Should I still approach this girl?

[Suave]

I have this girl in my class, she's attractive, yes. But the problem is that even though I didn't get to know her enough I did mess things us being too aloof and too much of a douch and sending her into an auto-rejection kind of state. Except, she's still attracted! She does look at me ever so often.

However, I am still a little worried that if I have misjudged her interest even by a bit, her reaction's gonna be bad. I don't know but I think so!

Also, if I approach her, won't I appear to be needy and weak? I first thought about apologizing for the behavior, but I thought I'll get some experienced guys' views on uy first.

Also, if I should open to her again, how? A few examples please?

Thank you.

 

[Miguel]

By the way you are framing the situation, it seems you are giving too much importance to her. So I would suggest approaching other girls openly and keep her in check to see if she wants someting from you or not. Otherwise she is playing with your limited options.

 

[Suave]

By the way you are framing the situation, it seems you are giving too much importance to her. So I would suggest approaching other girls openly and keep her in check to see if she wants someting from you or not. Otherwise she is playing with your limited options.

I don't know, I never do look at her directly though, peripheral vision, I use it a lot. Also, yeah, I do have some options options with girls, so that isn't a problem.

 

[carlitos2055]

Just do it! Weigh the consequences:
She still likes you- Can lead up to sex
-She doesn't- She ignores you/Acts aloof herself.

There you go. Positives far outweigh negatives!

-Carlos

 

[Miguel]

I don't know, I never do look at her directly though, peripheral vision, I use it a lot. Also, yeah, I do have some options options with girls, so that isn't a problem.

Using peripheral vision seems like a good idea here. If you feel she is in auto-rejection, it's better to wait some time, maybe one or two weeks before approaching. That would make her calm down and think about you (If she is really into you). Otherwise she could be overwhelmed.

 

[Suave]

Just do it! Weigh the consequences:
She still likes you- Can lead up to sex
-She doesn't- She ignores you/Acts aloof herself.

There you go. Positives far outweigh negatives!

-Carlos

That's a great way of looking at things you've got there! Thanks, will try to chat her up the next time.

 

[Suave]

I don't know, I never do look at her directly though, peripheral vision, I use it a lot. Also, yeah, I do have some options options with girls, so that isn't a problem.

Using peripheral vision seems like a good idea here. If you feel she is in auto-rejection, it's better to wait some time, maybe one or two weeks before approaching. That would make her calm down and think about you (If she is really into you). Otherwise she could be overwhelmed.

Good point. Duly noted.

I have waited forc sometime already, so... I'll go for it.

 

[Suave]

I have this girl in my class, she's attractive, yes. But the problem is that even though I didn't get to know her enough I did mess things us being too aloof and too much of a douch and sending her into an auto-rejection kind of state. Except, she's still attracted! She does look at me ever so often.

What do you mean by all this? Did you take her out already or have you just been talking to her at school? Are we talking college or high school? If she's still attracted, you're not in auto-rejection, you've just stepped on her toes during the mating dance.

However, I am still a little worried that if I have misjudged her interest even by a bit, her reaction's gonna be bad. I don't know but I think so!

This site advises to be the super confident and prideful bad boy, but in situations where you're unsure, go into the conversation neutral. Not supplicating or apologizing, but not throwing your cock around. Just feel things out. Ask about something relevant, like a test or something, and then go into how her week's been, then inquire more about something she says. From there, it all depends on how douchey you think you came across before. If too much, pull back a bit, show her you're not all douche by being a bit more lighthearted and doing some light banter. If just a tad bit, then go in neutral, with a tad bit of doucheness. Either way, the goal is to take her home, so focus on that. This is all just from my experience.

Also, if I approach her, won't I appear to be needy and weak? I first thought about apologizing for the behavior, but I thought I'll get some experienced guys' views on uy first.

Also, if I should open to her again, how? A few examples please?

If you go in neutral, you can't appear weak or needy. "Neutral" means not showing interest not hiding interest, a good way to test out the waters. Then take it from there to show your interest. See above. An example form me would be summer camp.I was a junior counselor and this counselor babe liked me. Thing was, there was no way to have sex with her without security finding us. So I had to maintain her interest until camp was over. I kept changing up the vibe and seeing what I'd get away with. I'd ignore her all day and make some harsh jokes, and then later I would be neutral and ask about the schedule tomorrow, then do some light banter and compliment her. I made sure to spend as little time as possible with her, but use my time with her to keep her attracted. The more you talk, the more chances you have to mess up.

Good luck dude.

Thanks for the detailed reply bro. Highly appreciated. I think I'll try it this time. Let's see how it goes.

Nice work with the camp babe btw!

EDIT: Nope didn't ask her out, we just interacted a little and yeah, we are talking about school.

Thanks again.