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[SIL_Alex]

Hey there Champions,

In this marvellous world, as many of you, I am on the path of enjoying and learning to connect deeply with women on various levels (physically, emotionally, verbally, mentally etc.) by continuous practise, improvement and reflection.

I have set myself not too few and not too many goals in different areas of my life. From fixed numbers, habits etc, and I am quite curious about enjoying that path and how it goes. I will share some of these habits/ what I think is especially valuable etc. when I notice improvements/ insights and more time passed for the seeds to have an effect.

Feedback is always welcomed; feel free to write what's in your mind.

Many thanks to all the helping hands in keeping this site active to help lots of people on their journeys, my special appreciation is given for the Field Report and the Journals section.

I wish to also motivate you fellow mates to also grow, practise, have fun and enjoy your journey in this life.


Cheers
Alex


Additional notes when I upload
I have set myself a specific goal to upload journals here which will help me to improve reflecting more. Besides this goal the basis is to at least upload one report per week, and; if I upload sth just on the next Monday or Tuesday I consider it fine if the weekend is too full so I am able to reflect it better and create sth better.

 

[SIL_Alex]

NG

Mindset ***
Goals ***
Focus ***

General Notes
Tonight I have set so many mindsets, goals and things to focus that I even blanked them out here lol…

Night began well, I opened and the first set was a good warm up and she asked me lots of questions, it turned out she has a boyfriend and we still kept chatting a bit. Guess I opened 5, were in 7. Thinking back the time in the convos was quite short: Times were around 14m; 0.5m; 2m; 1m; 2m; 2m; 0,5m;
On the one hand I was totally overwhelmed with all the Goals and stuff I have set to myself. This was too much.
Then we were 4 Wings who don’t know each other that well. This led to some to 2 wanting to change area and I was in between.. we stayed..
Then one wanted to eat, we all went somewhere and it took lots of time, guess I went less then 3 times eating in between this year. It drained me somehow more, probably an excuse. Afterwards we did not really get/ find somewhere where many sets were which was of course not that good too.

What was good
-Good Vibes at the beginning
-Meeting a new Wing and getting a different/ similar view on game
-Getting to know 2 new bars

What to do better
-Less Expectations and less goals
-Open more sets
-Have more fun and be more relaxed
-Not leaving for eating in the middle. and if, only if there is sth fast really close: not a crowded place which takes long (an order took especially long zzz)

Insights (if I can write 2 only)
-Having too many goals can be exhausting and gets one in his head
-Fokus on being active and avoid going eating, especially to a place which takes a long time to eat and come back

Additional notes
This journey starts with a less good report that I expected. However thats how it is. I'll focus more to the basics and raise the goals continuously.

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

NG

Mindset
Enjoy, its fun

Goals and Focus, Its important to practise the basics first
-Speak the first 1 min so loud that I do not have to repeat myself
-I want to open 6 sets
-Introduce myself at the beginning or within 2 minutes

General Notes
I pushed a wing harder usually as he was not going out recently. Maybe I took it as an excuse to not open myself.
Sets: I opened 4 and was in 7.
I introduced myself 4 times (so others nobody asked). Times were around 2m; 4m; 0.5m; 10m; 2m; 2m; 4m
Did not see that Wing for some time, so I spoke a lot to him.
1 real SOI from my side. Others only nonverbally, thats Why I definitely want to practise this and improve here.
I do pushs by asking kind of demanding questions, maybe they are a bit uncalibrated, and it would be better to combine them with a pull.
I asked girl about opinion what was missing, I heard that these tips must be taken with special care: so translated I would say she missed that I listened to her and spoke with myself. I felt like there was not too much interest from her so there was not that much to listen to, however, maybe as written in this report some pull(s) was missing from me.
Also the first set I opened did not really get what I want from her -> show more interest.

What was good
-Set myself fewer goals, the basics are key
-Better vibes then the previous day
-Probably more introductions then yesterday
-Less pressure then yesterday

What to do better
-speak louder, speak slower
-open more sets
-listen more actively
-stay longer, Wing wanted to leave, I left with him. There were other Wings nearby, I could have found them and stayed longer, or stay longer alone.
-If a girl looks at me, I want to open immediately. I did miss some of these chances.

