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Hey all,
I'm posting this again hopefully in the right section. My biggest problem with girls is 'seeing them again.' I don't mean to sound cocky, but I've got the actual in-person stuff down. It's like I get first date sex, but I just don't get enough first dates.
Let's start with... I'm in college, I'm 22 and constantly running into low attainability problems and auto-rejection (which used to be a HUGE problem for me until thankfully, I stumbled onto this website). I see tons of girls on campus everyday and I'm never really stuck on one girl. My text conversations are fine, but I'm just terrible at setting up meets or dates or arrangements.
It's gotten to the point where they usually say the same sets of things:
-"We can totally hang out, but I'm busy tonight..."
-"That's a possibility... Blah I work a lot. Maybe if I get off work early one day this week."
-"I can't... (followed up by lots of reasons why she can't make it)"
-No response
Anyway, I 'hard push' on all of these responses until it naturally ends on a high note or they just quit responding. Then, I text them later only to hit the same series of responses all over again until we just repeat the cycle (or they just stop responding). I honestly believe that a lot of the girls I meet really like me. I just can't seem to make it easy for them to see me again as I usually just forget about texting her after a week or so and move on. It's starting to dawn on me how many girls I'm missing out on though.
I'm sure this problem has been asked and answered a bunch of times, but I have started this post in the hopes that someone can hot route me to the answer ASAFP.
Final questions from real-life scenarios:
-What if she's ALWAYS busy? What kind of mindset should I have?
-How should I respond when she just leaves it hanging (dead air) but is still interested?
-Actual proper way to invite her back to your place if you're just lazy and don't feel like going out that night
I know there's a right way to do all of this and the sooner I get to practicing the idea, the better.
One final note or TL;DR - It's not my physical approach, but rather my 'texting' that messes things up for me most of the time. If you guys want some examples or anything, just let me know.
Thanks in advance,
Scott
I'm posting this again hopefully in the right section. My biggest problem with girls is 'seeing them again.' I don't mean to sound cocky, but I've got the actual in-person stuff down. It's like I get first date sex, but I just don't get enough first dates.
Let's start with... I'm in college, I'm 22 and constantly running into low attainability problems and auto-rejection (which used to be a HUGE problem for me until thankfully, I stumbled onto this website). I see tons of girls on campus everyday and I'm never really stuck on one girl. My text conversations are fine, but I'm just terrible at setting up meets or dates or arrangements.
It's gotten to the point where they usually say the same sets of things:
-"We can totally hang out, but I'm busy tonight..."
-"That's a possibility... Blah I work a lot. Maybe if I get off work early one day this week."
-"I can't... (followed up by lots of reasons why she can't make it)"
-No response
Anyway, I 'hard push' on all of these responses until it naturally ends on a high note or they just quit responding. Then, I text them later only to hit the same series of responses all over again until we just repeat the cycle (or they just stop responding). I honestly believe that a lot of the girls I meet really like me. I just can't seem to make it easy for them to see me again as I usually just forget about texting her after a week or so and move on. It's starting to dawn on me how many girls I'm missing out on though.
I'm sure this problem has been asked and answered a bunch of times, but I have started this post in the hopes that someone can hot route me to the answer ASAFP.
Final questions from real-life scenarios:
-What if she's ALWAYS busy? What kind of mindset should I have?
-How should I respond when she just leaves it hanging (dead air) but is still interested?
-Actual proper way to invite her back to your place if you're just lazy and don't feel like going out that night
I know there's a right way to do all of this and the sooner I get to practicing the idea, the better.
One final note or TL;DR - It's not my physical approach, but rather my 'texting' that messes things up for me most of the time. If you guys want some examples or anything, just let me know.
Thanks in advance,
Scott
