Sexually restrained

[thejourneyman]

So I've been with this Korean girl for 4+ months now, and a little background: works in the finance industry as a broker, paid well, intelligent (naturally, and knows 3 languages) and pretty. So finance professionals tend to be stressed out and need a release right?

This one doesnt however. The furthest we've got was kissing, legs on legs (fully clothed), (my hands) on her boobs/ass. The one time I managed to even step into her house was to pull some technique of purchasing a bottle of wine and asking her to chill it in her fridge. so, we had to go to her house to drink it later, and managed to push the relationship forward. Otherwise, everytime I've hinted/suggested even after a lot of kino to go back to her place, its an emphatic "no". (Shes Christian, but this should not affect it). Shes also a responsible lightweight when it comes to drinking, so alcohol doesnt serve its usual role as a social lubricant.

Its been 4+ months, and i'm tired of pushing. Is it time to give it up, or is there any other techniques that more experienced people have?
(Also, thank goodness we arent in a serious relationship, i slept with 3 other girls in this time period, otherwise I would have gone absolutely mad)

 

[Franco]

TJM,

Its been 4+ months, and i'm tired of pushing. Is it time to give it up, or is there any other techniques that more experienced people have?

Four months is a long time, and she obviously sees herself as in control of the relationship since you keep continuing to see her without getting sex. Your best bet here is just to cut her off until she's practically begging to see you. You need to make her believe (through your aloof actions) that you've started seeing another girl regularly who's having great sex with you so that she feels the need to pull you back in by putting out herself. This doesn't always work, but it's certainly your best shot.

That being said, any type of serious relationship with her might be jostled a bit by the fact that it took you so long to bed her, so that's just a forewarning.

- Franco

 

[daviddreamer]

OP is she a virgin? If not then....you're doing something wrong. If she is you may need to exercise extreme patience. Gonna take a wild guess and just say she is real conservative being from Korea.

 

[thejourneyman]

Well she may or may not be. She has had exes before however she claims that none has went to her place. I was the first. Also she was describing her friends experience with guys. Her friend went to a guys place on the 2nd date and my girl felt it was too soon. She also described sex as icky. However she is comfortable with cuddling and making out. Take it as you will.

Note shes 3 yrs older.. 29 yrs old. Im 26. Maybe she is a virgin.. lol.

 

[thejourneyman]

As for being korean, ive slept with another korean girl within 5 dates with no hiccups. Guess it depends.