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Can't believe it happened for me today. My first lay from cold approaches and it's a same day lay from street to bed ;) It was unexpected, especially the opening was slow and cold. I just follow the process and escalate.

I had about an hour break in the morning, so I used that time to meet new women. I was trying hard to get over the art gallery girl. Can't even remember the girls I opened, but one that particularly stood out was this girl who told me she's not looking for anything but she appreciated the compliment and said to me 'good luck out there!" lol. This is the second time a girl has said that to me. A little bitterness started to arise in me, but I fought it hard. told myself that at least I made her day.

Then I went back to class and had lunch to catch up with my friends. I was thinking about just going home and go to the gym, but I wanted to meet more girls. My ego was building up this negativity in my head about how small this town is and how I'm running out of options. I ignored it. Then walked to the city centre, and saw these two girls sitting by themselves. I hesitated and saw another cute girl walking past, so I decided to go meet her instead, but I lost her when she turned right into a building. I walked back and still saw those two girls sitting there. One was cute. I steadied my breath and focus on my breathing as I walked towards them. They couldn't hear what I was saying, but I was sure that my voice was good. The cute one's english wasn't that good. After a bit of banter between the two girls, I focused on the cute girl. I have to say....They were REALLY shy. Their voice were so quiet....If I didn't have more experience, I would've just left, but I stayed and started to warm her up. She was smiling shyly a lot.

I barely talked to the other girl and I felt bad, but I still kept the conversation on the cute girl. Apparently, she got dumped by her bf (of two months) last week, and told me she's looking for a new bf. A hint maybe?
There were some silences in the conversation but that's because she dropped the ball. Thank god I'm already used to this kinda tension, so I sit there comfortably waiting for her to re-engage, and she did. After about 30 mins, the other girl has to leave to catch a bus. The cute girl asked me if I wanna come. I said "that depends...how far is the bus stop?"
She said "not far". I told her "Okay let's go"
After we walked for about 30 seconds, the other girl said "Actually I can just walk to the bus stop myself. U guys can..."
wow, am I hearing this right? she's helping me.
i said nothing and just smiled. The cute girl acted shocked and they started to whisper something to each other. To be honest, I didn't really care.
After her friend left, she asked me what we shud do, I suggested us to get coffee.

As we get to the cafe, I asked her what she would like, she told me to choose. I suggested cappuccino and she gladly accepted.
I paid for both of us simply because it was smoother this way and it's cheap. when she wanted to pay me back, I was very nonchalant and told her not to worry about it.
This is where things got interesting. When the coffee arrived, I played around with it and saw her mirroring my movement and gave me a sexy eye contact and smile. Oh it's on! ;)
I dial up the sexuality and thought about sexual thoughts. I played around with her hand and she was playing with mine. Not much conversation was going. She was really quiet. The sexual tension was building up. We were staring deeply into each other's eye while the kids at the next table was playing and screaming. It was really funny and we both laughed. After the parents and the kids at the next table left, the cafe was just the two of us. She suddenly told me she had one gf back in Thailand.
I smiled sexily....and touched her arm
Me: "haha really? that's awesome"
her eyes light up.
I deep dived her about her sexuality and dropped some sexual innuendo.
I motioned her to lean in closer because I don't want the dude at the counter to hear this.
Me: "so you're telling me you prefer...sausages now?"
She laughed and looked down shyly.
After a while, I switched back to normal conversation.
she still hasn't even touched her coffee. I asked her if she's gonna finished that, she looked reluctantly.
This reminded of a date I had before, I'm not gonna make the same mistake waiting for her to finish her coffee. So I told her "let's go for a walk"
Her: "but it's so cold out there"
So we left, and I felt bad for the guy at the counter who made the coffee lol She only took one sip.
She wasn't wearing any stockings (funnily after we slept together, I saw her wearing stockings. Where the hell did they come from?)
I insisted that we go for a walk to the train station nearby, where it's pretty isolated.
so we were holding hands as we walk, and she leaned in closer to me at times telling me she's cold.
I was planning to go inside the train station, but as soon as I walked in, I saw this girl I opened early today sitting on a bench by herself. lol.
I quickly turned around and suggested we sit on the ground outside where it's sunny and warm.

