Ok, need some quick advice.. Here's the rundown.. I met a girl awhile back (she's younger) when I was dating another girl, which was a coworker/friend of hers. I immediately thought she was attractive but couldn't act on it because of the situation I was in. That relationship went south when the girl lied to me and was with another man.. So, to save grace, she had her version, of course I had mine. That was 6-7 months ago. Since then, I have seen this new girl out, flirted, and nonchalantly would ask her out. She was dating another guy so I didn't strongly pursue it. Recently, I reached out to her, discovered she was single and asked her out. She agreed, and we said we would go out 4 days later. However; I did not set a time or date. I was ghost for the next 3 days and then the day before we were to meet, I simply text her with a time and place to meet, suggested that she dressed casual and be ready for a relaxing and good evening. She instantly replied, "oh, ok." So I went ghost again.. (Nicely played, I thought). The day of the meet, she reached out asking a couple questions. I was in a meeting and kept the exchange short and precise. Again, she replies "that works.." I did have to text her shortly before to let her know I was running late and pushed the time back a 1/2 hour. No problem there. We met, had a phenomenal date and went back to my house for a nightcap and some wonderful sex. The next day, she slept in as I went to work and she text me after she had left, thanking me for the evening. 3 days later, I was sitting at the bar that I frequent, watching football with some friends when we started exchanging texts again. I suggested she come hang out. She said she might and I told her "great, I'll see u shortly." This made her laugh and later she messaged me saying that she was gonna meet up with some of her friends but that she wanted to stop by and meet up with me first.. I said c'mon. She arrived, we hung out, had drinks, food, then took it back to my place again for another night of even better sex. During which she explained to me that she sometimes falls fast and that it was a little scary how much she was liking me.. We ended up going 2 rounds of some great sex, went to sleep and in the morning, while lying in bed, we made plans to meet up again 2 days later. She again slept in while I went to work and then obviously the communication started being a little more frequent.. Not much, but a little. That night, she hung out with one of her girlfriends and started texting me back and forth. I again kept it short and made sure that I kept the conversation to a minimal exchange. The next day (yesterday) she reached out to me initiating contact, while I was at work. A couple messages later, she told me she was headed home, starting to not feel good. I told her to go home, get some rest and that I would call her later. When I called her last night, we talked for maybe 1/2 hour - 45 min.. During which she started telling me that she felt like she was going to be in bed sick the next 3 days or so, thinking she was coming down with the flu.. However; she didn't sound sick to me.. We got off the phone, & now I am expecting that she will at some time today, shoot me a message saying she is sick and that we are not going to be able to hang out tonight. I haven't reached out to her yet today, but I'm wondering should I reach out and ask how she's feeling, then after she says that she is sick or something to that extent, tell her that "although I would really like to see her tonight, how about we reschedule. I will be busy all weekend, but we can get together one day next week." Then when next week comes reach out to her tell her I hope she feels better and then push it out for a couple more days before trying to reschedule,,,,, or what?? What's my next move here??
I enjoy reading all the articles on this site as it really does help out in understanding women a little better... I'm looking for a little advice on why women would flake in this situation when I haven't noticed any signs of her interest level lowering, and what I should do next, knowing that a guy's response to a girls flaking test can be crucial.. Thanks in advance..
I enjoy reading all the articles on this site as it really does help out in understanding women a little better... I'm looking for a little advice on why women would flake in this situation when I haven't noticed any signs of her interest level lowering, and what I should do next, knowing that a guy's response to a girls flaking test can be crucial.. Thanks in advance..