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I like the lounge bar idea. Can easily keep it short or escalate things if they go well.
Good stuff man.
Good stuff man.
Hey I'm coming a bit late on this one, and didn't have time to read all the answers - I'm sure all very good.
I also have experimented with the BlackDragon two dates model, and want to provide my perspective.
In my opinion, it is a little bit advanced level, precisely because of the problem you report here. Namely, she might change the way she feels about the date when she wakes up the next day, then grow cold, and bye bye second date.
Here is the advanced part of it: in order to be (reasonably) sure you get the second date, you have to play a subtle balance of sexual tension. Enough tension, so that when you end the date, you leave her wanting for more. But not enough tension that you actually leave her horny and unsatisfied - because then it's like a failed escalation.
One of the key recommendations of BD is that you end up the date at most 1h30 into the date. This is one of the ways to leave her wanting for more.
The way I play it is a little different. I come up to the date with an open plan. I measure the buying temperature, quite early in the date. If it's warm, I will aim to pull the same evening. If it's lukewarm, or if there are time constraints (i.e. less than the 4 hours needed for a full conclusion), then I will go for a short date, and schedule a second date.
I've had good results with this, with about half of success on date one, and half on date 2. Very rarely did I need a third date or more. It's usually counterproductive to shoot for 3 or more dates.
Seppuku
PS. I am a regular BD reader and have utmost respect for him.
BlackDragon has very strict rules about things, like no more than so much time on date 1 etc...
In my experience it's not precise science. A good rule of thumb is no more than two hours in a given date. Because remember that you have much more interesting things to do later at home, and you need to keep some time for this, too.
If you don't go for sex on date 1 for whatever reason, the key is to leave her wanting for more, in order to be reasonably sure the second date will happen. Ramp up sexual tension but not so much that she gets sexually aroused. Be the one ending up the date. And yeah, do not overdo it. Max 1h30. Manage it like an informational date.
This is probably one of the elements why it seems difficult for me and something I need to fix. How would you demonstrate such quality on dates.. that you can fill her life in action? Changing venues, more activity based dates, not beating around the bush? Or talking about your experiences how you were here and there doing this and that? That is what I see in some of my friends, they just talk about their life and people listen, add their own.In general you just want to understand that girls don't seek men, they seek a lifestyle boost. Once you appreciate that, it's easier to not view dates like her picking you. But rather she's just adding guy stuff into the motions that week