Show no mercy for people blocking your way

[Mr.Rob]

Had an interaction earlier today where a guy tried to ask me a question and cause me to break circle with the girl I was talking to.

He was not trying to tool me or derail my seduction on purpose but simply wasn't socially calibrated.

I chose not to break circle and basically ignore him. I felt bad doing it and a part of me wanted to be cool with him but in learning from past mistakes I know it totally derails everything.

Here is a snippet from my journal of a metaphor I created to help me not feel bad for cutting the guy down.

quick note on the guy that interjected: When he said his shit to me I instinctively wanted to answer him and be cool with him but that would've TOTALLY derailed this shit. I don't want him to feel like a chode and feel bad for cutting him off but I know it's going to fuck me up.

This is something I'm going to have to embrace more. Can't be afraid to cut a mother fucker down if they are getting in the way of what I want. It's the spirit of competition. There is a winner and a loser. Communism doesn't work.

I like to liken it to a NAVY aircraft carrier going full speed ahead to proceed towards their mission goal. If a dinky little fishing boat gets in the way of the aircraft carrier barreling through the little fishing boat has two options
1. Get the fuck out of the way
2. Get run over
There is zero chance that the aircraft carrier is going to slow the boat down, change direction, and derail their progress to save the little fishing boat that should be out of the way to begin with. It's not that the aircraft carrier doesn't like fishing boats but the fishing boat shouldn't have gotten in its way and the aircraft carrier has boundaries in place to not let anything compromise progress to completing the mission.

Perhaps that is an intense metaphor and I do not want to link seduction to "completing the mission" but in relation to guys getting in the way one must not be scared to cut them down if necessary.

 

[Big Daddy]

Hahaha in fact, the mental image that I created out of that metaphor was hilarious. But you're so fucking right.

Boss shit there, thanks for reminding me of this.

 

[Mr.Rob]

Boss shit there, thanks for reminding me of this.

Yeah you got it dude

Really just trying to remind myself here.

It's a really badass mindset to come. From an outside perspective it can almost be seen malicious out of a sense of ego (I'm the big bad dude that punishes lamo's for fun), but it reality it's just having strong personal boundaries (something that all badass successful people from history have).

 

[Chase]

Rob-

Here's an analogy that's perhaps even more appropriate:

Navy ship is running full speed towards its target. Its mission is critical.

Dinky fishing boat drifts up to the side, just outside its wake. Fishing boat captain calls up: "Hey Navy boat! Can you stop for a few minutes so we can come aboard and ask you a question?"

Navy boat does not change course or slow down, and blows right past dinky fishing boat.

Dinky fishing boat captain shrugs his shoulders and says, "Gosh, it's so hard to find information out here, everyone's so busy," then goes back to fishing.

Chase

 

[Rage]

Rob

I think we talked about this before, but I've found as I've further embodied this dominant character and not acting anymore instead have had it become who I am, people will naturally clear the way for me keep out of my way just nearly always (and alongside this I get all these random guys at the gym that will ask my permission that I'm not using something far away from me, or say sorry for no reason haha).

I recognize I think that the only people that don't step out of your way like that, much if at all are other dominant high testosterone guys. I recognize them like game recognizing game sort of. Lol

 

[Mr.Rob]

Rob-

Here's an analogy that's perhaps even more appropriate:

Navy ship is running full speed towards its target. Its mission is critical.

Dinky fishing boat drifts up to the side, just outside its wake. Fishing boat captain calls up: "Hey Navy boat! Can you stop for a few minutes so we can come aboard and ask you a question?"

Navy boat does not change course or slow down, and blows right past dinky fishing boat.

Dinky fishing boat captain shrugs his shoulders and says, "Gosh, it's so hard to find information out here, everyone's so busy," then goes back to fishing.

Chase

Haha yes definitely more appropriate.

But what if we replace the dinky fishing boat with a bigger sized enemy boat that wants to veer the Navy ship off course by entering it's direct path? However the enemy disguises itself as an allied ship.

Rob

I think we talked about this before, but I've found as I've further embodied this dominant character and not acting anymore instead have had it become who I am, people will naturally clear the way for me keep out of my way just nearly always (and alongside this I get all these random guys at the gym that will ask my permission that I'm not using something far away from me, or say sorry for no reason haha).

