Ok, I started reading this book called Nancy Friday - My Secret Garden, it tells women's different sexual fantasies, even during or after a sexual intercourse with a man. The content is somewhat a threat to men, and its kinda disturbing if you think of them seriously and it can also hurt your inner game, whilst I already read a few page of it though. I know that this could be true or false but what do you guys think? Should I stop? lol
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If it's messing with you, I would definetly stop.
I do not know what the content of the book is, but if it's manipulating you in a bad way, then I would stop.
I do not know what the content of the book is, but if it's manipulating you in a bad way, then I would stop.
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No. Well, unless you understood the message the book is trying to convey, as it pertains to seduction.
I'm going out on a limb here, but perhaps the book is disturbing to you because you're coming from a background where you believe that women are pure little angels like Hermione from Harry Potter who would never have sex before marriage or something. I suppose it could be quite jarring at first for some, but hopefully you'll come to accept the fact that that's how women really are. We're dealing with people here so women will have varying levels of sexual fantasies, from being gang raped by animals to nonexistence of fantasies, but it is how it is. I mean, look at how popular 50 Shades of Grey is, for example:
Most women enjoy sex, and the kinky kind excites them, unless they're devout nuns or something. If you're trying to get good at sleeping with many women, I think you'll have much more success once you accept that women can be horny and kinky as fuck, and learn to be non-judgemental about their sexuality while allowing them to express themselves.
I think it's rather a threat to white knights who hold tightly onto, and refuse to change, their innocent beliefs of women. On the other hand, I think it's a source of enlightenment to aspiring seducers who are trying to understand how women really are.[GC]Jay said:
I'm going out on a limb here, but perhaps the book is disturbing to you because you're coming from a background where you believe that women are pure little angels like Hermione from Harry Potter who would never have sex before marriage or something. I suppose it could be quite jarring at first for some, but hopefully you'll come to accept the fact that that's how women really are. We're dealing with people here so women will have varying levels of sexual fantasies, from being gang raped by animals to nonexistence of fantasies, but it is how it is. I mean, look at how popular 50 Shades of Grey is, for example:
Wikipedia said:
Most women enjoy sex, and the kinky kind excites them, unless they're devout nuns or something. If you're trying to get good at sleeping with many women, I think you'll have much more success once you accept that women can be horny and kinky as fuck, and learn to be non-judgemental about their sexuality while allowing them to express themselves.
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No, my point is that they think of something say fantasizing while your having sex wit her. I mean like shes not satisfied having sex with you? and for that she still fantasizing? It's like your thrusting to her while shes on fantasy land or was I wrong?
No, my point is that they think of something say fantasizing while your having sex wit her. I mean like shes not satisfied having sex with you? and for that she still fantasizing? It's like your thrusting to her while shes on fantasy land or was I wrong?
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Take the word Fantasy - it's just a fantasy, nothing more. We men fantasize during masturbation, so does women too. As a matter of fact why don't you take those information you get from the book to your advantage? Use them, go on and fulfill women's fantasy just don't get yourself too far though, like having sex with her with your pet animal. LOL!
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Oh, so I guess it might be more of a performance anxiety or insecurity issue.
Try to think of it like this instead of taking it personally: if fantasizing before/during sex helps her reach orgasm quicker, harder, and maybe multiple times, then what's there to fuss about? She's cumming and you're the one making her cum. I guess there will be girls who may leave you for a gang of black men or a dog due to her inability to be sexually satisfied with you, but at the end of the day, if you can give her good orgasms then she should be happy.
I'd say you're in the best position if you can allow her to openly express such fantasies, and maybe even help her out with it. Does she like BDSM? Tie her up, spank her, and make her cum hard. Does she have gang rape fantasies? Buy another dildo or two and fuck her hard (sounds difficult lols). She'll have a hard time finding another man who's so open and accepting as you in today's world of super friendly, shy, and supplicating men. Oh, and what if she isn't satisfied with you and it causes problems for the two of you? Replace her.
Try to think of it like this instead of taking it personally: if fantasizing before/during sex helps her reach orgasm quicker, harder, and maybe multiple times, then what's there to fuss about? She's cumming and you're the one making her cum. I guess there will be girls who may leave you for a gang of black men or a dog due to her inability to be sexually satisfied with you, but at the end of the day, if you can give her good orgasms then she should be happy.
I'd say you're in the best position if you can allow her to openly express such fantasies, and maybe even help her out with it. Does she like BDSM? Tie her up, spank her, and make her cum hard. Does she have gang rape fantasies? Buy another dildo or two and fuck her hard (sounds difficult lols). She'll have a hard time finding another man who's so open and accepting as you in today's world of super friendly, shy, and supplicating men. Oh, and what if she isn't satisfied with you and it causes problems for the two of you? Replace her.
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fsc said:
Exactly my point. But maybe he wants the girl to screaming his name? That should cure his insecurity issue...because "Hey she's screaming my name man...now I know shes not on fantasy island." LOL!
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Another advice that I'd like to share is that sexual satisfaction isn't the only thing a woman looks for in a man. It's important, but it's still only a part of the equation.
As long as you know this and continuously work to improve yourself in all aspects of being a truly top-notch man (conversationalist, ability to form an emotional connection, edgy, humble, dominant, emotional and financial stability, vulnerable, sexy, etc...you would know how an ideal male should be if you've read enough of GC articles), then you should be fine whether you're trying to be a lover or a provider.
As long as you know this and continuously work to improve yourself in all aspects of being a truly top-notch man (conversationalist, ability to form an emotional connection, edgy, humble, dominant, emotional and financial stability, vulnerable, sexy, etc...you would know how an ideal male should be if you've read enough of GC articles), then you should be fine whether you're trying to be a lover or a provider.
For some reason...I was wrong about the book as a threat to men and a mental disturbance rather it unlocked my true understanding about women and it boosted my inner game skyrocket. I started reading it last night about 50 pages, but I woke up this morning and everything just come up to me and my inner game and my views about women kind have changed, I also understand the mistakes I made from the past that being subtle with women is not the key of unlocking her. Back then I was afraid to touch even just the slightest hair on her arms and I was wrong all along. For some reason though - I become a bit sexual this morning, there was this kind of effect like whenever I pass through a girl while thinking the sexual fantasies at the same time making a seductive eye contact and the girl started blushing and sometimes just sometimes with the other girls - she looked back at me like shes gonna rip my clothes off and suck my dick like there's no tomorrow (I'm not being paranoid, I cant tell its totally different and I know the what-a-creep-look. There was also another effect...my brain got stimulated and my humor just simply went up a bit and probably because they have some sexuality in them and people who tend not to laugh at my corny jokes in the past have started laughing this day I don't know if its just luck or I just have a good day or its the effect I get from reading the book. I don't know.