Insights (if I can only write 2)
-Practise the basics first and don’t set too many goals will help
-Only bringing pushes without pulls is less good, its key to bring both

Additional Notes
Im on NoFap since 17.05.22 00.30am, I am mentioning this here actively to keep myself more on track. (Before that around 6 days, before that around 4 days, before that some months of no control)
Of course I have stronger urges than before however it had been less than I expected from what people said on youtube videos.
I am curious and a bit afraid of the flatlines. Looking forward to the journey and I definitely want to continue NoFap for some time (guess my record is around 3 weeks, time to surpass it and keep going much longer. (Sometimes I noticed it helps to keep goals as a secret so this is what I do here. I’ve set this goal to save my energy & focus for lots of other things, experience this NoFap journey, and see what other benefits are true on me as there as so many stated in the internet: e.g. increased self esteem, more attention from women, better sports, better health, feeling better etc.). I am noticing a bit more attention from women looking at me than previously, which is quite nice as I am not used to that.

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

NG

Mindset
Enjoy, its fun
She likes me and wants me

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
-Open at least 8 sets and introduce myself at the beginning or within 2 minutes
-(might be well to have added the same goals from last session too)

General notes
Today the plans changed spontaneously. I thought of going to a place alone (alone for the first time since a long time). Then a Wing (I didn’t met before) wrote and I went for NG with him which made me rush a bit.
He was a man who has quite strong alpha vibes, however he did not open neither joined me in sets (only one time after I already was leaving) I tried pushing him and he was fine saying that he opens when he really likes girls, and it seems to me that he has quite some experience, however might been caught up a bit too much in red pill theories.
I notice that I am quite dependent on my wings, and I want to allow myself to be able to game alone and be more independent. Therefore I could say that this actually was a good start practise.

We went to a place with more dancing sets and I am not too used to that. So I notice I was more focused on talking instead of dancing with girls. Most Sets were too short, often I did not transition and did not initiate dances, so I can improve this. Some girls who were initially more interested kind of lost interest, maybe because of not bringing more Interest/ Energy/ not Dancing/ no SOI /no Push Pull.
I opened 8 sets and I introduced myself 6 times (so others nobody asked). 0.5m; 2m; 2m; 1m; 1m; 1m; 3m; 1m; 4m.

What was good
-Kept opening myself through my Wing did not open and reached those eight sets
-I wrote the report a few hours after the night
-I am more aware of myself with the report and reflecting more


What to do better
-Push pull as mentioned previously: I think I only said one SOI. -> more of them, practise to get comfortable with that, its crazy to remember how different I was
-When on the dance floor. Turn the girl and dance with her or after introducing myself ask to dance and offer my hand or sth like that
-Write down goal actively before, it was more vague and in my mind today
-Speak louder
-Again more looks then I am used to and I did not open all or opened later
-After the last set I decided to leave and did not open more thought I still stayed for over 1h. this time was fully unused, and of course painful to see others approaching sets I did not open and were there.
-Therefore keep going, also during the night it was too little
-We went too long on breaks to buy water outside 3 times for my wing lol. I simply got to know where my limit is and live it (he had no problem that I go back in however I just did that after too long)

Insights (if I can only write 2)
-I need to have more intention, to actually want to know her/ dance with her etc, instead of thinking I do one more set
-Speak louder and closer to her ear


Additional Notes
After my last set we were outside looking at guys approaching girls. There were 2 girls, after a short time some guys came and less then 1 minute after they left further guys came where there was one who did good. That was just… to keep watching, judging, etc. and just wasting time. I noticed my jealousy feelings and negative thought.
What is the better option: I read once from a book: Respect the hustle. Instead of being jealous be respectful that the better guy continued with game through it is quite some hustle to keep going with it. And instead of looking become active myself and talk to other people.

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

NG

Mindset
Enjoy, its fun
She likes me and wants me

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
-Speak the first 3 sentences so loud that I do not have to repeat myself
-Sets number goal 8
-Introduce myself at the beginning or within 2 minutes
-Say at least 5 Push Pulls though the night. Bring them within the first 3 minutes
-Open with more interest in getting to know the girl and enjoy that phase.

