OR Shocking two-minute close

[JRob]

I was just leaving the mall, after failing to approach anyone for an hour and a half, when I noticed this girl and her friends on the escalator with me. I saw her face and said to myself “no too young, I keep it legal”. Then the young guy behind me said “Hey”, “hi”, “her over there, hi”, and I said to myself “is this kid trying to open”? I moved so that he could get closer to talk to her, but he didn’t. I thought maybe he isn’t really committed to the approach, and isn’t willing to leave his friends. Then her friend replied, “No, you can’t talk to her that’s my girl!” Now that would have stopped me in my tracks, and she didn’t just say it once, but twice! The kid cut through that blocker like a freaking chainsaw. He said no it’s not like that we don’t have to fight or anything. The next thing I knew he made a comment about e**ing and was gone with the girl. I missed some of the conversation, but what did I miss? Did his friends intervene? What would I say? Well, if it were me I would say “no we don’t have to fight, you don’t have to beat me up, but Wow is that your lover? (Challenging that assertion) You have really good taste. Speaking of taste, I also e** well at the dinner table I just bring different utensils.” But that’s just a guess. The whole thing was two minutes or less, and that brother didn’t look as sharp as me or some other well dressed guys that were in the mall.

-JRob

 

[theemann31]

JRob, nice job getting out and trying to meet some females. I've found success with a group of girls to be to just persist and persist and persist to cut through whatever BS is thrown at you. If a friend jumps in and says something you can just deflect it and give a compliment and introduce yourself:

You: Hi there, how are you
Friend:No, you can’t talk to her that’s my girl!
You: Oh really, I think she's really pretty and wanted to meet her, I'm JRob (then extend hand to the girl you like)
-----if friend persists-----
Friend: Cut that out, she doesn't want to meet you
You: I haven't even heard a word out of her yet! I don't even know her name ( motion for her to tell you)

Just deflect the response and keep on trying to get to know the girl. What her name is, where she's at in life, what brought her out, how her day's going etc. just deflect and keep moving.

Also, if you're spending alot of time walking around at the mall not doing anything then I'd suggest 1 of two things:

- Go find the area of the mall with the highest foot traffic and seating and take a seat there, wait for a cutie to walk by and open genuine interest. If she's investing (she will shake your hand and let you hold it and answer basic questions) then suggest sitting down before you two get run over. If she won't invest then persist and persist to get her to sit or warm up to you. If it's a no-go then just excuse yourself and take a seat again until another cutie struts by.
- Try other venues. I don't know if you're doing this one but try meeting women at the grocery store or the Public library or a cafe', an art gallery or record shop etc. The hard part here is two-fold, 1. finding the part of town with the most women and 2. Giving yourself permission to approach at a grocery store or a dead silent library.
1. Just explore, try to find reasons to go to more places and try new spots, the Foursquare app is a good one to many places. Maybe you pick up weight lifting and need to start cooking more, so you hit the grocery store regularly (and try different ones in different parts of town). Same with the libraries, study at the library some times or do some reading there or whatever, don't just do mass approach at the mall as your only source of meeting women, branch out.
2. Giving yourself permission to "interrupt" the cutie with her face buried in a book or the dairy aisle. Just be honest with yourself, you don't have the dating life you want right now, you like this girl, you can see yourself doing things with her. So be just be honest with her and go say at the least, "Hi, I'm JRob" and give her a compliment from there with a big smile on your face and take it from there. There's nothing wrong with this, it's natural and honest.

And above all keep swinging out there.

-Josh

 

[lux7]

In which way "gone with the girl", like just the two of them?

And what about her friend.

Seems strange, the way your wrote it...

 

[JRob]

Yes, by "gone with the girl" I mean just the two of them. To be descriptive they were walking from the outdoor strip of shops to the parking lot with his arm around her right shoulder (guiding her?). The friends [plural] were behind me, because I think I heard them earlier. It's hard to eavesdrop on just one conversation without looking like a weirdo, but if I can learn something I'm game.

 

[lux7]

Yes, by "gone with the girl" I mean just the two of them. To be descriptive they were walking from the outdoor strip of shops to the parking lot with his arm around her right shoulder (guiding her?). The friends [plural] were behind me, because I think I heard them earlier. It's hard to eavesdrop on just one conversation without looking like a weirdo, but if I can learn something I'm game.

Hmmm ok, that's not very common I would say.

What do you mean comment about "e**ing"?

Was she a bit of a fatty, or not that attractive?

 

[JRob]

e**ting = eating (not food)

I didn't know how explicit I could be. So I was trying to play it safe with the wording. The girl was pretty (all ass, but certainly not fat).

 

[Hector Papi Castillo]

e**ting = eating (not food)

I didn't know how explicit I could be. So I was trying to play it safe with the wording. The girl was pretty (all ass, but certainly not fat)

You mean eating her pussy?

Don't worry about language on this forum, so long as you're not insulting another board member without cause (e.g., "fuck you, you piece of shit"). I mean, it is a place where we talk about sex...

Hector