Should I start calling girls to banter before texting for a date?

[sneaky_charm]

Hey folks! Hope you've been wrecking chicks well!

I've closed 4 numbers till date. I know I know nothing compared to other members!

Haven't got any chick out on a date yet, which is obvious.

Today trying to schedule meeting with the 4th girl didn't work.

I met her at park on Wednesday. She was with her best friend. Talked for about 4 minutes, and it went well. When I gave her my phone, she put her number along with her name, and saved it.

Texted after about 5 hours of meeting, she replied longer texts than me and with multiple emoticons in the same text, even though I didn't use emoticons! Exchanged a few texts, and she said she'd message me the next day, to which I didn't reply. This was about 9pm, Wednesday.

The next day, Thursday, I waited for her to initiate text. I guess she waited for me to initiate even though she said she'd text me. I didn't, just to see how strong the attraction was on her part. Lo and behold, she texted me a good night text with smiley at around 10pm. I didn't reply.

Today at around 11am, I thought of getting a date, and after a few initial exchanges, I brought up the topic. She didn't offer me any other day except Sunday. At first I said I couldn't do Sunday and then stopped texting. Again, after a few hours, I texted her saying my Sunday plan got cancelled so if she was still free. (A BIG MISTAKE ON MY PART).

She replied that she was free, but couldn't do where I asked her to come, and said the time 3pm didn't work, since she had to meet her friends. I texted multiple times (ANOTHER HUGE MISTAKE), and she didn't reply to my last 2 texts, one of which was me asking her to offer time and location.

SO SHOULD I START CALLING?

I'm thinking of following this strategy:

1. After about 6 hours of meeting, exchange 2 or 3 texts.....
2. Second day text a little more
3. Third day, silence
3. Fourth day, call to banter for about 10 minutes
4. Fifth day, silence
5. Sixth day, schedule a date by texting or calling

Does it sound like a good strategy?

I'M QUITE SURE THAT IT IS LACK OF BANTERING.....GIRLS THINKING 'WHOA I DON'T EVEN KNOW THIS GUY THAT WELL TO MEET HIM'...HOW DO I SOLVE THE PROBLEM?

So when do you skip the bantering part???? Should I start bantering before asking for dates?

- Kevin

 

[Smith]

I think you're overcomplicating this.

If you follow chase's guide, you ask her out before u take her number so she knows why, then it's usually icebreaker text with "glad to have met you =) [your name]" or "save my number =) [your name]" after 1 to 2 hours. any longer than that it'll get awkward.

Then depends on what she replies, if it's short and not engaging then ignore it. Wait 1-2 days, text her again with a few texts of banter then ask her out, or you can go straight to the point with your first text. This will depend on your initial interaction with the girl and the girl herself.

If she replied with enthusiasm to your icebreaker text, go straight to setting up a date. In your case, this is probably what you should've done.

It is that easy. Don't try too hard with your texts as well. It'll come across as needy.

I'M QUITE SURE THAT IT IS LACK OF BANTERING.....GIRLS THINKING 'WHOA I DON'T EVEN KNOW THIS GUY THAT WELL TO MEET HIM'...HOW DO I SOLVE THE PROBLEM?

if the girl is thinking that, then it means you didn't do well enough in your interaction. But it's just as easy to mess up over text as well.

- Smith

 

[sneaky_charm]

Then depends on what she replies, if it's short and not engaging then ignore it. Wait 1-2 days, text her again with a few texts of banter then ask her out, or you can go straight to the point with your first text. This will depend on your initial interaction with the girl and the girl herself.

If she replied with enthusiasm to your icebreaker text, go straight to setting up a date. In your case, this is probably what you should've done.

Got it!

if the girl is thinking that, then it means you didn't do well enough in your interaction. But it's just as easy to mess up over text as well.

But how do I make a close connection within 3 - 5 minutes?

 

[coolmike]

Good Job on not pestering her, and letting her initiate the text to you that one night, instead of you making first contact.

If her replies are longer then yours, and she seems enthusiastic that means she is interested in meeting up with you.

One question, when you said you texted her multiple times, did you text her the same question such as "When are you free?" or where you having a convo with her?

I realize that you guys were trying to setup a date for Sunday and she stopped replying, if I were you I would not call her and blow up her phone you will come off desperate and you dont want to do that. Wait about 48 hours and send her a text to see if she is still interested in meeting up. If she replies and says yes set up a date preferrably sooner then later, if she doesnt reply cut your losses and move on.

Best of luck to u buddy.