Seeing two friends by accident met on Tinder lol ADVICE APPRECIATED

[mb1]

Has anyone dated two girls who already knew each other?

In this case they seem to be pretty close actually. I'm not sure if it's true yet but each said something that set a light off.

They don't know yet but would probably figure it out over time.

One's on going and the other girl was met for a morning coffee and has sent some strong subtext.

Would you do it? Both are aware of my whole anti monogamy thing but holy shit.

Any tips?

I'm totally down to let them both know unless any of you have some lessons to share first.

 

[ray_zorse]

Obviously, bang each of them separately a couple of times until you have a solid FWB locked in (but no handholding in public or dates or any BF shit whatsoever, just straight-up sex and nothing else), then set up a threesome. How to do the latter I'm not sure, maybe check out the articles on threesomes on the main site, but I'm pretty sure they say it's basically a slam dunk if they're already FWB and then go on to the more difficult case where you've just pulled one or both of them for the first time. If you want to take a risk you could somehow try to isolate the one you haven't fucked with the one you've fucked, then start to escalate on the one you know will respond, and as she gets into it, pull in the one that you're not as sure of... that's basically the process recommended in the article as far as I can remember.
Ray

 

[mb1]

Seems like solid escalation advice, thanks. Still, that's far from the first step. Threesomes are an obvious goal, though any insight on whether it's best to even introduce that if the goal is longevity?

If they're close friends, this could end it for them if they get competitive.

It would be nice to go on a picnic date with them both - Vicky Christina Barcelona style.

Then to the forest...

It's a harem question really. What luck though.

Just remembering Riccardus writing not to rub it in a woman's face that you're seeing others. This really changes things because they'd talk about you to each other.

 

[mb1]

Or perhaps group sex is the only way to solidify it as acceptable in their minds?

Then it's inclusive rather than competitive, but the trajectories of each relationship will be constantly under the eye of the other.

 

[ray_zorse]

I think you might be approaching this from slightly the wrong mindset, as I see it the point of long term FWB is she's disposable, she does not make the cut as r/ship material, or you cannot commit for personal reasons, so you give what you can give and she can take it or she can leave at any time.

Once you start going to effort to keep your FWB it gets relationshippy, believe me I know this b/c have had issues with this. I do have one proper FWB whom I don't see as anything more than sex (when she started talking about more I told her it was impossible being that she's married to someone else and I live in another country and shut her down pretty quick, she accepted that)... but mostly when they've discussed r/ship I haven't wanted to lose them and have tried to tread a middle course and weakened my frame.

So my experience is if you want a FWB or multiple r/ship, take a 100% IDGAF attitude, ironically this is even more attractive and powerful... and doing crazy shit like arranging threesomes etc, is a very powerful way to communicate that you couldn't give a fuck, she can go along or GTFO, it's all the same to you. My philosophy is: if you're thinking it, do it... for example on a second date (but where I had fucked her) I randomly decided I wanted her to hold my cock while I took a piss, actually I couldn't get the flow going but the point is that I didn't give a fuck, just did whatever occurred to me. This built massive attraction, I'm sure you'll find the same.

If your goal is longevity take her as your GF after an appropriate period, don't fuck around with multiple FWB or threesomes. But I really feel that this is not as interesting.

Ray

 

[mb1]

Hey thanks, yeah that's helpful, especially your don't-give-a-fuck attitude. So far I had to kick one out of my bed to be late for a date with someone else. She told me I could be more explicit with her lol so that one's at a great starting point.

Your advice is sound, though it seems you're searching for eventual monogamy? Personally I may never settle for one girl, so am interested in deepening relationships with multiple women as it's the only alternative to perpetual surface level sex that women can feel empty after having along with their horny feelings, which can lead to guilt (or is this still my M/w complex talking?)

Having two who are already close could be a great way to give the harem a try though. In a perfect world, 5 or so high quality women would raise my children together.

Both know this would be temporary, but I still need some of the girlfriend experience, though not in a monogamous context. I've had sex with girls both out and in love with me, and the latter's so much better. As far as the non-mothers who last for more than one-night-stands throughout my life, I'd be happy to have friendships like with the girls I knew platonically back in high school I can till call up and have a closeness with even after years of not talking. I'd instead like every girl in my life to be like this, except without clothes on.

Not counting any chickens yet though. The second wanted me to take her home after a pre-noon coffee date, so missing the escalation window could have been the end of it. If she ever connects me to her friend though, she'll be interested lol she would be a good kinky reference.

You just live for the primal experience until someone worthy of your monogamy comes along?