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So me and a buddy are eating in a KFC and I notice a girl in blue jeans and shirt approaching the counter. She seems to be alon. I think about getting up and opening her immediately but hesitate. Notice her ordering something and then she sits down alone on a chair opposite to me near the wall about 15 feet away. I can see her fiddling on her phone and generally being quiet, engrossed in herself. I struggle to convince myself to open her due to approach anxiety for like 3 minutes without success. Then think fuck it and walk toward her to collect a reference point if nothing else. She looks at me only when I'm standing near her and open her. I say excuse me and ask her if she is waiting for someone. She denies. So I tell her you're sitting here alone and I'm there with my friend, you should join us. She hesitates and says she is just waiting for her order and will leave pretty quickly. I insist that she will be with us for only like 20 minutes (or did I say 15 I don't remember) and it will be fine. Her expression throughout is pretty emotionless. I believe my face was somewhat serious too but toward the end I smile trying to put her at ease. I say come on it will be fine. She finally gives in and walks toward us. Perhaps mostly because it was easier to give in than resist.
She doesn't exactly sit opposite to me but on the opposite end toward the left side. So I have to look toward a bit left to look at her face. I extend my hand and ask her name. She takes it and says her name is CuteRedLips. I ask her what she is doing here. She says she studies in a nearby college so came here. She asks what I do and I basically pause and break eye contact toward the left and say online marketing (was it a mistake? did breaking eye contact come across as an insincere answer?). I probe what she studies and she answers MBA. I deep dive why and she goes into how her teacher convinced her that it was the best path to take careerwise. Then she asks what my name is. I say oh i haven't yet told you my name? Then tell her my name. I ask her when she is not in her college or in KFC what she likes to do in her free time. She says she plays games. I find it interesting and say that female gamers are hard to find. I ask her what games she plays and she gives me some names I've never heard of because I don't play games. Then I ask her if she uses PS or Xbox or something and she says she plays on her phone. Me and my buddy insist her to eat our food cause unintentionally we ordered a really large chicken bucket which was too much for just two people, she takes one finally. Then I ask what else she does. She says she watches movies and some other shit I don't remember. I ask her if she could only choose 3 movies that she could watch again and again which ones she would choose. She names two Indian movies I really like. Only writing this now I've realised that one of the movies was pretty adventurous and I missed a great opportunity to deep dive into her adventurous self. Anyway she also names Shutter Island as her 3rd option. I ask her wasn't the ending of that movie confusing. She agrees and I say how I was confused and googled the ending and read on The Guardian that the director actually changed the ending from the book intentionally to make people confused and attract repeat viewers. I then ask her if she was from the city and she answered no and named another place. I said how I never actually visited her hometown but was always fascinated by it because I read about it in school and saw pictures. Then asked how was it living there. I expected her to really get comfortable and get into a long answer but she gave a moderately long answer but somewhat half-assed it. I noticed her lips were red and asked her if she put red lipstick, her answer was affirmative. I don't like lipstick a lot so I smiled and squinted my nose like i didn't like it too much (maybe here i should have done things differently. I mean her lips looked really good despite her lipstick. So maybe should have been ballsy and say her lips looked beautiful or something. Would've worked as a compliment cause throughout the whole interaction i didn't really compliment her). Then I cold read her that she looks like a girl who is somewhat interested in astrology (I came up with this cold read last night, convinced that it will apply to pretty much all girls given that how chicks love astrology and stuff). She said she is in fact really interested in it. Then I asked her what sign is hers and she said her birthday indicated pisces or something but it could be libra. Then i asked her which one she really believed her sign to be. She said libra. I asked her what libra characteristics she had. I think she didn't really answer anything substantial. I observed if Libra was a water sign and she said it was probably air. Then I said mine was Sagittarius, a fire sign. She asked if that meant i was really prone to anger. I said it doesn't really mean that, it basically means people who really go for what they want in life (my intention was to subtly tell her i was interested in her and i went for it basically by opening her). This didn't seem to have much effect, maybe because she chose to ignore it or didn't get it or her order number was called. She left to take her order. At this point my buddy asks me if i knew her. To sabotage him ruining my chance with her by some off-handed remark to her by him, i lied to him that yes i did know her.