We sit close together and my arm around her. I started to deep dive her about her past and stuff and brought the mood back up at times.
she's only 16 and both her ex gf and ex bf were in their 20s. She showed me her ex gf, who's actually pretty cute lol.
After joking around with her about her phone case, I showed her my phone.
Her: "so do you wanna exchange number?"
Me: "yea sure"
As I unlocked my phone, I saw a text from the art gallery girl who didn't return my text and call yesterday - "sorry I just got my phone back"
I ignored it, and typed in the cute girl's number. I gave her a miss call so she has my number. I saw her didn't bother saving it, so I didn't save hers as well.

I also sprinkled a bit of sexual talk in between. I manhandle kissed her with a quick peck and she kissed me back.
Me: "do you know what's the Thai kiss?"
she smiled
Her: "yes"
Me: "so what is it?"
Her: "hahaha"
Me: "I only know the French kiss. u know what that is right?"
she shaked her head and smiled shyly.
Her: "no?"
I acted shocked and surprised, and she laughed.
Her: "why did you decide to talk to me?"
I paused
Me: "because you had that sad look in your eyes and i wanted to cheer you up"
Her: "really? did I look sad?"

As the conversation kept going, I almost missed the next escalation window.
She asked me where I live, and I told her it's not far from where she works. (It's actually a little bit far haha)
then I asked her where she lives, she told me at the south of the city, which is actually a lot further.
As we started to talk about something else, I can see her starting to go cold. I pondered about this, and realized what I just missed.
I got up and told her "let's go"
Her: "are we going to your place?"
Me: "yes"
Then we hold hands and started walking. Bantering and relating to her as we walk.

She kept saying it's far, but I just played it cool and told her we're almost there.
As soon as we got to my place, she said there's something in her eyes and wanted me to close the curtains.
oh now it's really on ;)
The room is now dark except the light coming from my laptop screen. I just relaxed, turned on the music then sit next to her on my bed.
I pulled her in and kissed her immediately. Then I laid her down, and started escalating.
She was kissing me passionately. But physically blocking me from taking off her top and her shorts, and told me 'no' when my hand went close to her pussy.
I didn't let it bother me and kept making out with her. I lost track of time here, so I didn't really know how long we made out before she started to take off her bra.
She wouldn't let me do it lol she moved my hand away when I wanted to take it off for her. Instead, she wanted to take it off herself. Interesting.
Her hands were going down my jean and playing with my dick a little too hard that it was hurting me lol I didn't say anything.
She asked me if she could give me a bj. lol sure. I didn't wanna blow too early, so I stopped her halfway through.
She got up to pee, so I laid on my bed and I was a bit scared that she's gonna put her bra back on.
But she didn't, she jumped back into bed with me and we started making out again.
She took my hand and put it inside her shorts. I tried to take off her short, but she would rather do it herself.
Then we started fking. She guided my cock into her pussy, and I used the adapted missionary position Chase mentioned. Putting my arms underneath her shoulder. She was moaning hard and we were sweating a lot. I was trying to adjust my climax to hers, but I think I came a bit too early, because I fingered her right afterwards and she orgasmed again. But hey! positive thinking! she probably orgasmed twice.
Then we laid there hugging each other quietly. I hold her close.
I was about to go for second round, but she told me she's tired.
I fingered her anyway, and she orgasmed pretty quickly. she bite my shoulder as she reached climax. I have a feeling this girl likes it really rough.
We laid there and made out until she told me she has to go to work. I got up and put on my pj and t shirt. My voice just got a whole lot sexier.
Maroon 5's new song 'Sugar' was playing in the background.
I walked to the window and pulled open the curtain a bit to see the view. She walked up behind me and hugged me. We kissed more and made out again on the bed.
Her: "Do you wanna see me again?"
Me: "hmm do u wanna see again?
Her: "haha I asked you first."
Me: "I asked you second."
She looked away
Me: "I think u wanna see me again"
Then we kept making out.

Her: "tell me something"
Me: "like what?"
Her: "anything"
Me: "you're adorable"
Her: "haha"
and she hugged me
Me: "now your turn"
Her: "haha no"
Me: "come on tell me"
after another four no's, she finally whispered to my ear....."I love you"
oh fk....
Me: "are you serious?" I blurted it out. But I think she didn't catch me saying this.
I collected myself as she looked at me
Me: "I think I'm falling for you too" (a response I've learned from my ex gf. A satisfying answer but not definite)
Then she hugged me again.