General Notes
Today I was at another city I haven’t been out to before. A wing was coming to the mine sometimes so I joined him there and I think we have much in common which is cool. It was also nice to meet his Wings who have different Vibes, they also had a good connection to the bouncers which is nice.
The crowd is dressed better than what I am used to. Also the venues (we went to two) are cooler than what I am used, maybe its just the first impression. Of course the gras is always greener on the other side.
I opened 7 sets and was in 11 sets. ~ times 4m; 3m; 3m; 2m; 2m; 2m; 3m; 2m; 0m; 3m.
Conversations were not flirty. I did not bring many pulls, maybe introduced myself at half of the sets.

What was good
-I did open 7 sets through being at new places
-I wrote down the goals before and thought about them
-Enjoying the presence of Wings and gaming with them
-Widening horizon going somewhere else

What to do better
-Be more flirty, show my intentions
-Stay in Set, I ejected now and then while it was still ok
-Speak louder, I still often have to repeat myself
-Become more comfortable dancing
-Follow the 3 second rule

Insights (if I can only write 2)
-Dancing is key, I got to improve myself here.
-Follow the 3 second rule is really important to have more authentic approaches and not get in your head

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

NG

Mindset
Enjoy its fun
She likes me and wants me

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
Open at least 2 sets before the venue
Open 10 sets in the venue, always give compliments in the first 2 minutes
Stay in Set

General Notes
I met a wing to eat first one venue turned out too empty to warm up before getting to the first place. On the street we did not do anything there.
I opened 10 sets and I introduced myself 6 or 7 times (so others nobody asked). ~ times, 1m; 1m; 2m; 0m; 0.5m; 2m; 0m; 3m; 1m; 6m. I think I winged in 2 or so.
On the last set I had way more kino coming quite close and flirted more. Here her heavy friend cockblocked as I was getting closer and pulled them away. On my reapproach later she cockblocked hard again. Quite sad to see her kind of desperate looks for not being approached much and she did not wanted to stay alone. I was aware that my wing did not stay a lot talking to her at the beginning, and I also talked to her, though it is clear that it was not enough. I also noticed that I was a bit too fast getting closer, as the hb was a bit tense, still it was fine and she clearly liked it, that means more calibration with a bit of distance etc.

What was good
-opening 10 sets
-I wrote this report the next day
-I enjoyed the night and vibes with my wing more tonight
-I caught myself at looking at other guys, and its good I am more aware of that

What to do better
-my dance can have a big improvement, not sure when, however it have to improve at least a bit
-Talk louder, and closer to her ear
-open more sets
-being more seduced
-not wait for approval of Wings
-3 Second rule
-Its simply key to approach before getting to the venue, do that

Insights (if I can only write 2)
-I want to allow myself to be and feel more seduced, for all girls
-Follow the 3 second rule is key to have more authentic approaches and not get in my head

Cheers
Alex


Additional Notes:
I notice again and again this less good pattern: Sometimes I walk nearby to girls and ask my wing whether they are good when I have AA to go there directly. This simply gets me in my head, regret and is totally unnecessary. I think I have been improving this however I am still catching myself doing that. So I want to improve this in the future. If I like her I want to directly open. and as I am still practising the basics it makes sense to always open even though she is not my total type to practise get in the flow and enjoy (it makes sense to wait for good moments when being better, however I think that directly approaching is the better way to go for me at the current stage).

 

[SIL_Alex]

NG

Mindset
Enjoy its fun
She likes me and wants me

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
-Feel totally seduced, spread love
-Open 2 sets before meeting my Wing
-Open 2 sets with Wing before the first venue
-Open 10 sets in the venue
-Give 2 SOIs within the first 3 minutes in 6 sets

General Notes
Today I got into my head, and only talked a bit, when winging, which means I did not open myself. I noticed that I was not interested in the girls I talked to, this is a mindset shift I can clearly improve.

What was good
-At least some conversations, even through wings opened
-chatting with Wings

What to do better
-approach more
-approach at the beginning of the night
-really be interested, wanting to know about her life

Insights (if I can only write 2)
-Set low expectations for beginning of a night, just for fun
-Just open quickly at the beginning

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

NG

Mindset
Enjoy its fun
She likes me and wants me

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
-Feel totally seduced, spread love
-Open 10 sets in the venue
-Give 2 SOIs within the first 3 minutes in 6 sets

General Notes
-Arrived at place I haven’t been to which was really empty. The music was way too loud. Talked for some time with wing to wait for more people to come. Then the place was still too empty which causes that everybody sees approaches which brings more social pressure, I only saw one other approach.
I guess I opened. 3 sets (seemed more somehow), however all were really short. Also opened a guy which was short too, guess this is the thing to go in such situations to get more comftable when there are not many options.

