Short question about body signs

[Adamantimus]

Let's say I'm sitting next to a girl at a sofa. There are other persons at the sofa too, but this is sort of an irrelevant information here.

What I want to know is, when a girl's sitting next to me, she's not sitting close-up to me, arms almost touching, but rather takes just a small space between the two of us. A wider space than the girl who's sitting at the other side of me, and whom to I'm chatting now and then.

Still, this first mentioned girls knees are pointing 45 degrees towards my direction. Also, the legs are streched to the floor in a 140 degree angle, which to me is a sign of relaxation, because she hasn't pulled them to this hook-like position, as close to the sofa as possible, in a 45 degree angle which could perhaps sign nervousness or uneasiness.
So to me it's a mixed sign - taking some personal space, but legs and/or knees still pointing a bit towards.


Okay, one more bonus question, though this could be a no-brainer.

At one point in the evening her toes would accidentally touch mine. She would glance at the toes, then pull them away. So she consciously recognized that she had just touched my toes. I didn't react to this in any way. I didn't pull them away, nor did I try to start to move my toes toward hers. I simply let them be where they were. Nor did I smile or anything else, as I was focused on other things, just like everybody else.

 

[Flames]

As always context is everything here. What your talking about though is proxemics.

I'm not entirely clear on the body positioning your describing, but what I can tell you is it's seems to be an 'open position'. An example of a closed position would be legs firmly together and/or arms across the chest or lady parts.

However neither is particularly bad until you engage and judge what happens next, if she switches to a more open body position then the going is good, if she physically 'shuts you out' then that isn't so good. Again you have to watch for clusters of body language. So if says she appears to turn away slightly but she's gazing (with good EC) over a shoulder to talk to you ie trying to look demure that's fine.

It's a very complicated subject and is personal to the person in question so I'll Summarise by saying that if she's treating you differently (and engaging you) to everyone else in the room, your more than likely in with a chance. You should always assume attraction anyway and it'll be apparent fairly soon if she isn't (or is).

Personally I always open girls when I'm sat near them anyway regardless if wether I'm interested or I think they're interested simply because it way better than sitting around looking like a loose end.

Hope that helps a bit.

 

[Richard]

First and foremost: check out this article on Non-Verbal Communication

Also, girls feet always point towards where their focus is (same with all people actually), so if her feet were pointed in your direction, and she sat close to you when the sofa had more space then it's not an accident, and her toes touching yours wasn't an "accident" either.

|----- X---Y--------Z---| if that's the sofa in perspective where you're Y, the 45 degree girl is X, and the other girl is Z then it was no accident buddy

 

[Adamantimus]

Thank you for the answers. They helped greatly! =)

I see my description might have been a little vague.


if that's the sofa in perspective where you're Y, the 45 degree girl is X, and the other girl is Z

| sofa |
Y = Me
X = Girl with her legs in 90 degree angle while sitting. Normal posture, engaging to the conversation going in the room.
Z = The girl who touched my toes at one point in the evening, when she was sitting at the floor, closer to me. Do keep in mind that she would rather sit at the floor than next to me at the sofa. Later she would position herself at the sofa, taking a bit space like in the model below.


[other people positioned this side of the room] |-X--Y-----Z-|

 

[Flames]

Actually the foot thing is fairly true. The idea being that the further away from your head the body part is the more 'truth' it tells.

 

[Adamantimus]

You are right, Flames.

And yeah, the Z girl was the one with the open leg position. Though the legs focused towards where I sat could also be because that's where everyone else were positioned towards? Next to me or beyond the coach to the right (from the girl Z's point of view)