I recognize I think that the only people that don't step out of your way like that, much if at all are other dominant high testosterone guys. I recognize them like game recognizing game sort of. Lol

Yeah definitely it's kind of cool how it works and make you feel ultra powerful at first when people step out of your way for you.

However for me I still revert back to old emotional states and physiologies in which I do not command that instant respect or dominance.

Example if I'm stuck in my head at a nightclub vs. when I feel like a boss and am pulling girls into me left/right.

Do you experience this as well?

 

[Rage]

Rob-

Here's an analogy that's perhaps even more appropriate:

Navy ship is running full speed towards its target. Its mission is critical.

Dinky fishing boat drifts up to the side, just outside its wake. Fishing boat captain calls up: "Hey Navy boat! Can you stop for a few minutes so we can come aboard and ask you a question?"

Navy boat does not change course or slow down, and blows right past dinky fishing boat.

Dinky fishing boat captain shrugs his shoulders and says, "Gosh, it's so hard to find information out here, everyone's so busy," then goes back to fishing.

Chase

Haha yes definitely more appropriate.

But what if we replace the dinky fishing boat with a bigger sized enemy boat that wants to veer the Navy ship off course by entering it's direct path? However the enemy disguises itself as an allied ship.

Rob

I think we talked about this before, but I've found as I've further embodied this dominant character and not acting anymore instead have had it become who I am, people will naturally clear the way for me keep out of my way just nearly always (and alongside this I get all these random guys at the gym that will ask my permission that I'm not using something far away from me, or say sorry for no reason haha).

I recognize I think that the only people that don't step out of your way like that, much if at all are other dominant high testosterone guys. I recognize them like game recognizing game sort of. Lol

Yeah definitely it's kind of cool how it works and make you feel ultra powerful at first when people step out of your way for you.

However for me I still revert back to old emotional states and physiologies in which I do not command that instant respect or dominance.

Example if I'm stuck in my head at a nightclub vs. when I feel like a boss and am pulling girls into me left/right.

Do you experience this as well?

I think perhaps bro, like if I see a really tough split second random approach and I hesitate or in doing. Something and am unsure or my mind is elsewhere or whatever. Maybe in that context of doing something unfamiliar or something bro

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But on the other hand it might not be for me because if you mean in terms of like being confident or having people step out of my way or being dominant I sort of always had that back into earlier years. When I was really young like 5 or 6 I had crippling anxiety and anxiety attacks and couldn't go a lot of places or be around many people without going into intense fear and panic.

But once that left in like later elementary school id always been confident and cocky and headstrong. Not sure of what the psychology involve is for me or you or anything but it is interesting (ie for me maybe it was from high test or personality disorder or being really competitive or whatever).

In the context of the above then (and one regards to pushing through crowds or being around people in general) when I err it always tends to be towards the other direction. Always tends to being too aggressive too dominant too fierce to the point where it is off putting or scary or intimidating to others.

For example I might attack the weights too aggressively or even if I'm quiet I'll have a look of death and rage in my face and that might scare someone so I'll have to make sure to give a disarming smile after or something. With everything for me here it's not falling too much in the extreme of too much aggression, too much risk too much addictive fun etc. I have to curb it all back and chill a bit; chill and let the guy be the one to walk past me time to time if you will.

I'm not sure I'm doing your question justice bro? But did you mean reverting to a past paradigms more as a result of psychology or as a fault of unfamiliar settings/moods/prior habits?

 

[BarryS1]

Rob, I just started working in a large office and see this happen all the time. During meetings or in casual settings like lunch, people show a low tolerance for interruptions. They will not acknowledge the person again, just keep plowing through with the conversation.

Occasionally, someone might tell me to repeat it again (if it was relevant) after the original speaker finished.

After seeing it happen I realized if people are willing to use it with their co-workers, why not everywhere? During the first week of work, I thought it was harsh, but saw that people just rolled with the punches. I guess it is more common than I thought.

 

[Smurf]

Great post, Rob.

It's something you either know already or need to train yourself to do. Work is actually a great example of this because at work you'll probably see this the most. It's the place where social level jockeying happens a lot.

One you really have to watch out for is what I call the "hover", where someone moves into your field of vision and just stands there. Until you train yourself, it's going to feel extremely awkward and you'll be really tempted to look haha.

Jake.