What was good
-still enjoyed the night talking with wing etc.
-after I made the decision to open it did not take me that long to approach
-Writing the report the day after

What to do better
-Open more girls ( I dont feel too bad about it as there were rly not many choices today, still)
-Talk to other guys
-Enjoy dancing more
-instead of the mindset „waiting for girs to come“ switch to: „open the girls who are there, talk with guys, and wing and enjoy the time“

Insights (if I can only write 2)
-Do Sets immediately no need to delay, see additional notes
-Talk to guys and make a fun night out of it

Cheers
Alex

Additional Notes
Reflecting I catched myself various beginnings of nights with some excuses like: „Don’t open now, as later girls will have a higher buying temperature.“ and „If I open later I can open more consecutively and get better in the flow.“
This leads to getting in my head, and it is also not really helpful, as the opportunity window often does not come later again.
Therefore the way to got is to open first, and later I can always reapproach. Furthermore I can learn to get in the flow with guys if there are really no girls around etc. (not opening mixed sets yet, that would also expand the possibilities).

 

[SIL_Alex]

NG

Mindset
Enjoy its fun
She likes me and wants me

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
-Feel totally seduced, spread love
-Ask for the way before meeting Wing 2 times
-Open 10 sets in the venue
-Give 2 SOIs within the first 3 minutes in 6 sets

General Notes
Approached girls more outside today, I opened 8 sets. Only about two direct statements of intent in conversations.. Good vibes and energy with my wing. Two sets were around 10/15 min. At the end we stayed in one set for one hour, however it was way too friendly for both of us, so it would have been better to risk more, on the other hand there were nice vibes and it was funny. I think I can also bring in much more emotions this and all sets.

What was good
-approached on a metro station were many people were
-writing most of this report at the same night before sleeping
-learning more about myself, getting to know that I am still avoiding showing interest, probably to get less hurt, this however is a point to detach and improve

What to do better
-bring more energy, and bring more fun
-think more about myself and say what I want
-I vibed well with one set, which was quite fun
-really imagine, that we can have a better connection when approaching
-approach more

Insights if I can only write two
-Approach more
-have a winner mentality still catching myself that I’m not believing in myself too much

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

NG

Mindset
Enjoy its fun
She likes me and wants me

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
-Feel totally seduced, spread love
-Give 2 SOIs within the first 3 minutes in 6 sets

General Notes
At night I was tired as hell, and somehow I had no voice and it costed me lots of energy to talk, so at the end I did not do much.
I opened four sets, three really short one about six min. I was in a big set a wing opened for quite some time however didn’t say too much there and winged in another few minutes one.

What was good
-Doing something being really tired
-A Wing joined I did not know who turned out to do quite well, it was nice to see him

What to do better
-Get sleep and take care of my voice.
-open more
-Change Mindset more to a Value give Mindset

Insights (if I can only write 2)
-have confidence that I actually bring value (see additional notes)
-I need to be at least somewhat well rested

Additional Notes
I am coming too much from the perspective of actually wanting something.
-> Instead I want to come from the perspective that I bring value:
There are lots of things I give (or at least I want to allow myself to give)
I give authentic interest, Attention, great positive Energy and Vibes, fun, push pulls, spread love etc.

I think its key to be confident that I actually give these things and much more, and especially to the 30-60% receptive ones, xx% like me xx% that are on, xx% were game made it possible to create a good connection. (The others I should just filter out if they did not and don’t take it personally, thats just how it is.). I guess that this mindset has a big difference, so at the end the question is how to incorporate it.

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

DG

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
Give 4-6 compliments

General notes
A wing canceled, so I set myself this goal of compliments only, because I haven’t been doing dg recently.
A girl asked me for the way and I complimented her. Afterwards I complimented 5 more girls, however often not with a real soi. It took quite some time and quite some walking, still of course good in the end. Looking forward to more.