Then she came back with packed food. I said i didn't realise hers was take out. She replied that's why she initially said that she will leave pretty quickly. Then I asked her if she came to the KFC often and she said not very often. She asked us if we went there often and I said we were from a different town. Then i joked about how my friend was not choosing a place to eat and how we basically went to two more places before and didn't eat there because he wasn't happy. Then I asked her what's my name. She actually answered correctly. I said since you have to go i won't keep you long. Then I said I sometimes come to the city, would she like to see me again (i didn't sound like i was asking permission but was it bad wording still?). She said "number?" I didn't get if she was willing to offer her number or was skeptically asking if her number was what i was aiming for. My buddy said "you know her, so take her number." It seemed like she gave me a quizzical look and realised i might have lied or something to my buddy. I didn't know what to do so smiled mischievously like i fucked up. Instead of saying yes number works immediately, I tried to play it cool and said what's the best way to contact you, then added number or email both works, or WhatsApp was the best option (i think this was a big mistake, i should have just said "sure, number works" when she asked "number?"). She now resisted and said she could not give her number. To put her at ease and break resistance, I broke eye contact and calmly said "Well if you give me your number your phone will have 200 messages from me by tomorrow morning." I think she liked it cause she was smiling. Then i said "you can really give your number you know" (i think big mistake again, should have said nothing after the joke). Then i handed over my phone. She again said she can't give out her number. I said i don't really have Facebook. Then i went quiet with my phone in my hand and thought about whether i should take her email or just say bye without it. Then decided to ask for her email. She gave me her email and then we said our goodbye.
So i think the interaction was pretty good and she shared enough information about her. Investment was not a problem either. However, throughout the interaction her smiles seemed somewhat restrictive and i felt like she wasn't really comfortable. But then again she did answer many things, so I'm confused. I basically think i didn't get her number because of any one or more of these reasons:
1. It was an unusual experience for her so she didn't want to give out her number
2. Something made her uncomfortable
3. My buddy was there so she couldn't seem easy by giving out her number
4. The small detail about her picking up on my lie may have worked against me
5. Me trying to play it cool after she said "number?" threw her off
6. THIS IS THE BIGGEST ONE I THINK: I didn't ask her number on a high point, even though she was away to take her order for like a minute or so I didn't create good feelings again after her return and capitalise on a high point
So what are your thoughts? Also, could it have been better if i just offered to sit with her and tried to number close than calling her to our table and gaming her in front of my buddy?
She doesn't exactly sit opposite to me but on the opposite end toward the left side. So I have to look toward a bit left to look at her face. I extend my hand and ask her name. She takes it and says her name is CuteRedLips. I ask her what she is doing here. She says she studies in a nearby college so came here. She asks what I do and I basically pause and break eye contact toward the left and say online marketing (was it a mistake? did breaking eye contact come across as an insincere answer?). I probe what she studies and she answers MBA. I deep dive why and she goes into how her teacher convinced her that it was the best path to take careerwise. Then she asks what my name is. I say oh i haven't yet told you my name? Then tell her my name. I ask her when she is not in her college or in KFC what she likes to do in her free time. She says she plays games. I find it interesting and say that female gamers are hard to find. I ask her what games she plays and she gives me some names I've never heard of because I don't play games. Then I ask her if she uses PS or Xbox or something and she says she plays on her phone. Me and my buddy insist her to eat our food cause unintentionally we ordered a really large chicken bucket which was too much for just two people, she takes one finally. Then I ask what else she does. She says she watches movies and some other shit I don't remember. I ask her if she could only choose 3 movies that she could watch again and again which ones she would choose. She names two Indian movies I really like. Only writing this now I've realised that one of the movies was pretty adventurous and I missed a great opportunity to deep dive into her adventurous self. Anyway she also names Shutter Island as her 3rd option. I ask her wasn't the ending of that movie confusing. She agrees and I say how I was confused and googled the ending and read on The Guardian that the director actually changed the ending from the book intentionally to make people confused and attract repeat viewers. I then ask her if she was from the city and she answered no