As we walked downstairs to the living room, she told me she forgot her jacket, so we walked back up to my room again.
Me: "I think u were using it as an excuse to come back up. didn't u?"
Her: "haha maybe?"
As we walked downstairs,
Her: "oh wait! I forgot something else"
Me: "haha"

After she left, I walked back to my room and turned on the light........I saw blood on my condom. My eyes widened.
There were blood on my bed and traces of it on my pillow.
Either this girl was still a virgin, or she was on her period....
I looked at my finger and there was some blood as well.
Oh well, it was worth it. I took out the bed sheet and the pillow case then put them into the washing machine.
Man, I'm starving.
That was an unexpected afternoon.

Feel free to critique where I could've done better =)

Note: She has been texting me a lot since then. The ratio is about 2:1.
 

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Yoo, my man! Killer job!

I'm in a bit of a time crunch, but otherwise I'd really dig in and break this down for constructive feedback.

You have quite a few good things going on during this interaction, which includes your realization of this escalation window at the end.

And this:
Smith said:
I motioned her to lean in closer because I don't want the dude at the counter to hear this.
Me: "so you're telling me you prefer...sausages now?"
She laughed and looked down shyly.

So gold.

But... be careful about setting (her) expectations. Young, inexperienced girls like this...their emotions go haywire. Make sure she understands where your path is, that is, if you don't want a relationship out of this. Nothing like breaking a young girl's heart.

Otherwise, what a great milestone to cross! You're going to be one lady killer, Smith.

~Nick
 

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Hey Smith,

Way to go, awesome lay!

This reminded of a date I had before, I'm not gonna make the same mistake waiting for her to finish her coffee. So I told her "let's go for a walk"
Her: "but it's so cold out there"

Good move learning from a past mistake.

We sit close together and my arm around her. I started to deep dive her about her past and stuff and brought the mood back up at times.
she's only 16 and both her ex gf and ex bf were in their 20s.

Where do you live dude? I live in the U.S. and under 18 is jailbait here... hey but if 16 is legal where you live then awesome, she's fair game! Lol

Her: "tell me something"
Me: "like what?"
Her: "anything"
Me: "you're adorable"
Her: "haha"
and she hugged me
Me: "now your turn"
Her: "haha no"
Me: "come on tell me"
after another four no's, she finally whispered to my ear....."I love you"
oh fk....
Me: "are you serious?" I blurted it out. But I think she didn't catch me saying this.
I collected myself as she looked at me
Me: "I think I'm falling for you too" (a response I've learned from my ex gf. A satisfying answer but not definite)
Then she hugged me again.

She's inexperienced, and it was good of you to consider her feelings and be careful not to hurt her; another response I've given in this sort of scenario is just a warm smile and a kiss... sort of like the interaction in this article: https://www.girlschase.com/content/love-first-sight:
She spent the night with me, and this morning told me she loved me.

She asked me if I loved her back; I looked at her and gave her a warm smile. “You don’t love me,” she said.

“You don’t love me either,” I told her. “We just got together yesterday!”

“But I loved you the moment I saw you,” she said. “I walked into the restaurant and I saw you, and you smiled at me, and I said, ‘Oh God, I’m in love.’ Didn’t you feel it? Why did you smile at me that way?”

Just an option; but she seemed warm after (according to your report) so you're all good.

After she left, I walked back to my room and turned on the light........I saw blood on my condom. My eyes widened.
There were blood on my bed and traces of it on my pillow.
Either this girl was still a virgin, or she was on her period....
I looked at my finger and there was some blood as well.
Oh well, it was worth it. I took out the bed sheet and the pillow case then put them into the washing machine.
Man, I'm starving.
That was an unexpected afternoon.

Considering that she's 16, and that she said she loves you, there's a chance she was a virgin (unless you mentioned otherwise in the report?)... All in all though congrats man, glad to see you get this lay :)

-Gem
 

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Good stuff, Smith! I'm glad to see this is finally paying out for you. Keep up the good work! =)

- Franco
 

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Next time:

Her:"I Love You"

You: "I love me too"

Set up expectations early, unless you want to make her g.f but still way too early for the "I love you crap". Be wary of stage 5 clingers/stalkers.
 

