So there was some clear attraction with this girl I work with for quite some time but I took way to long to anything about it (months) and we became good friends, although we'd still flirt a lot and she seemed nervous around me.
One night after a party we ended up back at her place, we kissed and cuddled but she said she wasn't sure if it was a good idea so I backed down out of respect for a friend. This happened a few more times and each time I felt she really wanted something to happen but wouldn't and I couldn't put my finger on it, she kept giving me reason like 'it could get awkward in work'. One night her house mate (who we also work with) burst in the room with a clear cover story in an attempt to stop anything happening between us. We'd spend all day in bed the next day and even cuddle up on the sofa and watch films and she'd cook for me. I asked her out a few times when I was drunk but each time she said no, although never given me a clear 'NO' or a real reason why.
We started texting back and forth a lot and even met outside of work a couple of times, once for a meal just the two of us, but I was getting frustrated, she seemed disinterest at times. So I decided to cut communication with her to see how she responded. She became quite distant and even a bit cold at times in work after this and I felt she had gone off me.
So anyway A couple of weeks ago we were drunk again and I asked her out again but she seemed to get frustrated and said 'Why do you keep asking out when your drunk?' - so the following week I asked her out sober and she finally agreed to it, although at first she said I was only doing it to annoy her.
So we went out for a drink and had a pretty awesome night. However at the end of the night, she got a text and started acting very shifty, threw her coat on, finished her drink and wanted to leave sharpish. Suddenly her house mate turns up with this random guy I've never met before. The girl I was out with said she needs to leave so I offer to walk her home which is when she drops the bomb shell - she's seeing the guy who turned up. I confronted her about it and due to the alcohol probably over reacted. She started crying saying she had really liked me for a long time but I'd taken to long to make a move, and that on top of that she didn't trust me and I was acting like a 'child who wanted what he can't have'. It all got very emotional and out of hand. The weird thing is the guy didn't seem to bothered, he simply said 'I better leave' and off he went with the house mate.
I asked her what she thought of the guy she was with and she simply said 'He's ok... he makes me feel safe'. It was left on a bit of a bad note.
I messaged her the next day apologising for over reacting and she replied with: "Let's just draw a line under it. Won't happen again" - I'm confused if she means the possibility of me and her or just that drunken episode.
The next day I told her I wanted to meet for a coffee and to talk and she suggested a day, but since then I can't get hold of her.
There's definite sparks between us and I know she has feelings for me, but I'm worried I may have messed things up. I'm not sure if I've inadvertently given her mixed signals to think I was messing her around by only trying it on when drunk or whether she's actually just been using me for attention the whole time.
Any advice would be great. Thanks.
One night after a party we ended up back at her place, we kissed and cuddled but she said she wasn't sure if it was a good idea so I backed down out of respect for a friend. This happened a few more times and each time I felt she really wanted something to happen but wouldn't and I couldn't put my finger on it, she kept giving me reason like 'it could get awkward in work'. One night her house mate (who we also work with) burst in the room with a clear cover story in an attempt to stop anything happening between us. We'd spend all day in bed the next day and even cuddle up on the sofa and watch films and she'd cook for me. I asked her out a few times when I was drunk but each time she said no, although never given me a clear 'NO' or a real reason why.
We started texting back and forth a lot and even met outside of work a couple of times, once for a meal just the two of us, but I was getting frustrated, she seemed disinterest at times. So I decided to cut communication with her to see how she responded. She became quite distant and even a bit cold at times in work after this and I felt she had gone off me.
So anyway A couple of weeks ago we were drunk again and I asked her out again but she seemed to get frustrated and said 'Why do you keep asking out when your drunk?' - so the following week I asked her out sober and she finally agreed to it, although at first she said I was only doing it to annoy her.
So we went out for a drink and had a pretty awesome night. However at the end of the night, she got a text and started acting very shifty, threw her coat on, finished her drink and wanted to leave sharpish. Suddenly her house mate turns up with this random guy I've never met before. The girl I was out with said she needs to leave so I offer to walk her home which is when she drops the bomb shell - she's seeing the guy who turned up. I confronted her about it and due to the alcohol probably over reacted. She started crying saying she had really liked me for a long time but I'd taken to long to make a move, and that on top of that she didn't trust me and I was acting like a 'child who wanted what he can't have'. It all got very emotional and out of hand. The weird thing is the guy didn't seem to bothered, he simply said 'I better leave' and off he went with the house mate.
I asked her what she thought of the guy she was with and she simply said 'He's ok... he makes me feel safe'. It was left on a bit of a bad note.
I messaged her the next day apologising for over reacting and she replied with: "Let's just draw a line under it. Won't happen again" - I'm confused if she means the possibility of me and her or just that drunken episode.
The next day I told her I wanted to meet for a coffee and to talk and she suggested a day, but since then I can't get hold of her.
There's definite sparks between us and I know she has feelings for me, but I'm worried I may have messed things up. I'm not sure if I've inadvertently given her mixed signals to think I was messing her around by only trying it on when drunk or whether she's actually just been using me for attention the whole time.
Any advice would be great. Thanks.
