Silence As an Investment Test

[Smurf]

Wondering if anyone of you guys use this, and if not you should try it.

When I'm in conversation, I'll randomly let it trail off. I use this to see if they'll hold it up themselves and to see where we are in terms of connection. If they don't, I'll try and probe to see if they aren't attracted/interested or if they're just shy. If they do, its usually a good sign I'm on the right track.

Careful with this though as it can seem weird if you happen to trail off when they wanted you to keep talking. Can lead to a lot of a awkward silences but can definitely help with calibration a lot.

Let me know what you guys think!

Jake.

 

[Mike&Ikes]

Sounds like a good, interesting tactic to use. When do you apply this throughout the conversation though? Do you use it a few minutes into a conversation or after you’ve talked to them for a while? I’ll definitely try this because it seems to reflect the balance of investment between two people in an interaction, which of course is always good to gauge.

-Mike

 

[sokiahlee]

I think it should be done after the hook point
or else, it will be awkward if the girl has low interest level on you
cause ive girls staring at me say, ''so..?''
that shop girl was just polite staying there cause it was her working

another interesting point was a girl was asking me what do i think about our date tonight
which was extreme good sign
but i didn't close her cause bad logistics i was on the way fetching her go back hostel