What was good
-I could give SOIs by myself
-new field can create new excuses

What to do better
-Some girls I had the intention to go and did not. I want to go there anyway. So approach more and faster
-open conversations

Insights if I can only write two
-I think its useful to start with this kind of smaller goals
-At the end a huge factor is habit and keep going

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

NG

Mindset
Enjoy its fun
She likes me and wants me

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
-Feel totally seduced, spread love
-Open 10 sets tonight
-Give 2 SOIs within the first 3 minutes in 4 sets

General Notes
I started socializing with some guys drinking beers.
Usually I drink very little so today it was a bit more.
Later wings came and we started opening more sets and moving to different places. I did not really know how many sets I opened, probably around eight and winged in around five.
I think it’s time to do the opening number goal more in the background, cause it makes me leave sets maybe with the excuse that it’s not going that well.
Instead I will focus more on staying in set, and moving things forward soi/pushpulls/kino. Of course it’s comftable to just leave but then nothing will happen.

What was good
-I had good vibes and energy
-therefore I opened more energetic
-I was happy to have my voice back

What to do better
-drink less alcohol/ same in more time
-stay in set and move things forward until They leave or I get a clear signals we don’t fit

Insights if I can only write two
-opening a bit during the day pushes to do more at night
-moving things forward is key

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

DG

Mindset
Didn’t wrote

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
Didn’t wrote

General Notes
Haven’t been doing daygame for some weeks besides yesterday. I will add some energy and time and improve there.
I met a wing and fortunately he pushed me, which was rly helpful.
There was a good set almost at the beginning. The excuse to not go on an instant date was that I met that wing for the first time and don’t wanna leave him that quickly, of course just an excuse and he turns out to do quite well so it does not matter at all.
I opened 10 girls, from them 2 indirect, however I did not stop too many. Often the intention was missing a bit. I really want to improve my intention to get to know her.

What was good
-I opened 10 girls
-also opened without being pushed/ being alone when we didn’t find each other

What to do better
-more intention
-really believe that we can meet, and get to know each other and have a good connection
-Open stronger

Insights if I can only write 2
-believing in myself is key
-wings are great

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

NG

Mindset
-Enjoy its fun
-She likes me and wants me

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
-Feel totally seduced, spread love, and being interested in getting to know her.
-3 second rule
-move things forward in set until there are clear signals

General Notes
Tonight it was rainy first which means that more girls might cancel or come later. Today sober again and it was kind of the usual stuff. The times from the sets I opened were.
I don’t do much at the dancefloor, which is also sth I want to improve, here I get many excuses, some are ridiculous: in some places it’s too full in some places it’s too empty lol.

What was good
-opened about 10 girls
-I was sober. Gaming sober is I think the more challenging practise, I guess a mix is good at the end

What to do better
-when the music is too loud it, I want to just dance with her talking is a dead end
-show more interest, of course If honest even better

Insights if I can only write two
-got to learn to dance a bit and more importantly to open dancing to get that practise
-showing my intention, it should be really obvious. She knows anyway.

Additional Notes
So I think the mindset to focus on moving things forward is good, I didn’t thought about it that much.
I think this is one of the main sticking points:
I want to show full interest. Even if for nightgame I might want to do it more subtil maybe for the open after that I want to make it fully obvious.
I think I am not doing that because I don’t want the pain of being rejected when showing that interest.
Rejection is a part of the game and I want to learn to handle it, and handle going in a set showing full intentions. Now even more directly for practise, probably in the future more subtil and calibrated.

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

DG

Mindset
-I’m a cool guy and spread some good energy
-I Feel really seduced

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
-First stop. Than an SOI, 6-8 openers
-Stay in set until she says goodbye, if it’s awkward still enjoy it lol. And keep talking
-show my interest, and be interested in getting to know her as a person

General notes
Met with two wings and we chatted some time. I approached two one sets who kept going. Then one instadate and we hanged up maybe one hour. I first said let's walk a bit and than 10 minutes later: let's sit down there. It was not the best place however ok. All in all we have some things in common which was nice to talk about. I tried too little being man to women, here I want to improve again. She had an appointment later and I accompanied her a bit.

What was good
-Having this instadate and connecting well
-Enjoying the time with her

What to do better
-Listen better, sometimes I catch myself thinking
-Be more sexual and risk more
-Approach more at the beginning, best would be to warm up before meeting my wings

Insights if I can only write two
-at the end its a numbers came and you never cant really see the future
-Being interested and being able to imagine it is key

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

DG

Mindset
-I simply enjoy talking and spreading good vibes
-I Feel really seduced and I am interested in getting to know her.

