Should you apologize for taking so long to text back? And is it hypocritical?

[The Byronic Man]

1. If you were so busy that it took you 24+ hours to respond to a text message, should you apologize and explain why it took you so long to text back? With confident, high value girls, my gut instinct is that I should not (mainly because there isn't a need to since she understands people get busy). But with girls you feel are prone to auto-rejection, I have a feeling this would be good...since it projects that warmness that keeps her from auto-rejecting. I've been having issues with auto-rejection lately. But MORE importantly, I'm thinking this may preemptively stop her from thinking I'm playing games. If she thinks I'm playing games, she may start playing them herself.

2. If we don't want to encourage games, isn't it hypocritical to wait before we text a response? I understand the psychology (unpredictability and her enjoying chasing you), but it doesn't seem to justify the hypocrisy.

 

[Light]

Re: Should you apologize for taking so long to text back? And is it hypocritica

Its polite to say sorry, but no need to explain why.

Typical reply: "Hi dear, sorry for late reply. Been busy. When would you like to meet up? " etc etc

 

[Franco]

Re: Should you apologize for taking so long to text back? And is it hypocritica

2. If we don't want to encourage games, isn't it hypocritical to wait before we text a response? I understand the psychology (unpredictability and her enjoying chasing you), but it doesn't seem to justify the hypocrisy.

The actual length of time you take to respond isn't really part of the "games" you're playing. It feels like it when you're first starting out (and it will probably feel that way for awhile) until you have an intermediate level of abundance because you'll be consciously always thinking about when a woman is going to text you and when you should text her back. Attractive women are receiving texts all day long from different guys, and often times they are just too busy to notice or to think of a response at the time, so it will take them awhile before they answer. So for them, it isn't really a game when you take a long time to respond, nor is it a game when they take a long time to respond. However, she'll still subconsciously take notice of the amount of time it takes you to text back to each of her messages -- if it seems instantaneous all the time, she'll assume you aren't a very busy man and that you don't have many other options.

The game-playing comes in with the actual texts that you send. If you're sending her "gamey" texts instead being direct and to the point, then you're encouraging her to send "counter-gamey" texts right back, which makes the conversation itself a game. This is what you want to avoid. Your texts can be humorous, but when you ask her for compliance (such as taking her on a date), you want to be very clear about it, otherwise you'll encourage her to play games by beating around the bush.

- Franco

 

[PinotNoir]

Re: Should you apologize for taking so long to text back? And is it hypocritica

As far as hypocrisy, I suggest reading this article: https://www.girlschase.com/content/do-you-really-need-learn-game-get-girls

There's also a good forum post somewhere that I commented in about "game."

Really, it's just a word. If you don't like that idea, then don't think of it as game. Think of it as "you being the sexiest man possible."

One trait of a sexy man is that he's busy pursuing and/or doing his dream. If his dream is to kill Moby Dick, he's out getting supplies, becoming captain of a ship, etc. If his dream is to write a novel, he's at the library crunching away, going to seminars, etc. If he doesn't know what his dream/passion is, he's trying to find out. The "waiting to text" is just an element/trait of being (or looking like) a sexy man because a sexy man is essentially busy and is not an eager puppy that responds to texts as fast as possible while drooling, and a sexy man is possibly getting lots of texts from other girls.

But, being nice is also fine. Saying sorry is fine here, but no need for explanation like Light said, unless she asks. With an added explanation without her asking, you're doing too much work and trying too hard to appease her.

Now, contrary to what I said above, every girl is different. You don't want to fall into "auto-rejection" because you're too unattainable. It depends on the girl and her responses. Sometimes you do not want to wait. It's best to just be spontaneous about it. Sometimes respond quick and sometimes don't.

Also, read this recent article if you haven't: https://www.girlschase.com/content/things-show-women-you’re-chasing-them-that’s-bad

In it, he said something that really got my attention. He says that for beginners it's okay to try some chasing in order to see if it works or fail. This way you can see how far you can push the boundaries. Try responding quick and see if it works. Experiment and get the experience.

 

[trashKENNUT]

Re: Should you apologize for taking so long to text back? And is it hypocritica

A common man mistake. Chase has mention this before, about men needing to be logic.

Because Women don't think the same way as you do, Period. This stuck in my mind for a long while.

My thoughts,
Zac