and named another place. I said how I never actually visited her hometown but was always fascinated by it because I read about it in school and saw pictures. Then asked how was it living there. I expected her to really get comfortable and get into a long answer but she gave a moderately long answer but somewhat half-assed it. I noticed her lips were red and asked her if she put red lipstick, her answer was affirmative. I don't like lipstick a lot so I smiled and squinted my nose like i didn't like it too much (maybe here i should have done things differently. I mean her lips looked really good despite her lipstick. So maybe should have been ballsy and say her lips looked beautiful or something. Would've worked as a compliment cause throughout the whole interaction i didn't really compliment her). Then I cold read her that she looks like a girl who is somewhat interested in astrology (I came up with this cold read last night, convinced that it will apply to pretty much all girls given that how chicks love astrology and stuff). She said she is in fact really interested in it. Then I asked her what sign is hers and she said her birthday indicated pisces or something but it could be libra. Then i asked her which one she really believed her sign to be. She said libra. I asked her what libra characteristics she had. I think she didn't really answer anything substantial. I observed if Libra was a water sign and she said it was probably air. Then I said mine was Sagittarius, a fire sign. She asked if that meant i was really prone to anger. I said it doesn't really mean that, it basically means people who really go for what they want in life (my intention was to subtly tell her i was interested in her and i went for it basically by opening her). This didn't seem to have much effect, maybe because she chose to ignore it or didn't get it or her order number was called. She left to take her order. At this point my buddy asks me if i knew her. To sabotage him ruining my chance with her by some off-handed remark to her by him, i lied to him that yes i did know her.
Then she came back with packed food. I said i didn't realise hers was take out. She replied that's why she initially said that she will leave pretty quickly. Then I asked her if she came to the KFC often and she said not very often. She asked us if we went there often and I said we were from a different town. Then i joked about how my friend was not choosing a place to eat and how we basically went to two more places before and didn't eat there because he wasn't happy. Then I asked her what's my name. She actually answered correctly. I said since you have to go i won't keep you long. Then I said I sometimes come to the city, would she like to see me again (i didn't sound like i was asking permission but was it bad wording still?). She said "number?" I didn't get if she was willing to offer her number or was skeptically asking if her number was what i was aiming for. My buddy said "you know her, so take her number." It seemed like she gave me a quizzical look and realised i might have lied or something to my buddy. I didn't know what to do so smiled mischievously like i fucked up. Instead of saying yes number works immediately, I tried to play it cool and said what's the best way to contact you, then added number or email both works, or WhatsApp was the best option (i think this was a big mistake, i should have just said "sure, number works" when she asked "number?"). She now resisted and said she could not give her number. To put her at ease and break resistance, I broke eye contact and calmly said "Well if you give me your number your phone will have 200 messages from me by tomorrow morning." I think she liked it cause she was smiling. Then i said "you can really give your number you know" (i think big mistake again, should have said nothing after the joke). Then i handed over my phone. She again said she can't give out her number. I said i don't really have Facebook. Then i went quiet with my phone in my hand and thought about whether i should take her email or just say bye without it. Then decided to ask for her email. She gave me her email and then we said our goodbye.
So i think the interaction was pretty good and she shared enough information about her. Investment was not a problem either. However, throughout the interaction her smiles seemed somewhat restrictive and i felt like she wasn't really comfortable. But then again she did answer many things, so I'm confused. I basically think i didn't get her number because of any one or more of these reasons:
1. It was an unusual experience for her so she didn't want to give out her number
2. Something made her uncomfortable
3. My buddy was there so she couldn't seem easy by giving out her number
4. The small detail about her picking up on my lie may have worked against me
5. Me trying to play it cool after she said "number?" threw her off
6. THIS IS THE BIGGEST ONE I THINK: I didn't ask her number on a high point, even though she was away to take her order for like a minute or so I didn't create good feelings again after her return and capitalise on a high point
So what are your thoughts? Also, could it have been better if i just offered to sit with her and tried to number close than calling her to our table and gaming her in front of my buddy?