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
-First stop strongly. Than an SOI, 7-10 openers
-Stay in set until she says goodbye, if it’s awkward still stay and make it nice again lol. Simply keep talking
-show my interest, and be interested in getting to know her as a person

General Notes
Took me around half an hour to go to the first set. This of course leads to negative vibes. I opened seven sets, however often half heartedly and mostly really short. In between a wing arrived which definitely helped.

What was good
-Went out to dg
-New reference experiences.

What to do better
-When I’m alone, Set myself a time, if I don’t do sth at that Time, make two indirect questions or sth like that
-bringing positive vibes and energy

Insights (if I can write 2 only)
-challenge is to create interest for girls I am not that interested in.
-start approaching fast is always key

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

DG

Mindset
-I simply enjoy talking and spreading good vibes
-I Feel really seduced and I am interested in getting to know her.

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
-First stop strongly. Than an SOI, 7-10 openers
-Stay in set until she says goodbye, if it’s awkward still stay and make it nice again lol. Simply keep talking
-show my interest, and be interested in getting to know her as a person

General Notes
Almost didn’t opened a girl before I met my wing. Then with him it is easier, so I opened ten girls Girls. And from them two set of two, I want to open more of sets of two in the future to widen my comfort zone.
The last girl was an instadate of about half an hour, thinking back it felt much longer interesting it was just that half an hour. We talked a bit first and walked a bit around. It was nice to practice vibing, as I’m writing the last times I need more attraction, more SOIs more push pulls etc. Still I brought out one and the other and that was fine.

What was good
-better state and approached the first sets with relatively short time in between, shorter than I am used to
-opened after wing left for an instantdate
-having an instadate and enjoying the connection with her

What to do better
-more SOIs and push pulls
-more positive vibes
-instead of walking around, if the vibe is good, I want to suggest to drink sth together.
-opening more

Insights if I can only write two
-the faster I approach the better
-tourists are more open to walk around the city

Additional notes
I talked afterwards with my wing and we did some reflection. His feedback is for me to be more badass/ Alpha like. Like instead of being more shy, and being fine with being more the centre of attention, talking loud, and withstanding more social pressure.

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

NG

Mindset
-Didnt wrote

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
-Didn’t wrote

General Notes
The evening began strange, and I kind of allowed it to take over my brain in the night. Well our sets were too short, and the city was kind of empty somehow. I opened maybe 5 sets however without believing it will lead somewhere, this definitely got to change.

What was good
-doing some approaches
-Vibing with my friend

What to do better
-more Energy and expression
-3 second rule, go directly
-on thursdays I want to make sure I get some extra sleep especially if there is sleep to recover.

Insights (if I can write 2 only)
-think its normal to approach so am I
-write down goals in advantage

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

DG

Mindset
-enjoy the path
-I feel seduced and want to get to know more about her
Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
-First stop. Than an SOI, further 6-8 openers
-Stay in set until she says goodbye, if it’s awkward still enjoy it. And keep talking
-show my interest, and I am interested in getting to know her as a person

General Notes
Directly to the point. I did not open, just walked around.

What was good
-to walk around alone
-accepting it at some point

What to do better
-open girls
-make a smaller deal out of it

Insights (if I can write 2 only)
-well opening is the absolute basis
-It’s important to be able to open alone

Cheers
Alex

 

[SIL_Alex]

NG

Mindset
-Enjoy the process, its fun
-I feel seduced and want to get to know more about her

Goals, Its important to practise the basics first
-follow 3 sec rule as good as possible having fun
-Stay in set until she says goodbye, if it’s awkward still enjoy it lol. And keep talking
-show my interest, and be interested in getting to know her as a person

General Notes
Quite similar to the last nightgame. Some sets, almost only short interactions. Did not really hook, maybe should try some venues with more sets.

What was good
-opened various girls
-was well rested lol

What to do better
-bring more intent
-approach more
-approach quicker

Insights (if I can write 2 only)
-really approach with the intention that I want her
-she immediately notices if I am not serious about it

Additional Notes
I’m still in the same nofap phase. This might be all psychological, however I notice that my libido is not too high. I think and hope I’m finally getting to the last stage of the flatline. This seems kind of realistic observing the time. Looking forward to the recovering and next phases.

Cheers
Alex