Hello everybody.
A happy new year to all to start.
Please be kind with my syntax. I’m a French native speaker so English is not my main language.
I have known a girl for almost a year and a half. She belongs to my group of friends but we have never been very close until recently. Simple formalities in general. No deep discussions. Everyone has their own life without being too interested in each other. An evening companion without more.
In the meantime, in this group of friends, I got into a relationship with a girl. The two were just friends who liked each other. Nothing more.
After the breakup with the other girl:
Gradually, and I don't know how to be honest, we started talking to each other more, we created a check that we do every time we see each other. When we meet in a club we laugh together, I even hold her by the lower back without reluctance. But without going any further.
From these changes, I began to ask myself questions but without calculating it too much.
A few days ago a friend that we have in common and with whom I spoke on the phone asked me if X was my style. I replied that there is nothing between us but that if eventually she manages to hold my attention other than by her appearance and that a complicity settles between us, it would not be impossible. But that in any case, I will not force anything with her.
Yesterday. This same friend invites me to dinner at her house with her friends (including the girl in question)
They were 3 girls that I will name X,Y,Z
-1 with her boyfriend (Z)
-my friend who had a date the same evening (Y)
-the girl in question alone (X)
As soon as I arrived. X came to greet me. She wore mini pajama shorts that half uncovered her butt. We laughed a little then she went to make up in the toilets for 45 minutes.
We start talking with friends about various and varied subjects. Nothing very special so far. Y talks about her crushes, asks for advice. In general, I try not to react too much to this kind of discussion so as not to reveal myself.
At one point. I speak with X and Y comes and begins to tell us respectively “you go well together bla-bla-bla”. I ignored and continued my discussion with the girl.
Shortly after, X asks me what I think of her personality. If she had a repulsive character for a guy to want to pair up with her.
I answer her sincerely that at first I found her haughty but that she was a person we appreciated as we got to know her.
After dinner :
With Z, her boyfriend and X, we start talking about our styles of guys/girls. At that moment, everyone spoke except me because there was a cut in which Z and her boyfriend were going out. Given the time, I got up and said I was leaving too.
Small visit to the bathroom, in the meantime I find myself alone with the girl who tells me that it really made her happy that we talk to each other and that we get to know each other and that it is sad that I move so early. We chatted for 2 minutes and when we got out Z came back alone. She asks me if I'm leaving already and X says yes, but by the way, you didn't tell us what your type of girl was.
I sat down again
.
I noticed that each time I gave a characteristic she asked me for validation in relation to it. Ex: hair, do you prefer short or long, butt, chest etc…… she showed me pictures of her before and after, her colorings. And always asked my opinion whether it was to help her put music for his New Year's Insta story or something else.
We continued to talk a bit. Then really tired, I get up and decide to go for good. This is where Z who had only been a spectator for a while told me.
That's it, you're leaving too, my boyfriend left me and you're going to leave X.
At this moment, the two looked at each other with wide eyes. I laughed and left.
General behavior of X during the evening: generally open to discussion, follow-up, good audience, sometimes a little erased on her phone.
Also I don’t really know if that really matters but sometimes she use some words like “bro, dude” but it looks like a habit in her way of talking with everyone.
The reason I’m not sure if this is interest or only a friendly behaviour is because we know each other for long time. And before, I’ve never noticed any signs of interest from her, also she’s been picking boys in front of me many times.
Edit : Yesterday, Y invited me again to come home with them to work.
She told me that she will work alone and I will work with X.
I didn’t go
A happy new year to all to start.
Please be kind with my syntax. I’m a French native speaker so English is not my main language.
I have known a girl for almost a year and a half. She belongs to my group of friends but we have never been very close until recently. Simple formalities in general. No deep discussions. Everyone has their own life without being too interested in each other. An evening companion without more.
In the meantime, in this group of friends, I got into a relationship with a girl. The two were just friends who liked each other. Nothing more.
After the breakup with the other girl:
Gradually, and I don't know how to be honest, we started talking to each other more, we created a check that we do every time we see each other. When we meet in a club we laugh together, I even hold her by the lower back without reluctance. But without going any further.
From these changes, I began to ask myself questions but without calculating it too much.
A few days ago a friend that we have in common and with whom I spoke on the phone asked me if X was my style. I replied that there is nothing between us but that if eventually she manages to hold my attention other than by her appearance and that a complicity settles between us, it would not be impossible. But that in any case, I will not force anything with her.
Yesterday. This same friend invites me to dinner at her house with her friends (including the girl in question)
They were 3 girls that I will name X,Y,Z
-1 with her boyfriend (Z)
-my friend who had a date the same evening (Y)
-the girl in question alone (X)
As soon as I arrived. X came to greet me. She wore mini pajama shorts that half uncovered her butt. We laughed a little then she went to make up in the toilets for 45 minutes.
We start talking with friends about various and varied subjects. Nothing very special so far. Y talks about her crushes, asks for advice. In general, I try not to react too much to this kind of discussion so as not to reveal myself.
At one point. I speak with X and Y comes and begins to tell us respectively “you go well together bla-bla-bla”. I ignored and continued my discussion with the girl.
Shortly after, X asks me what I think of her personality. If she had a repulsive character for a guy to want to pair up with her.
I answer her sincerely that at first I found her haughty but that she was a person we appreciated as we got to know her.
After dinner :
With Z, her boyfriend and X, we start talking about our styles of guys/girls. At that moment, everyone spoke except me because there was a cut in which Z and her boyfriend were going out. Given the time, I got up and said I was leaving too.
Small visit to the bathroom, in the meantime I find myself alone with the girl who tells me that it really made her happy that we talk to each other and that we get to know each other and that it is sad that I move so early. We chatted for 2 minutes and when we got out Z came back alone. She asks me if I'm leaving already and X says yes, but by the way, you didn't tell us what your type of girl was.
I sat down again
.I noticed that each time I gave a characteristic she asked me for validation in relation to it. Ex: hair, do you prefer short or long, butt, chest etc…… she showed me pictures of her before and after, her colorings. And always asked my opinion whether it was to help her put music for his New Year's Insta story or something else.
We continued to talk a bit. Then really tired, I get up and decide to go for good. This is where Z who had only been a spectator for a while told me.
That's it, you're leaving too, my boyfriend left me and you're going to leave X.
At this moment, the two looked at each other with wide eyes. I laughed and left.
General behavior of X during the evening: generally open to discussion, follow-up, good audience, sometimes a little erased on her phone.
Also I don’t really know if that really matters but sometimes she use some words like “bro, dude” but it looks like a habit in her way of talking with everyone.
The reason I’m not sure if this is interest or only a friendly behaviour is because we know each other for long time. And before, I’ve never noticed any signs of interest from her, also she’s been picking boys in front of me many times.
Edit : Yesterday, Y invited me again to come home with them to work.
She told me that she will work alone and I will work with X.
I didn’t go
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