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Haha, Eternity, nice line steal from ROK. With a shy girl like this, that sorta response can probably hurt her, especially since Smith went for a "sweet but sexy" seduction (e.g., "you looked sad and I wanted to cheer you up").

Smith, good shit. You persisted where some men would have given up and you just casually dealt with LMR. Props :)

- Anatman
 

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Anatman said:
Haha, Eternity, nice line steal from ROK. With a shy girl like this, that sorta response can probably hurt her, especially since Smith went for a "sweet but sexy" seduction (e.g., "you looked sad and I wanted to cheer you up").

Smith, good shit. You persisted where some men would have given up and you just casually dealt with LMR. Props :)

- Anatman

It's for the next girl he fucks and gets shit tested by. I assume he will be gaming other chicks after this one. Smith, if she says this to you again ,say the above fast and barely comprehensible. Because when she bitches about how you told her that you love her, you will have plausible deniability in saying that "No I didn't, you misunderstood what I said". Psy Ops- it will come in handy courtesy of Heartiste.

P.S- Even shy girls have a bad side. despite appearances.
 

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PrettyDecent wrote:
Yoo, my man! Killer job!
I'm in a bit of a time crunch, but otherwise I'd really dig in and break this down for constructive feedback.
You have quite a few good things going on during this interaction, which includes your realization of this escalation window at the end. But... be careful about setting (her) expectations. Young, inexperienced girls like this...their emotions go haywire. Make sure she understands where your path is, that is, if you don't want a relationship out of this. Nothing like breaking a young girl's heart.
Otherwise, what a great milestone to cross! You're going to be one lady killer, Smith.

Thanks brother! It was an awesome experience! It definitely reinforced some of the mindsets I've been trying to ingrained into my brain.
After a lot of thinking, while getting into a relationship with this girl right now is an attractive option (because exams are coming up, I won't be having a lot of time picking up girls), I still want to achieve absolute abundance!
I'll definitely set her expectations right, and be careful if she gets too invested.

Gem wrote:
Considering that she's 16, and that she said she loves you, there's a chance she was a virgin (unless you mentioned otherwise in the report?)... All in all though congrats man, glad to see you get this lay :)

Thanks for reading Gem!
yup 16 is just legal here lol
I asked her about her past relationships afterwards...although I didn't ask her directly, but it seemed like she's not a virgin.

Franco wrote:
Good stuff, Smith! I'm glad to see this is finally paying out for you. Keep up the good work! =)

Thanks Franco and definitely Chase if he's reading this =) The journey was worth it!

Anatman wrote:
Smith, good shit. You persisted where some men would have given up and you just casually dealt with LMR. Props :)

Thanks man! reading some of your LRs helped a lot too =)

Eternity wrote:
It's for the next girl he fucks and gets shit tested by. I assume he will be gaming other chicks after this one. Smith, if she says this to you again ,say the above fast and barely comprehensible. Because when she bitches about how you told her that you love her, you will have plausible deniability in saying that "No I didn't, you misunderstood what I said". Psy Ops- it will come in handy courtesy of Heartiste.

P.S- Even shy girls have a bad side. despite appearances.

haha I'll keep that mind! That reminds me to pay a visit to Heartiste sometimes.

- Smith
 

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Awesome Smith! Turned down for what!

The conversation at the coffee shop was excellent! The sausage statement injected some good sexuality in the conversation. Who cares about finishing the coffee? Really liked seeing you pick up on her signs of interest throughout the process.

I barely talked to the other girl and I felt bad, but I still kept the conversation on the cute girl. Apparently, she got dumped by her bf (of two months) last week, and told me she's looking for a new bf. A hint maybe?

That's fascinating! I've never heard a girl straight-up telling a guy upon approaching she's looking for a bf. Nick mentioned about setting expectations so she doesn't get hurt, maybe you could of challenged her and placed yourself out of the bf zone.

On the other hand, if she really did want you as a bf right there, I think you would have encountered LMR. Perhaps being inexperienced, she didn't know how to say:
"I wanna hook up with you."

Having sex probably means having a bf to her.

That was an unexpected afternoon.

I'll say! And an insta-lay too! Way to start strong on your cold-approach results!
 
