Hey guys had few thoughts I have been reflecting on that I can’t seem to understand. So, when I am with girls, I try my best to be attractive based on the principles taught here like being dominant, aggressive , sexy, deep dive etc, but what if it feels like I am doing these actions to mold myself into what women want or by trying to please them by changing myself to be more attractive. Is this a sign of low self esteem that I need to mold myself into a man with these traits because whi would want to be with my authentic self. How do I fuse my authentic self with self improvement so that I’m being dominant or sexy or whatever else taught because that’s the type of person I am or for myself instead of to please a woman?
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Hey Deg,
I think you're misinterpreting the journey. You're trying to better yourself for yourself, that's the whole point of self improvement. You do what you're interested in for yourself, a side effect to this is you'll become more attractive to the opposite sex. You're not changing yourself to please women, but you're on a path of self discovery to make yourself better with women.
The sign of low self esteem is the self doubt and questioning if you're changing yourself to please them will they like the real you? Your authentic self will develop these traits as you progress along the path. The deep dive however isn't a principle and is a technique, and as a 'nice guy' is possibly a technique you'd be able to apply very easily. You sound like someone who has a few nice guy traits, and so stop asking yourself will she like me? How do I impress her? and instead think you're getting to know someone.
If you can hold a conversation with them and have them tell you about themselves they'll feel more connected to you and you'll appear more sexy and attractive to this. You'll also appear more dominant because you've lead the interaction. If you can hold this down and develop it the rest will follow. You're only just starting to wake up from being 'Tamed' for so long. There's a lot of good articles about this such as becoming the beast, but for a starting point the reference about being tame: https://www.girlschase.com/content/she-l ... -she-wants
Welcome to the journey, where it stops is up to you. If you don't like the thought of 'change' you can turn around now; but I'd recommend you stick it out. There's countless benefits to 'self improvement' that can be applied to every aspect of your life.
SilenceintheSnow
I think you're misinterpreting the journey. You're trying to better yourself for yourself, that's the whole point of self improvement. You do what you're interested in for yourself, a side effect to this is you'll become more attractive to the opposite sex. You're not changing yourself to please women, but you're on a path of self discovery to make yourself better with women.
The sign of low self esteem is the self doubt and questioning if you're changing yourself to please them will they like the real you? Your authentic self will develop these traits as you progress along the path. The deep dive however isn't a principle and is a technique, and as a 'nice guy' is possibly a technique you'd be able to apply very easily. You sound like someone who has a few nice guy traits, and so stop asking yourself will she like me? How do I impress her? and instead think you're getting to know someone.
If you can hold a conversation with them and have them tell you about themselves they'll feel more connected to you and you'll appear more sexy and attractive to this. You'll also appear more dominant because you've lead the interaction. If you can hold this down and develop it the rest will follow. You're only just starting to wake up from being 'Tamed' for so long. There's a lot of good articles about this such as becoming the beast, but for a starting point the reference about being tame: https://www.girlschase.com/content/she-l ... -she-wants
Welcome to the journey, where it stops is up to you. If you don't like the thought of 'change' you can turn around now; but I'd recommend you stick it out. There's countless benefits to 'self improvement' that can be applied to every aspect of your life.
SilenceintheSnow