Should I flirt with other girls when a girl I am interested in is around?

[razir110]

Hi everyone!

So there is this girl I'm into. We have common friends and we see each other through them like every weekend. She knows I'm into her and she is well.. not easy to understand, but I like her anyways, I've sent her flowers, etc so we are in this middle ground of go or not go.

When we ho out, should I feel any remorse what so ever to flirt with other girls in her presence? I mean I see no problem what so ever in it, since she hasnt hooked up with me yet, she is undecided, etc. Would it be seen as a way to make her jealous? Should I even give a f about what she thinks? Could it even play for me, like she would see she's not the only pretender I've got and it would make her jel, etc?

What is your take on this?

Cheers!

 

[Cacc]

If you're interested in a girl and you see her when you go out, what are you waiting for? Take her on a date then back at your place. Waiting for her to make the move is a good way to never get anywhere.

But to answer your question, it depends. If this girl really likes you then flirting with other girls will make her jealous and fight for you. But if she doesn't like you that much it can peak her interest and start vying for your attention.

However ignore her too much and you'll send her into auto rejection. So flirt away

 

[razir110]

Cacc,

Thank you for your reply.

Then let me ask you a more detailed question,

You see ones we met I asked her out and she rejected. I always follow the policy of moving fast with girls, but you I am ok to play this one slower. We got to know each other a bit better after a while and long story short, I think i can get her to open up. She is sweet and I like her.

So, its just shitty that she is part of the group with who I hang out during weekends. So now if I ask her out, and she refuses again, I would show up on the weekend knowing she will be there, so it would make me powerless. If I don't ask her out, well it's moving nowhere. Maybe I should ask her out again in person on weekend when I see her?

The point is, this is getting messy, as with any long-term investment, not to mention there is another guy in the group who is hitting on her. I'm totally cool with it, but its just she feels desired by many men and thats not good. lol.. Anyways to sum this all up,

I am ok with taking longer with her. Should I keep seing her as part of the group on weekends, or should I hang out with other people and only see her if she goes on a date with me?

**UPDATE* I asked her out again and I won't hang out with this group this weekend. Good to hang out with someone else and meet new girls in a different place. If she wants to hang out with me then be it on a date, not in the group

 

[Cacc]

Good job man. Hope it goes well for you.

Some points tho,

I am ok with taking longer with her

Thing is, the longer you take with a girl the more chances you have to fuck up and the less excited she becomes.


If for whatever reason you don't end up going on a date. If you still want this girl then my advice is that when you both hang out in the same group dont be awkward.

Be social with her so she doesnt think you're buthhurt about it. But start flirting with other girls and maybe fuck 1 or 2 and she'll start taking notice. Its preselection.

Forget about her for awhile and work on other girls and she'll notice that you are a man who is desired by other women, and she'll start realizing she was wrong about you. When that happens, pull her off to the side, isolate her, and escalate.

 

[razir110]

Very good points Cacc!

Yes good advice on the part that if we dont end up going on a date, I will still hang out in that group and will start actively hitting on other girls while in her presence, not because i want to show something, but because i can and why not If she notices/acts on it then good, if not, I'll just keep doing my thing with other women.

One major interference here is that other guy that is after her. I dunno if they are having something (I heard they are, but honestly I couldn't care less, I don't see him as a compatitor. He doesn't care much about her and kinda treats her like sht, so anyways if this is what she is looking for in a guy, then she is not my girl anyways, cause it's not the treatment I give to women.

So good points there and thanks for your advice!

Cheers