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Hey Barry,

Thanks for reading man!

That's fascinating! I've never heard a girl straight-up telling a guy upon approaching she's looking for a bf. Nick mentioned about setting expectations so she doesn't get hurt, maybe you could of challenged her and placed yourself out of the bf zone.

A lot of shit went down in the last couple of days between me and her lol
She wanted me to commit last week with questions like "so what are we?"
So I decided to try out a relationship, since I've never been in one before.
Then she kept texting me for 4 days, but we couldn't see each other cuz she said she's busy. I got a bit needy towards the end of the week then she suddenly not replying my text on Friday, so I called her on saturday to try to meet up with her. She was being evasive.
Our call got hung up accidentally when I was asking her if she still likes to see me (my phone was crap). so I called again after a few minutes, then a guy (who called himself her bf) picked up the phone. I didn't confront him. I just hung up.
I was pissed lol so I called again a few minutes later and she picked up the phone. I told her what just happened and she was surprised. I wanted answers right there so I asked her : "So do you wanna explain or should I make it easier for you?" she let out an angry sigh and hung up. Now she blocked me on her iphone lol.

I was angry. I tried not to be bitter and cynical. Thoughts like "She's a dirty slut. she must be fucking that other guy last night" came into my mind, but I forced myself to stay clear of this. Re-read Chase's article on not to be bitter - I must seek to understand. Be the warrior. Not the complainer. So I typed a rather calm message to her on fb that "we're not good together"
Then I went out and got a cute girl's number.

She replied the next morning saying this:
"sorry about that. I dun hv bf , that my friend , im not ready to get new bf =( i must did that . I dun know how to say that w you , i go bk thai Nov 2014 maybe i can't go bk here again ! thats why i did that w u .. Sorry =("

I don't know what to make of this....I told her I understand and that she shud have been honest with me (because if I knew this I would have suggested a short, fun relationship).
This surprised me. I'll admit I was a bit needy when we haven't seen each other for 4 days, but damn, I didn't know that could lose her interest that fast. Thought she was in love with me lol
I feel like her going back to Thai could be an excuse, but who knows....
Anyway, I'm still insecure when it comes to relationships, and this taught me a great lesson - I need to get better, and not settle. And keep working on my purpose.
It's funny how the whole thing crashed and burned in two weeks lol
I guess I'll just be the guy that didn't count in her past.
 

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Crazy shit dude. I had the same thing happen to me in May. I laid a girl on the first date like you did and after a couple more dates, she ghosted on me. I tried persisting, but never even got a response. Franco said that if she stops pushing, then she found someone to take your place. Here's the link to my story too: https://boards.girlschase.com/viewtopic.php?t=6724&p=31465.

Your case is a bit different b/c maybe she isn't lying and didn't want to get committed b4 going overseas. You had your own place for good, raunchy sex as well as a connection. Me on the other hand, used the uncomfortable backseat of a sports coupe car - not that hard to find better.

I can't understand the message she sent you, but I get the feeling she's blabbed about it to a more experienced friend on dating and decided to abruptly make a decision. I remember when I used to take my friend's advice on flaking, I can't really explain it to the person I ditched. "I don't want to play soccer anymore....um....because I don't think that much cardio is healthy."

She probably spent all night crafting the perfect response for you. If I interpret the message right, it said "I am going back to Thailand in Nov., that's why I did that with you." That sounds like an experienced girl talking, not one who says I love you after banging on the first date.

I think her friend put her in a guilt trip dude, probably nothing to do with how you are. Cool experience to look back on though!
 

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Crazy shit dude. I had the same thing happen to me in May. I laid a girl on the first date like you did and after a couple more dates, she ghosted on me. I tried persisting, but never even got a response. Franco said that if she stops pushing, then she found someone to take your place. Here's the link to my story too: https://boards.girlschase.com/viewto ... 24&p=31465.

Your girl sounds very similar to mine as well. (in fact, their behaviour was almost the same). And I also read Chase's article on how to start a relationship just like you did haha

I can't understand the message she sent you, but I get the feeling she's blabbed about it to a more experienced friend on dating and decided to abruptly make a decision. I remember when I used to take my friend's advice on flaking, I can't really explain it to the person I ditched. "I don't want to play soccer anymore....um....because I don't think that much cardio is healthy."

