seeing a girl over a long distance after having just met (and slept together)

[killerman]

Ok there's this girl i met this weekend while out and about. we met in a club and then a few hours later she took me back to her place and we had hard, passionate, intimate sex. multiple times. i feel i was quite dominant and did a good job. intimate but dominant at the same time. now she lives about 3.5 hours away from me and i said i'd be back but didn't state when, just said that i'd like to keep in contact. she gave a big yes. gave her a thank you text for the previous night when i was on train back home which she replied to. thing is, do i text her every so often (if so, how often), until i'm back, or do i let her chase. not sure coz if i dont do anything im worried the whole thing will fizzle out and she'll think ive used her, but if i text her i might come across needy and trying too hard, and girls LOVE doing the chasing. so what do i do?

 

[Franco]

Re: seeing a girl over a long distance after having just met (and slept together

killerman,

thing is, do i text her every so often (if so, how often), until i'm back, or do i let her chase. not sure coz if i dont do anything im worried the whole thing will fizzle out and she'll think ive used her, but if i text her i might come across needy and trying too hard, and girls LOVE doing the chasing. so what do i do?

If you sent the "thank you" text the following day and she responded warmly, I don't think you need to worry about her feeling "used." It sounds like she understood that it was just a fun night with a sexy guy who "gets it," and she won't really need to hear more from you to look back fondly on the night.

I wouldn't really plan on texting her unless you know you'll be in town again (and you want to see her). If you are, you can text her and let her know you'll be there and see if she responds. Even if she doesn't, it doesn't necessarily mean she feels "used" by you, but she may not be looking for a one-night type of thing again around that time. So I wouldn't worry about it.

- Franco

 

[killerman]

Re: seeing a girl over a long distance after having just met (and slept together

Ok wicked, thanks!

 

[killerman]

Re: seeing a girl over a long distance after having just met (and slept together

Also there's this other girl that I cold approached on my way back home at the train station. Sat next to her and got talkin. After 5 minutes said I had to get my train but would love to meet her again when I'm back in town (she lives about 2.5 hours away), didnt say when and gave her my number. She texted me about 4, 5 hours later (this was on sunday) and yesterday asked her if she fancied meeting up again when im back on the 27th. she responded with a "yes, should be ok" today. however, i know you're meant to move quick and be decisive and so i responding asking her if she fancied meeting at this time at this place and she responded with "haha so specific, i have to let u know closer to time for definite but if im free that's fine x". so what do i do now? dont want to be too eager and press for a time or be like let me know if it's ok bla bla, coz i dont want to put the ball too much in her court. should i be a bit aloof and let her chase or text her every few days or every week? cheers