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SENDING a last acknowledgement text?

perpetualsun

Space Monkey
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Got a quick question for you guy regarding conversations with girls over text. Usually at the end of texts for me, it might go something like this:

Me: "I realized I have to depart for work and travel so I won't be back for about 3 months. But let me know if you ever visit my area :)"

Her: "Aw ok, im bummed, yea of course, hopefully we'll see each other again :)"

Me 2 hours later (Last Text): "for sure =)"

Usually, I dont know if I should add the "for sure" text.

This is because her last text seems to want some sort of validation or something and I thought that writing the "for sure" part will give her a better feeling for me overall in case I want to rekindle things in the future. However, I am wondering if this would have an opposite effect of making me look needy. The reason I do this sometimes is because I have legitimately met girls who are somewhat crazy that they think if you don't acknowledge their last text, they start making stuff up in their head that you dont like them.

However, I am really curious how you usually end things like this as I didn't see Chase or anyone for that matter mention it before.

Would you usually just not respond to messages that are somewhat open to another response and leave her hanging? Or does it not even matter? ie,

Thanks Guys!
 
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Richard

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In a situation like this, I'm going to say it is best to acknowledge the final text she gives, because if you don't, it makes you sound like you don't care about her at all.

Instead, I would say something like:
"Don't be bummed, just stay in touch here and there while I'm gone :)"

I would listen to a higher up if they have personal advice, this is just what I would do in the given situation because it conveys an underlying notice of her being upset, basically you recognize this, and you're giving her the option to stay in touch while you're gone. Then, by saying here and there, it shows that you won't be free most of the time, implicitly showing you're going to be busy.

-Hope this helped,
Richard
 
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