Me too. Her english wasn't that good, and I wished I could talk to her in person to try to understand her lol

I think she might have talked to one of her close male friends or girl friends. Most likely the lying bastard who picked up her phone guilt tripped her.

I replied her message saying that: "I understand....if u wanted a short and fun relationship, u could have told me.....That's why I asked u what's your expectation of us. It would be really sad for us to say goodbye on facebook, so come see me if you want so we can say goodbye properly =)"

She's seen the message on Sun, but no reply. Oh well no worries! but it's a bit sad how this ended. The last time I saw her, we were cuddling in bed, taking selfies, and watching a movie after we had sex. It was a good reference experience though. Definitely make me emotionally stronger.
 

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MmmmMmmmm 16 Hahahaha


Awesome story man very well played. I would say she wasn't a virgin, from my own experiences and from the details of your story but we can't know for sure


How old are you, man?
Can you say where you are?



BTW looks like you're being kinda needy with this girl. I would suggest backing off
 

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lol I'm 21.

When I haven't seen her for 4 days, I knew something was wrong because usually she's the one who wanted to come over and she always initiated and replied my texts but suddenly she stopped. So something must have happened in her life that I'm not aware of. I'm already over her. It's just how girls are haha.

My location? not U.S. and U.K. but still a western country lol
 

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A little update....and it really pissed me off even more....

She had two fb - one she doesn't use much and another one she uses more.

I was just randomly browsing through my fb messages and on our message history, I saw her profile pic (the one she uses more) changed and there's a guy in her pic. Feeling outraged. I tried to search her but was blocked.

So I quickly opened a new account and searched her fb.....FUCK THAT BITCH! LIED TO ME AGAIN! HAPPY AS FUCK with another guy! either got back with her ex or a new bf.

Although I can understand where I might have done wrong ..........I can't help but feel bitter about this.......it really got me down.....Literally feeling cheated...I hate her so much.....It's one thing to go back to her ex, but it's another thing to lie to me again!

Honestly she could go back to her ex for all I care, but lying to me again to cover it up REALLY cross the line. [cue the music "Your love is a lie" - Simple Plan]

Sorry about the negativity in this post.

Please tell me what's the right mindset to overcome this. I can still go out and meet new women, but this is starting to make me cynical and I really want to become a lover of women.
 

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you really need to back off here. She's 16, man. She hasn'tgot a clue


Seems to me she had a tiff with her BF and you were a revenge fuck or whatever


Her telling she loves you it's meaningless. Either she's trying to justify fast sex with you or she was testing you a little


Either way just accept it for what it was, hot nsa sex with a cute 16yo, and back off. Get all those negative thoughts out. no more name calling. No more bitch or anything
 

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yea ur right. she has no clue. Thx for putting this back in perspective.

Even though I was pissed, I wasn't planning to do anything with her. I just don't like to be lied to in any relationship, and thats what made me angry. But I'll accept this for what it is. No more negative thoughts. It was just a fling lol
 

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Congrats on crossing a milestone! :)

The after-part....oh boy!

Don't worry about it much. Delete her number. Block her FB on your profile. Go out and number close a few more girls. Get laid a few more times, and this girl will be a history! Keep rocking!
 

Mr.Rob

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Yo Smith just read this and always sick to read the first LR from someone nice job. I've been saying a lot lately as long as you stick to the process the results will come when they come but simply stick to the course and enjoy the process.

I didn't read all your updates from your reply's but one "mindset" I would use in your case is that "The universe/God/whatever divine force you belief doesn't give you what you want but what you need".

I don't know for sure but based on how you were writing it sort of smelled like you might have been falling into scarcity with her in which would explain why she left you for other dude. I'm making an assumption here so correct me if I'm wrong but the reason she probably liked you so much in the first place was because you didn't give a fuck and then you started to care.

The hottest cold approach lay I got I got a bit of oneitis for and she fled at the first hint of neediness and I never saw her again. It hurt but in the end I'm glad it turned out that way. Going through bullshit like that adds depth to your character so look at it as a positive.

Lastly, and this is my goto advice for most situations, don't take any of this too seriously unless your like in a committed LTR for a while otherwise everything is a fucking joke. Find the humor in the situation, laugh at it and yourself.

Fun read Smith, peace!

-Rob
 
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