Signals of nervousness from girls during street game

[Improvementalist]

I was having a day walk at my home city when I noticed this nice looking girl in front of a small shop. Dark brown, long hair and a black leather jacket.

I approached her (which was fairly easy as I was just passing by her), and we made eye contact while the distance was about 10 meters. She kept looking at me, and I immediately noticed her gorgeous eyes. They were of greyish and yellow colour, which I had never seen before. As I was opening my mouth to start a conversation, she managed to pull it first:

- Good day. Here are some coupons for a lottery. Do you mind? You can return it inside the shop.

My friend took one and went already inside. I thought for a split second whether to follow my friend, or initiate a conversation with the girl and put my friend into an awkward situation (He's a bit socially inept and I could imagine him returning to the door soon and ask, "Are you coming?") I decided to follow my friend and initiate a conversation once I would return outside.

When I returned, I started with, "I returned the coupon." I had decided to compliment her eyes, because those were which struck me first.

But as I was going to compliment her, I noticed how strange her behaviour was.

She just replied:

- Okay.

, and kept looking down almost nervously, then up again. 1 sec. down, 1 sec. up 1 sec. down an so forth.

I had the feeling that she didn't enjoy the situation, so I decided to just leave it at it, and continued with my friend.



Did I misinterpret the situation? It could be that she was nervous, but because of my presence in a positive way. When I left, she could have been thinking, "Damn, I messed it up with my nervousness.."

But anyways, I did have these passive or nervous vibes coming from her - exactly the opposite than this other girl, an ice cream seller whom I encountered later on. As I was picking my ice cream and was talking to her, we had quite good chemistry and eventually she even started throwing her hair from one side to another - and we all know what that could mean. She naturally smiled, but that is to be expected from a customer servicer.

Too bad the ice cream girl wasn't my type.

I'm hoping to get some answers for this one..

 

[Smith]

If she was nervous due to whatever reason, just smile and introduce yourself and build some rapport first. Pull back a little and relax yourself first - body language, facial expression, voice. She'll either follow your vibe and engage if she's interested, or trying to exit the conversation if she's not interested.

 

[BarryS1]

What made this stand out is when a hired gun approaches you first. This takes out the opportunity of pre-opening and going with a direct opener.

Ross has a great article about approaching hired guns and suggests using the “Are you single?” line. Here’s the link: https://www.girlschase.com/content/hired-gun-game-5-girls-job-how-approach-them

I’ve had better success with hired guns if they are single from the get-go when they approach me compared to trying to converse with them. I repond to her opener about the product, then say:

You know, the coupons look interesting….what what I really want to know is…are you single?

I know what you mean because hired guns approaching first throws me off. I am thinking, “Okay, I want to hit on her, but I can’t help but comply with what she wants me to do.” It’s really difficult for me to shake off w/e the hired gun says and focus on stating my interest.

I’ve been encountering this problem a lot in retail stores where the hired guns approach you RIGHT when you get in the door. It’s great b/c the hired guns approach immediately, you just need to do the other part

 

[Improvementalist]

If she was nervous due to whatever reason, just smile and introduce yourself and build some rapport first. Pull back a little and relax yourself first - body language, facial expression, voice. She'll either follow your vibe and engage if she's interested, or trying to exit the conversation if she's not interested.

What made this stand out is when a hired gun approaches you first. This takes out the opportunity of pre-opening and going with a direct opener.

Ross has a great article about approaching hired guns and suggests using the “Are you single?” line. Here’s the link: https://www.girlschase.com/content/hired-gun-game-5-girls-job-how-approach-them

I’ve had better success with hired guns if they are single from the get-go when they approach me compared to trying to converse with them. I repond to her opener about the product, then say:

You know, the coupons look interesting….what what I really want to know is…are you single?

I know what you mean because hired guns approaching first throws me off. I am thinking, “Okay, I want to hit on her, but I can’t help but comply with what she wants me to do.” It’s really difficult for me to shake off w/e the hired gun says and focus on stating my interest.

I’ve been encountering this problem a lot in retail stores where the hired guns approach you RIGHT when you get in the door. It’s great b/c the hired guns approach immediately, you just need to do the other part

Thanks to both of you for answering! Sorry it took me a bit long to answer, I'm up to my neck with work.

I also read the article, and all in all I can say this has helped. I've had at least 3 - no, actually 4 occasions in the near past where I've wanted to engage the hired gun, but did not have the tactics to do so. At one of these occasions the hired gun actually asked me to come for a chat if I happen to be around the place in the future (a student ambassador).

Anyways, now I have those tactics.