Bboy100 said:
I actually disagree with the whole "silly and cute" thing. It dehumanizes women. Sure, it helps men to become more dominant, lesson nerves and helps to create assertiveness/confidence around women. But on the other hand, its also a mindset which promotes ignoring or taking her wants/needs to be irrelevant. In fact, if you subscribe to this mindset, that would almost be like saying its ok to ignore what women say and do altogether. cause its all "silly and cute". None of it needs to be taken seriously. Almost like how we might view a child. A child will say and do a bunch of stuff, and we'll say "aww, isn't he cute!". But we won't actually take any of his actions seriously. This is basically trying to take the same mindset and apply it to a grown-ass adult human. Not only is it offensive to women, but its just not good form.
I think some of you gentleman are kinda missing the point. The "silly and cute" idea is meant more to talk about a woman's thoughts and actions. It's not a reflection of who they are as people. They can certainly still be beautiful, feminine and intelligent.
But by seeing girls as silly and cute,
it makes it easier for a lot of guys to take women off the pedestals they put them on. And no emotionally healthy person wants to be put on a pedestal. Some guys see hot women as infallible, and if they maintain this mindset, they're setting themselves up for failure, and they will leave these women extremely disappointed.
The other portion of this actually involves having a deeper understanding of women. As you gain more experience and knowledge, you realise more and more that
chicks rarely say what they mean. This is what is "silly and cute" about it. By sometimes ignoring what she says and acknowledging what she actually means, you're making your woman much happier because she'll feel like you truly understand her.
Here's a couple examples:
-ask any chick what her ideal guy is. Then see how close she gets to her "ideal" guy when she's in a relationship. I'm willing to bet it's not the "nice guy" she assures you she wants.
-If you've ever been in a relationship, you've more than likely encountered a situation where your girl is pissed about something that seems utterly trivial. A guy that doesn't think a women's emotions can be silly and cute will likely engage her in a fight. Nothing gets resolved. And in the long run the relationship will suffer and possibly end if the guy is never getting to the root of the problem.
Now, compare that to the guy who realises something else is going on. He knows to ignore her initial remark and proceeds to get to the heart of the problem.
He's not ignoring her altogether. He's reading between the lines, so to speak, to determine what's actually bothering her.
In most of the arguments I've had, 90% of the time, it ended up having nothing to do with me. It's extremely rare that my arguments get heated cause I get to the core problem fairly quickly. And every time this happens, my girl was happy that I helped her realise what was actually troubling her. Most girls I've dated admit that they know they sometimes act in a manner that seems contradictory.
They know they act this way and expect you to pull them back to sanity with your logic. Guys are more logical and women are more emotional.
And all of it is very silly and very cute.
-John
