Short term "ex" becomes single again and brings up your rejection of her

[Rain]

I have 2 similar examples of the same thing. Saw 2 women for short period of time. Sex, watch tv together, stay over some nights we spent together they really liked me. But after I rejected them, both of them went back to their ex they were with before me. Some months later, they broke up with their ex. When we were in contact again, they both brought up my rejection of them but used the same words they used months ago.

Woman 1. She said "Need to find Rain an awesome chick" after I rejected her. This wasn't straight after I rejected her but it was when I pointed out some other chick and talked about her being a wingwoman so that's still sort of rejection, but the big rejection had happened before this specific instance. Then she went back to her ex, then a few months later she was single again. I contact her over txt, then see her on online dating and contact there too and she goes "Still haven't found yourself an awesome chick".

Woman 2. She said "I can't lose all the fat" after I rejected her, and then she went back to her ex, then a couple of months later she contacts me over txt with a photo and said "Still too fat for you" or something like that. A few days later her fb changed to single[was not friends on fb but that status was not private] and that photo she had sent me ended up on her new dating profile.

Notice how both women used their own words, the same words from months before that. Are they in the same mindset months later? The main difference between woman 1 is that I recontacted her first, where as woman 2 recontacted me first. Why bring that up, when they did. What does it mean when someone brings up your rejection of them after seeing them nonexclusive short term?

 

[Michal]

Ok... women have pride. You damage her image or make her look really bad, she will remember that like an elephant. Also, for women, rejection stings. So of course they use that some thing, same line.

Imagine you were in a bar, the girl is seduced, all you need to do is say "lets go to my place". Suddenly some jock comes up to you two, looks her up and down, tells her "yo, lets get out of here". She takes her stuff, does not even look at you and as the guy is walking away with her, he turns around and tells you "losers like you dont deserve that kind of pussy"
Next week, you see him talking to some girl, she looks at you with somewhat "come and give it to me stud" kind of look for 2 seconds, then looks at him again. So you walk up to her, look her up and down and tell her "hey, the night is young, wanna get out of here?" right in front of the dude. 96% of people would now use his line ("losers like you dont deserve that kind of pussy") to shove it up in his face, because you just showed him, you can play the same game.

Btw. Did the girl lose significant amount of weight? If yes and suddenly you decide to pursue her, you can pretty much expect similar form of rejection like "nah, you are too short/skinny/whatever for me".

Sometimes people saying stuff like that want to establish themselves above you or as more capable then you. Or in worse case, they want to prove something to you or show you that you made a mistake

 

[Rain]

The example of a guy, shoving it in the other guys face, you're confident women would likely do that back to a guy they were previously with?

Woman 2 did not appear to have lost significant weight, I wouldn't have called her fat to begin with, she said "I can't lose all the weight" when I was not wanting to commit. I may have handled that the wrong way. Without giving details of why, but I didn't correct her when she made the weight comment.

I thought a bit more and I do get the mindset of, if someone says you're too skinny, then months or more later they pursue you, you weren't good enough originally, and you're still skinny but now suddenly you're good enough? Feels like they couldn't find better, and that makes you feel bad. You'd find it hard to trust them so I can understand that mindset, I wondered if that mindset was applicable though accross both sexes and not just men. And if thats what was going on here in both woman 1 and woman 2 scenario or only maybe with one of them?

 

[foggy]

yo rain, two interesting situations here.

Woman 1. She said "Need to find Rain an awesome chick" after I rejected her. This wasn't straight after I rejected her but it was when I pointed out some other chick and talked about her being a wingwoman so that's still sort of rejection, but the big rejection had happened before this specific instance. Then she went back to her ex, then a few months later she was single again. I contact her over txt, then see her on online dating and contact there too and she goes "Still haven't found yourself an awesome chick".

She's challenging you. Here's what shes thinking: "why would he get back into contact with me and reinitiate contact after he rejected me? He probably hasn't found anything better. He doesn't actually care about me, he's just desperate cuz he hasn't found anyone else."

So you're making yourself a little too easy to get, and she's throwing up a lil roadblock for you to pass before she'll allow you back into her life again. If you were to say, "nope, havent found myself an awesome chick" you likely wouldn't hear from her again cuz that would give her all the power.

Woman 2. She said "I can't lose all the fat" after I rejected her, and then she went back to her ex, then a couple of months later she contacts me over txt with a photo and said "Still too fat for you" or something like that. A few days later her fb changed to single[was not friends on fb but that status was not private] and that photo she had sent me ended up on her new dating profile.

"Still too fat for you" is basically, "am i still too fat for you?" She's trying to get back with you, but finds you to be a little bit of a challenge. So she wants you to show her that you appreciate her