It signals that you are making too much of an effort to make impression. You are investing, you are showing interest - thus putting her unintensionally on pedestal, giving her bigger value. Remember, women read body language very well while men sre usually blind to it.
So you need to step it up to another level, to the level that women understand well while men cannot really see it, they just see that women go after this kind of men.
It is difficult to describe it, easiest way I can compare it to is Mike Tyson. Look at his body language. Strong and relaxed, solid, mixture of lazziness and dynamic movements. He doesn't give a damn about what others think of him. Pure confidence. Look at his body mass, it is not pure muscles (so called ripped which is for some weird reason popular) but mixture of muscles and fat. Do you think he has 170 pounds? Think again. His body language signals: I knock you down MF any time I want. I am Mike Tyson! ...and there is no one else. He doesnt care if he says smart or stupid things, doesn't care if he wears expensive tie or is half naked. He grabbs his balls in front of thousands of people and laughs. Or he can be totally serious. You wouldn't want him to be serious while in his vicinity. He is confident, he doesn't pretend to be confident. Yet he can be totally friendly and funny at the same time, smile, be a nice guy, flirting, making even a fool of himself if he wants to - and not giving a damn what others think about him. He can move among men and women with ease, yet there is not so many men who would step in his way. You couldn't keep standing straight for a second if he'd look into your face.
Now compare his body language to a "soldier". You see that soldier body language is quite primitive, too simple, too much of trying. Compare it to some PUA who pretend to have confidence. That is just ridiculous, you can smell the fake and weakness from miles away.
Ok, none of us is Mike Tyson, he is simply another element of nature, natural phenomenon. But you can learn a lot from that body language. Don't pretend to be confident, be confident by doing some sport, by building some muscle mass, perhaps by fighting. She may never admit it, but this kind of body language is very attractive to her. He is much bigger and stronger, he's got muscle mass, plenty of testosterone, he's much more dominant and confident, he is friendly, laughs, says what he wants and how he wants - and he doesn't give a damn what she thinks of him. No one dares to challenge him. He wants sex, and laughs at her when she runs away like a chicken because she can't stand the sexual pressure he exerts. Damn! There is no way she is not attracted to this kind of body language, no matter who she is.
Again, compare it to average guy or even most PUA - these are trying to impress, these are looking for words, what to say and how, different techniques to seduce. They worry about what she thinks of them and how to impress her, directly or indirectly (by pretending that they don't care). Don't pretend that you don't care - just don't care! They deal with rejections and hurt feelings in stead of moving forward and getting another girl. They have 170 pounds and are trying to "project" confidence by taking space or pretending to be strong. Now, that is just ridiculous. Be strong, don't pretend it!
Do you think you can have this kind of body language by imitating it? By thinking about it, pretending it? No way. Tyson didn't pretend, he learned it by sweat and blood, by overcoming pain and difficult obstackles, by hard work/training, by discipline, by systematic training, by fighting, by desire to be a winner. Don't imitate Tyson, imitate these!
This kind of body language belongs to fundamentals. By strong fundamentals you have done 80% of seduction. It is finished, she is already seduced and you didn't even open your mouth yet. And when you open it, make sure you don't fuck it up by putting her on pedestal in some twisted way, perhaps by "trying to seduce" her...
