She says I'll be in 'bar name ' later. How to roll solo...?

[lao che]

In HK having a ball. I'll probably write a couple reports soon. But hopefully for this girl too.
Long story short..
Meet her outside a bar, talk a lot of shit... Try to extract, the friend is problem but not in a bitchy way. Logistics.. I borrow my girl and go for a walk， make out, return to friends.. Very sexy... Two days later I get her on IM

Im going to meet my friend infront of the Blablabla hotel.. Statbucks.. leaving the house soon..enjoy the rest of the evening

Me-Sounds like an invite..
Not sure I'm ready to meet your friends yet (wink)

Her - ha ha yeah it's ok will be in 'same bar we met at' later


Seems like two definite invites to me. But my friends are all wasted pussies. How can I rock up there in a cool way and sweep this girl away?

 

[lao che]

What I mean is- I would have no other reason to be there other than to see her. It's gonna look try hard or what?

 

[Sophisticated Gent]

Lao che,

I know I am to late for last night but for future reference, she definitely invited you. She gave you time and location where she was going to be. This is about as strong as an invitation you will get from a girl. You would not have been chasing. I hope you went ahead and met her.

SGent

 

[lao che]

Problem wasn't go or not. It was how to approach the meet with she and her friends if I am alone.

Meh, I went to the bar. I hung around for a while. I waited and stole wifi from a coffee shop. Messaged her about what time she would be there. Message not read until I gave up, went into the bar but she not there.

Got home she's replied that she is there.

Too late so fuck it

 

[Lotus]

Go to said bar, socialize and meet other girls. You achieve some momentum and pre selection when she walks in and you are already having a blast. If she doesn't show up you have a good time and pursue your new leads.

It was a test that you failed

 

[Sophisticated Gent]

Go to said bar, socialize and meet other girls. You achieve some momentum and pre selection when she walks in and you are already having a blast. If she doesn't show up you have a good time and pursue your new leads.

Much better play Lotus.

 

[lao che]

That is a good plan. Some days I might be able to pull it off. But many variables e.g I arrive alone and she's already there, 'oh, where are your friends' or 'who are you with'

This particular bar is full of hookers. I was accosted inside and out, which can be fun. I always flirt and chat with them, and did last night, but they are very aggressive and there's not much more to do after you've given them a firm no. They cool off pretty quick.
Outside the bar too, where I first met the girl, a large group of girls, some beautiful Africans. I chase frame hard and always have them laughing and flirting, which obviously is super easy coz they want your wallet, but eventually they wanna get down to business. i say shit like ' you wanna pay me that much to fuck you? Double it and I'll think about it' etc but after a few minutes they eventually realize you are not a mark and give you the back turn.



I replied to her message 'too late baby I gone already'

Woke up this morning to - 'I know ha ha ha. You just came in to use the toilet right?'

So she's been asking around after me, I was being passed around like a pinball so I probably stood out (I strongly assume she's not a hooker, though she's Filipina, like the majority of the working girls.)
The hookers will compete for the better looking guys. They would rather get paid to fuck a champ than an overweight balding middle aged guy.

Maybe I can use the hookers as an excuse. Spin it somehow. I didn't know the bar was like that. Sunday night was raging, full of a mix of people, with a live band.


I don't see how she was giving me a test by inviting me... To a Starbucks with her friends. But, you're right, I could have seized the opportunity more forcibly.

 

[Chase]

Lao Che-

I've had too many "Girl says she's at Bar X, I go to Bar X, she never shows or it spirals horribly out of control" situations play out that I eventually came up with this rule, whether to save frustration, wasted energy, or both:

The Party Date: Don't Do It

My preference with these sorts of messages is more like this:

• Her: I'll be at Bar X.
  
  You: Ugh. Bar X. Well, if you make it out of there alive, text me later and we'll grab some food or a nightcap.

There's not really a way for you to go where she's just told you she'll be without it being chasing on your part, unless it's clearly a date where the two of you will meet up alone.

Here's another alternative:

• Her: I'll be at Bar X.
  
  You: Cool, I might head out later. I'll text you where I end up if so.
  
  [later]
  
  You: Hey, so I'm at Y Bar. Way more chill than the insanity over at Bar X. If you want to grab a drink and chill, swing by, I've got a seat for you. Otherwise let's meet up another day.

Just make sure you're doing it on your terms - find ways to get her complying with you instead of you chasing her around.

Chase

 

[lao che]

Thanks chase that makes total sense and is more or less what I would've done if I was on my own turf. I'm not familiar with Hong Kong night life and so many other things going on at same time.

Anyway, bad logistics and lack of time meant I wasn't able to meet her.
Pity coz I really liked her, hit it off, sold myself well, dealt with her friends very smoothly, dragged her away to a secluded place and made out with her etc etc... By the way all this was in front of a girl I had a very hardcore fun night with the previous night, and again the night in question, after the Filipino left to take her friend home.

Also had the culmination of a 8 month long game which paid off in spectacular fashion, and that girl also hung out with the first girl I fucked so all in all a winning time, 2/3 ain't bad...

Who knows sometime in the future I might see the Filipina. I really felt a deep attraction/connection between us.