Shit Tests by Other Men in Salsa Class :) Rate how I handled it

[andersen09]

So I started taking salsa classes at my college. Long story short most of the guys are trying to be "impressive" by being serious or showing off the dance skills. I on the other hand, I'm a total beginner, but I just create my own bubble and have the most fun in class with my dance partners.

As all the girls are going around and switching partners I started hearing the following statements from the girls

"Omg, you're my favorite partner of all the dancers"
"YES, finally I get to dance with you again )"
"hiii... (Shy face)"

Anyways, I'm just doing my thing and the guy next to me starts getting insecure. Let's call him Jack.
The partners he's dancing with, sees that I'm having fun, and they want to dance with me.
Jack's the type of dude who's an advanced salsa dancer to his own right and he tries to impress by "showing more advanced moves, and teaching"
As for me, I'm a total beginner, so when I fuck up I just say "Fuck this, follow my lead. And I just create our own dance moves, which my partners LOVE"

So Jack starts making comments my way

Shit Test #1

Instructor: Now Men! You need to lead your women from beginning to end! Don't be the guy who opens doors for his lades the first date and stops by the end of the night!

Jack: Isn't that what you do Andersen when you go on dates?

Me: Nah buddy, that's you. I NEVER open doors for any women

Jack: (laughs) You hear this guy?!


Shit Test #2

Talking to a girl about Salsa and Bachata

Me: Yeah so Bachata and Salsa are different types of dancing

Some chode: No they're the same thing

Me: Have you taken Bachata classes before?

Chode: Yes

Me: Quit your bullshit

Chode: I'm not bullshitting!

Me: Whether or not, I'll let you have your opinion.

Chode: I read a book called...

Me: Ignore and go back to the girl

Later on I kind of felt bad for dismissing the dude, so I went up to the poor kid.

Me: What's your name man?

Chode: Gerardo and David

Me: What you wanna be called?

Chode: You can call me whoever

Me: look man we started on the wrong foot, I'm sorry about how I came off

Chode: It's whatever man

(At this point, I just realized this is a total fuckboy)

Me: Man, why'd I even bother, see ya.

And after that he didn't say much more.


This type of "men's shit test" used to bother me last year. As I would have a lot of the attention from women, and other guys would start getting the "menvy" and make sarcastic remarks and such my way. I used to respond aggressively, but now I've calmed down a bit as it's kind of like other men are testing to see how strong you are and test to see if you really are strong.

Any feed backs, insights, commentaries are appreciated.

 

[lostnumber]

Seems fine to me, but like most communication your non-verbals and tone are more important than what you actually said. I'd say remaining composed and not being rattled would be the biggest thing, regardless of what words come out of your mouth.

It sounds like you did that