Calls & Texts Sexting: does it work?

[lux7]

OK, I tried some times to raise a bit the tone of the conversation and sometimes it worked, some other times less so.
I only once was very explicit as far as I can remember, but I was really young, the first times in chat and she was a continent away. I think it would have definitely worked if we had lived close.

My opinion is that it can work with the right girl; if you already know her (but then again, you might not need sexting to bed her in that case); if she's some kind of a horny cougar with experience and no time to waste etc.
The advantages are that you can meet and be almost sure to have some good sex without much to worry about.

The disadvantages are that a lot of times it can misfire and you end up ruining many possible personal, flesh and blood interactions.


You opinion/experiences?

 

[Chase]

Lucifer-

With sexting, sexy email writing, sexy webcam stuff, etc., I've seen this a bunch of times and my opinion is, based off the guys I've seen using it, it's a net negative. Most of the girls I've seen these guys end up hooking up with (after prolonged sexy talks) I'm pretty sure the girl would've hooked up with the guy all the same had he dropped off her radar and then popped up again when it was time to meet.

Many other times a guy will dump a load of time and effort and energy and emotion into sharing virtual sexy times with a woman, only for her to flake when it's time to meet - she didn't REALLY want sex with him, she was only enjoying the fantasy - it's like he was her own personal storyteller, just for her.

So - it's hard to say if doing it helped swing the girls the friends of mine I've seen end up with from using, or if it was extraneous. And it's hard to say for sure they wouldn't have lost the girls they did lose after hours on hours of long-distance sexy-times had they tried a different approach.

But my gut says, women LOVE mystery and intrigue, and being too forward about sex online sees to it that there's not really all that much intrigue about actually meeting up with you.

I think most men are trying to get women to decide in advance ("If I just make her horny enough, she'll decide that 2 weeks from now she'll go to bed with me!").

But women don't work that way. If you make them decide in advance, and then it doesn't happen IMMEDIATELY, the window closes - and the decision flips. One minutes, she's thinking, "Okay YES, I'm ready - I want him right now!" But you're not there, you're only sexting. The moment passes; her desire is unsatisfied; and a little later, she's over it, and when you try sexting her again or asking her to come over, it's, "Yawn - been there, done that."

Chase

 

[lux7]

Great reply, I agree, always good to read you Chase.